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    I know everyone posts about being lonely at university.
    I came to university for my first year in September and I was crying the first night, even though I had my boyfriend staying with me. Watching my parents and boyfriend drive away from me on the second day was heartbreaking.
    Since being at university I have depression and anxiety.
    I don't really have any friends at university, I have 2 people who I talk to and am moving in with next year. I talk to people on my course but not outside of lessons because i don't click with them and some of them knew each other from college. I don't get on with my flatmates, they have changed a few times over the year as well and I've never been friends with any of them which makes me lonely in the flat.
    I go to university 5 hours away meaning I can't go home very often.
    I got back to university yesterday after spending just over 2 weeks at home for the Easter holidays, so now I am really homesick and just want to go home.
    I miss little things like eating dinner with my parents as at uni I just eat by myself in my room.
    I feel so lonely and I'm even crying typing this, I hate it!
    I go swimming 3 times a week which makes me feel better, sometimes I go with 1 of my friends but most of the time I go by myself.
    I got to a baking society once a week and sometimes I talk to people there but I'm not friends with any of them.

    I just feel so lonely and I hate it, all the way through the year I have debated dropping out but I really want my degree I just don't think I can survive being this far away from home.
    I don't know what to do
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    What uni do you go to? Maybe try finding people on facebook who also go to your uni and ask about meetin up just because there isn't people on your course doesn't mean there is no one for you to click with. You will find friends dont worry
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    I know saying you'll get over it after your first year doesn't really help but you seem quite family orientated which is why it may be even more difficult being so far away from them. There was times I was lonely at uni but things like eating alone didn't bother me because I never ate with my family when I was at home anyway. The work gets tougher in 2nd and 3rd year so you'll be so focused on studying that you won't feel as lonely because you'll always be revising/doing an assignment. Trust me not everybody at uni has loads of friends, I had about 3 good ones lol. It's really good you've got 2 people to live with and that you talk to them. And it's good you go swimming and to baking society. Maybe try and join a few more societies so you can meet like minded people? And maybe try talking to people you haven't had the chance to speak to yet on your course, you may click with them. On weekends maybe ask a friend from home or your bf to come visit so you have something to look forward to during the week? Also if you don't care too much about socialising and making friends just get into a really good series and buy several snacks to eat - that's fun haha.

    I hope this has helped a tiny bit at least.
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    (Original post by nataliegrice)
    What uni do you go to? Maybe try finding people on facebook who also go to your uni and ask about meetin up just because there isn't people on your course doesn't mean there is no one for you to click with. You will find friends dont worry
    Hertfordshire uni, I think everyone kinda has friends now considering first year ends in around a month and a bit
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    (Original post by aarora)
    I know saying you'll get over it after your first year doesn't really help but you seem quite family orientated which is why it may be even more difficult being so far away from them. There was times I was lonely at uni but things like eating alone didn't bother me because I never ate with my family when I was at home anyway. The work gets tougher in 2nd and 3rd year so you'll be so focused on studying that you won't feel as lonely because you'll always be revising/doing an assignment. Trust me not everybody at uni has loads of friends, I had about 3 good ones lol. It's really good you've got 2 people to live with and that you talk to them. And it's good you go swimming and to baking society. Maybe try and join a few more societies so you can meet like minded people? And maybe try talking to people you haven't had the chance to speak to yet on your course, you may click with them. On weekends maybe ask a friend from home or your bf to come visit so you have something to look forward to during the week? Also if you don't care too much about socialising and making friends just get into a really good series and buy several snacks to eat - that's fun haha.

