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Rejected and very embarrassed
So last night I was at a friend´s party. All my friends and acquaintances were there, and so were a few exchanges student guys. I was a tad tipsy, so I hit on one of them . I came on way too strong, I was told that a lot of people were watching and laughing at me because I wouldn´t let him leave.
I thought he was hitting on me too, but perhaps I juts misinterpreted things because I was a bit (not very) drunk . He totally rejected me, and I felt awful because I am usually a pretty shy. Then I started crying (very silly I know) which just made things worse because everyone saw me and learned the story .
What am I to do ? I feel utterly, completely embarrassed !
I thought he was hitting on me too, but perhaps I juts misinterpreted things because I was a bit (not very) drunk . He totally rejected me, and I felt awful because I am usually a pretty shy. Then I started crying (very silly I know) which just made things worse because everyone saw me and learned the story .
What am I to do ? I feel utterly, completely embarrassed !
Reply 1
Honestly don't worry about it. Everyone has their drunken moments, and these moments are forgotten as time goes by. Anyhow, you really don't seem to have done anything awful at all, I know people (myself included) who have done far, far worse!
Reply 2
Paranoid Kid
Honestly don't worry about it. Everyone has their drunken moments, and these moments are forgotten as time goes by. Anyhow, you really don't seem to have done anything awful at all, I know people (myself included) who have done far, far worse!
Like what, tell tell
OP, all you can do is laugh it off and put it down to drunkeness. If you see the guy again, don't bring it up unless he does. If he does, just apologise and make it clear that you don't fancy him.
Reply 4
No no, you don´t understand, I was acting like a complete slut !
And although I asked him many time whether I was bothering him and if he wanted me to leave and he said no, he did try to escape from me quite a few times, and at the end he did say I was coming on too strong and he hooked up with a friend of mine, a friend who knew I liked him !
And although I asked him many time whether I was bothering him and if he wanted me to leave and he said no, he did try to escape from me quite a few times, and at the end he did say I was coming on too strong and he hooked up with a friend of mine, a friend who knew I liked him !
Reply 7
LOL so true..
Reply 8
don't worry girl, seriously... i fancied my best guy friend for a few months this year and eventually got the nerve to tell him a couple months ago... he was like 'ahh i dont want to hurt your feelings but...' it was SO embarrassing... then he kissed me (out of pity i think!) and we ended up sleeping together... lol... but yeah it was so embarrassing... im tryna get over it myself! 
Reply 9
I know I am a bit paranoid, but it´s that I ve never been rejected before. I have really low self esteem and am feeling like a loser,ugly and stupid and slutty even though I know I shouldn´t get upset over such a silly thing.
Reply 10
Just try to forget about it, and learn from your mistakes
Reply 11
Aww poor you I hate drunken moments like that - there was this v.v.fit German guy who worked briefly in my office and although I wasn't at all interested in him because I have a lovely boyfriend, I unfortunately accidently almost snogged him twice when I was drunk after breaking glasses and falling over when I came back from the loos. I hasten to add, this wasn't because I lost my inhibitions but because the kissing goodbye on two cheeks things confuses me even when I'm sober...
The result? Now he thinks I am a crazy drunken English girl who hits on him when drunk and hasn't spoken to me on facebook or msn since he went home. Although this embarrasses me greatly and it's a bit sad because he was such a laugh, sometimes you have to just rise above it and make a joke out of it. If anyone mentions it to you sober just make out that you were having a bit of a joke.
The shame will pass soon
xx
I hate drunken moments like that - there was this v.v.fit German guy who worked briefly in my office and although I wasn't at all interested in him because I have a lovely boyfriend, I unfortunately accidently almost snogged him twice when I was drunk after breaking glasses and falling over when I came back from the loos. I hasten to add, this wasn't because I lost my inhibitions but because the kissing goodbye on two cheeks things confuses me even when I'm sober...The result? Now he thinks I am a crazy drunken English girl who hits on him when drunk and hasn't spoken to me on facebook or msn since he went home. Although this embarrasses me greatly and it's a bit sad because he was such a laugh, sometimes you have to just rise above it and make a joke out of it. If anyone mentions it to you sober just make out that you were having a bit of a joke.
The shame will pass soon
xxReply 12
Lol we've all done it...seriously don't worry, it will pass. Even though you are worrying about it now, you'll probably be able to laugh about it in the future.
Anonymous
I know I am a bit paranoid, but it´s that I ve never been rejected before. I have really low self esteem and am feeling like a loser,ugly and stupid and slutty even though I know I shouldn´t get upset over such a silly thing.
Talk it out with some of your friends and look at it in perspective. Have them cheer you up about it.
And in the end, just don't get so drunk next time. If you're gonna be drunk, you gotta be able to take embarrassing yourself now and again. If you can't take it, don't drink. One time I was kinda tipsy - first time ever lol - and at the time it was fun, but the next day I looked back and I felt SO embarrassed that I'd made a right idiot of myself. I don't mind making a fool out of myself - I laugh at myself so often lol - but I don't mind that because I CHOSE to make a clown out of myself and have fun doing it lol
But if I were drunk/tipsy - then I'm not in control and I did not choose to act like an idiot - and that makes a world of difference for me. Hence, to this day, I still don't drink lol.Reply 14
You´re right, I screwed up and I have to face the consequences.
I still blush furiously when I recalll what I did......my low self-esteem has hit rock bottom. I acted wantonly in front of everybody, and that was precisely why the guy didn't want to hook up with me, because he said he isn t into that kind of behaviour. I wish I had acted normally, as I usually do, instead of thinking that I should provoke him, perhaps then I would have stood a chance..or maybe not since he probably thinks I am ugly and dumb. Plus he ended hooking up with my friend.
I still blush furiously when I recalll what I did......my low self-esteem has hit rock bottom. I acted wantonly in front of everybody, and that was precisely why the guy didn't want to hook up with me, because he said he isn t into that kind of behaviour. I wish I had acted normally, as I usually do, instead of thinking that I should provoke him, perhaps then I would have stood a chance..or maybe not since he probably thinks I am ugly and dumb. Plus he ended hooking up with my friend.
Reply 15
OP - we all have silly drunken moments, but look at it in perspective - what does it really matter? No one will even remember it when John, the village idiot, takes out an entire table of drinks in a month's time and replaces your incident with his 
Just think about it babes, it doesn't really matter, just forget about it
..shauny
Just think about it babes, it doesn't really matter, just forget about it ..shauny
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