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    I'm 25 years old with experience in programming and software testing.

    I'm seeking to look for programmer, developer, software testing jobs in May and I'm confident I will get something by Christmas.

    My father keeps saying 'finding jobs are hard' or 'it's going to be difficult for you' and he even made an arrogant assumption like 'you've got no experience' when I have experience!

    He even told me why do I want to be a professional for and why can't I apply for factory jobs.

    He even says as your age goes up, no one will give you a job.

    I mean, what the hell? If he's not applying for these jobs, how would he know how difficult it is? There are lots of programmer, software testing jobs available. Why does he say I've got no experience even though I have experience? I don't understand his negativity.
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    Maybe he is secretly worried about your prospects and wants you to have a "stable" job in Factory or manufacturing sites.

    Have a chat with him and allow for his criticism and advice. Don't block him out because you think he is ignorant. Also explain that Factory jobs are no longer that stable with what is going in the Steel industry in the UK. If you have some job leads, then show him and get his confidence in your ability to get a decent job.

    Good luck.
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    This is because he cares for you too much that he still sees a little boy in you rather than a mature man capable of doing things in his own.
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    (Original post by lostandfound86)
    This is because he cares for you too much that he still sees a little boy in you rather than a mature man capable of doing things in his own.

    I agree. But he is wrong about one thing, you are more likely to get a job when your grown up and have enough experience. What stopping you from applying for a job, your not losing anything. Your more likely to gain something from applying

    Good luck and follow what your heart says. Just explain to him and if he's still like that then get some advice from another family member
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    (Original post by Student1408)
    I agree. But he is wrong about one thing, you are more likely to get a job when your grown up and have enough experience. What stopping you from applying for a job, your not losing anything. Your more likely to gain something from applying

    Good luck and follow what your heart says. Just explain to him and if he's still like that then get some advice from another family member
    Ok. And to add to it, the thread starter should also evaluate his father's tone of voice, if he's joking or really serious.
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    Why do you care? Focus and ignore him.
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    (Original post by lostandfound86)
    Ok. And to add to it, the thread starter should also evaluate his father's tone of voice, if he's joking or really serious.
    Yeah that's true. Because if its not too serious then leave it. Sometimes it is us ourselves making the situation bigger than it already is.

    If it was just this once then I suggest forget it and move on, if happens again with another conversation then you could consider thinking about worrying about it.
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    Yeah that's true. Because if its not too serious then leave it. Sometimes it is us ourselves making the situation bigger than it already is.

    If it was just this once then I suggest forget it and move on, if happens again with another conversation then you could consider thinking about worrying about it.
    Correct! And please be careful with how you interpret things because this might create a gap between you and your father when in fact, what happen is purely miscommunication.
 
 
 
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