    I hope this has helped a tiny bit at least.
    I feel up and down at uni like a few weeks before I went home for Easter I was okay with eating alone it's just because I have been at home for the past few weeks and now I'm by myself again and I hate it.
    I find it hard to do my work i have now let alone 2nd and 3rd year, I have dyslexia and dyspraxia so my depression and anxiety doesnt really help
    Theres only around 25 of us on our course so we have all spoken and we all speak in lectures just not outside of them.
    I dont really have any friends at home any more as I used to have a big social group all through secondary school and 6th form but I fell out with 1 of them and now they pretty much all hate me.
    I would love my boyfriend to come and see me more but it's expensive on the train and I would just miss him so much when he left
    That's the thing, I do care about socialising as I get so lonely
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    (Original post by luceyajkeast)
    I feel up and down at uni like a few weeks before I went home for Easter I was okay with eating alone it's just because I have been at home for the past few weeks and now I'm by myself again and I hate it.
    I find it hard to do my work i have now let alone 2nd and 3rd year, I have dyslexia and dyspraxia so my depression and anxiety doesnt really help
    Theres only around 25 of us on our course so we have all spoken and we all speak in lectures just not outside of them.
    I dont really have any friends at home any more as I used to have a big social group all through secondary school and 6th form but I fell out with 1 of them and now they pretty much all hate me.
    I would love my boyfriend to come and see me more but it's expensive on the train and I would just miss him so much when he left
    That's the thing, I do care about socialising as I get so lonely
    I just saw you mentioned that you go to Herts, I went there too I lived out all three years and noticed that there's a lot of groups in the uni, I found it quite hard to make friends. But then again I didn't join societies etc. I think you should look into them because some organise day trips etc so it may be worth joining more. And I think they have a few sports clubs - join active students because they hold table tennis and badminton sessions it's a great way to meet people. I actually made some friends just by going to the LRC because it's open 24 hours so sometimes people just randomly talk to you especially if you're a familiar face. Also have you considered getting a part time job in the galleria, it's mainly students who work in the shops and cinema so you'd meet people through that too.
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    (Original post by aarora)
    I just saw you mentioned that you go to Herts, I went there too I lived out all three years and noticed that there's a lot of groups in the uni, I found it quite hard to make friends. But then again I didn't join societies etc. I think you should look into them because some organise day trips etc so it may be worth joining more. And I think they have a few sports clubs - join active students because they hold table tennis and badminton sessions it's a great way to meet people. I actually made some friends just by going to the LRC because it's open 24 hours so sometimes people just randomly talk to you especially if you're a familiar face. Also have you considered getting a part time job in the galleria, it's mainly students who work in the shops and cinema so you'd meet people through that too.
    What did you do to make friends?
    I've looked at the societies but most of them aren't my kind of thing as lots of them are about religion and stuff. I wanted to join the ice skating society but they go skating when I have lectures.
    I go to zumba with active students but I haven't made any friends there unfortunetly
    I dont really go to the LRC as I dont find it a nice place to work and I wouldnt be able to go there by myself, I have dyslexia and dyspraxia so I find it hard to do work anyway and my mental health makes it worse.
    I would get a job as the extra money would be great but I dont think i really have time unfortunetly
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    (Original post by luceyajkeast)
    What did you do to make friends?
    I've looked at the societies but most of them aren't my kind of thing as lots of them are about religion and stuff. I wanted to join the ice skating society but they go skating when I have lectures.
    I go to zumba with active students but I haven't made any friends there unfortunetly
    I dont really go to the LRC as I dont find it a nice place to work and I wouldnt be able to go there by myself, I have dyslexia and dyspraxia so I find it hard to do work anyway and my mental health makes it worse.
    I would get a job as the extra money would be great but I dont think i really have time unfortunetly
    Yeah it can be quite hard to work and study at the same time.

    When I went I didn't know anybody but luckily I had really nice flat mates. I lived in de hav first year. Most of my good friends were my flat mates tbh - most of us got along really well. I didn't really talk to anybody on my course and there was loads of people who study law.
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    (Original post by aarora)
    Yeah it can be quite hard to work and study at the same time.

    When I went I didn't know anybody but luckily I had really nice flat mates. I lived in de hav first year. Most of my good friends were my flat mates tbh - most of us got along really well. I didn't really talk to anybody on my course and there was loads of people who study law.
    Yeah it can. My flatmates have never really liked me, the guy next to me is horrible and because the people have changed the whole year appart from us 2 its hard to make friends with them.
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    Is it too late to make course friends in third year, the only person I was friends with is going on a year abroad so I'm kinda screwed and feel like it'll be impossible to intergrate myself with anyone else.
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    Hey,

    Just wondering how you have coped with this as I'm currently experiencing the same thing really badly. I have no one in my halls that I'm friends with and just spend all day in my room or in lectures and it's making me want to drop out. I find it extremely hard as I have no friends back home to confide in and don't want to worry my mum and my boyfriend feels pressured if I unload everything on him. I feel like everyone is having an amazing time except me, especially seeing it through snapchat and social media. I have joined a society and have friends there but they also have their own friends so we don't do that much stuff together and I just feel like I don't belong or fit in anywhere.
    If you have any advice I'd really appreciate it
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    (Original post by EmilyKF)
    Hey,

    Just wondering how you have coped with this as I'm currently experiencing the same thing really badly. I have no one in my halls that I'm friends with and just spend all day in my room or in lectures and it's making me want to drop out. I find it extremely hard as I have no friends back home to confide in and don't want to worry my mum and my boyfriend feels pressured if I unload everything on him. I feel like everyone is having an amazing time except me, especially seeing it through snapchat and social media. I have joined a society and have friends there but they also have their own friends so we don't do that much stuff together and I just feel like I don't belong or fit in anywhere.
    If you have any advice I'd really appreciate it
    Wouldn't pay much attention to Snapchat/insta people just put the highlights on it and it's rather fake. I think you'd be surprised at how many people are lonely at uni, it's not just you. People just like to give the impression they aren't.

    I'd probably write this year off and just come back to your second year after a break. Just put yourself out there, you won't make friends staying in your room.
 
 
 
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