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Need advice from experienced people.

Here's the situation peeps, theres this girl who goes to my sixth form and we got chatting near the end of college as we're both in second year we obviously knew it was too late to have anything at the time. Now it's exam time and she keeps pestering me texting me every two minutes and calling me every other. Don't get me wrong i'm flattered by the attention but heres the catch. She claims to have come out of a 3 month relationship which has got me thinking shes not one for commitment and then theres the doodaa of being on the rebound which she claims she doesn't believe in and is an excuse for ugly people who can't get with new people. Now firstly i'm not impressed with the clingyness and don't wanna tell her coz i know ill lose a good friend or maybe more and secondly i don't want anything to happen during exams because if she's this clingy as friends how clingy is she gonna be if or when we go out.

so shall i tell her i like her and ask her to wait until after exams...or shall i just tag her along till after exams and then pose the magikal question? oh and another thing why are some girls so clingy and how do i ease her off without hurting her?

Reply 1

BabyBee

u really want to go out with someone who is clingy before you're together?

Reply 2

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I was about to answer, then got to 'Magikal question', now i feel dirty all over and may throw up a little bit.

Reply 3

Spleh

You say

She claims to have come out of a 3 month relationship which has got me thinking shes not one for commitment

and in reply I ask you, "What the hell, dude?" 3 months is a long time! Try sucking an egg for 3 months, that takes commitment and a long time :s-smilie:

Now firstly i'm not impressed with the clingyness

Well I'm not impressed with you. She's just come out of a relationship, what the hell did you expect? Puppies?

Reply 4

username74922

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Well I'm not impressed with you. She's just come out of a relationship, what the hell did you expect? Puppies?

hmm i didn't think of it like that.

sorry i seem to have not explained the situation fully.
Basically i like her and didn't understand the clingyness and spleh has just educated me on that and i thank him for that. She's got a great personality and i can tell she likes me too but i want to ask her to be less clingy without hurting her.

oh and by magikal question i meant ask her out not what you was thinking lmao.

Reply 5

Spleh

Magikal

spleh has just educated me on that and i thank him for that.

You're welcome old chap, happy to help a fellow man out :biggrin:

Magikal

She's got a great personality and i can tell she likes me too but i want to ask her to be less clingy without hurting her.

If you phrase your question like that, you will get slapped. Is she worth all the hassle? Ask yourself that. Personally, I would think that if you liked her enough then you would put up with it. If not, then move on.

Reply 6

username74922

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Spleh

If you phrase your question like that, you will get slapped. Is she worth all the hassle? Ask yourself that. Personally, I would think that if you liked her enough then you would put up with it. If not, then move on.

Hmmm i mean i like her alot and could possibly put up with it, however, i'd rather not go through each and every day i'm with her with the feeling of not being able to have your own space. Its a confusing situation and i'd rather not be in it but hey guess i have to confront it before i fall into something i regret later.

Reply 7

Spleh

Magikal

Hmmm i mean i like her alot and could possibly put up with it, however, i'd rather not go through each and every day i'm with her with the feeling of not being able to have your own space.

Maybe when/if you ask her out, she will feel more secure and stop texting/calling you as much. It might happen, it might not.

Magikal

Its a confusing situation and i'd rather not be in it but hey guess i have to confront it before i fall into something i regret later.

You're doing the right thing to assess the situation before entering a relationship. Good on you!

Reply 8

username74922

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Spleh

Maybe when/if you ask her out, she will feel more secure and stop texting/calling you as much. It might happen, it might not.

You're doing the right thing to assess the situation before entering a relationship. Good on you!

Guess im on my own now :frown:

Cheers a bundle mateyy !!
I'm a bimbo at these things hehe. (no offence lmao!!)

Reply 9

randomgirl

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Tell her you need to concentrate on your exams, but are happy to meet up sometime after?

Maybe she'll stop texting you as much..and also, do you reply to her straight away? If you don't reply straight away, does she keep texting you til you do? Cos I can imagine that'd be annoying! But yeah, maybe respond to her slightly less..?

Reply 10

username74922

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randomgirl

Tell her you need to concentrate on your exams, but are happy to meet up sometime after?

Maybe she'll stop texting you as much..and also, do you reply to her straight away? If you don't reply straight away, does she keep texting you til you do? Cos I can imagine that'd be annoying! But yeah, maybe respond to her slightly less..?

She text me a total of 7 times since this thread was started all to get no response my end. If/when i do reply this amount doubles !!!

Reply 11

randomgirl

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EDIT: Double post, whoops.

Reply 12

randomgirl

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Magikal

She text me a total of 7 times since this thread was started all to get no response my end. If/when i do reply this amount doubles !!!

7 times in half an hour, without any replies?!

I'm sorry, but that's crazy. If she's like this now, get out while ya can!

Reply 13

username74922

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randomgirl

7 times in half an hour, without any replies?!

I'm sorry, but that's crazy. If she's like this now, get out while ya can!

But she's on the rebound so maybe it was a case of her getting quick replies and loadsa texting with her ex or summit? i dunno im really confused : :confused:

Reply 14

Profesh

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Magikal

so shall i tell her i like her and ask her to wait until after exams...or shall i just tag her along till after exams and then pose the magikal question? oh and another thing why are some girls so clingy and how do i ease her off without hurting her?

Pfft; is that honestly the best you can do?

Try the Profesh conundrum: drives girls wild.

Reply 15

username74922

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Profesh

Pfft; is that honestly the best you can do?

Try the Profesh conundrum: drives girls wild.

Lmao !! Nice I Like :smile:

Hmm Yeh it was a bit cheeky saying that butt heyy worth a try eh?

Reply 16

shauny

Hang on. You said you reckon it's a bit late now that you've finished college, but then you're considering asking her the 'magikal question'? (asking her out) :smile:

What exactly do you mean by asking her out mate?

..shauny

Reply 17

username74922

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shauny

Hang on. You said you reckon it's a bit late now that you've finished college, but then you're considering asking her the 'magikal question'? (asking her out) :smile:

What exactly do you mean by asking her out mate?

..shauny

Hmm yeh well college is over in terms of lessons anyway, however, we still go in till end of june to revise and since she's gonna be revising too ima obviously see her still for this month but she's hinted on keepin in touch after college i.e coming to each other's unis and stayin over bla bla soo she's in it for the long haul but im yet to decide whether or not i am.

to answer your question....asking her out means making her my girlfriend but this step seems a bit further down the line as i just cannot deal with the clingyness and until i tell her that ima be singlee yayyy :biggrin:

Reply 18

Chewwy

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Magikal

She text me a total of 7 times since this thread was started all to get no response my end. If/when i do reply this amount doubles !!!