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Seeing ex before exam - Worried

Hey.
I've been trying to get over my ex for a long time now...and whilst we've been on study leave I havent had to see him at all and ive felt quite a lot better. Over study leave he's got with someone new and im dealing better with that than I thought I would...in large part I think its down to the fact I havent had to have him in my life.

Anyway, I have an exam in a few days time, and im inevitably going to bump into him outside it. Im really worried because I dont feel up to talking to him...and if he tries to talk to me, ill get upset and feel sad that we split up. But if he ignores me...ill feel hurt that he ignored me. I cant win. Im really worried that when I see him im going to feel terrible and I wont be able to concentrate in the exam, and im not sure what to do/ how to act etc;

Im really not sure what to do :frown:

Reply 1

generalebriety

Turn up just a couple of minutes before the exam is due to start. That way everyone will already be in the exam room waiting for you... at least, that's how it works at my school.

Reply 2

Misogynist

Turn up late, don't hang around after.

OR

Grow up and take it as it comes.

Reply 3

ßlαcksωαn

If you see him, just walk the other way, or walk faster. You're better off to ignore him completely, or else you'll end up thinking about the whole situation during the exam and that's not good!

Reply 4

danni_bella

Yeah I agree. Remember, think about your future! You only have a few hours, you can think about other things when your exam is over even though I know it can be hard :hugs:

In first year I broke up with an ex right before an exam, and he deliberately tried to make me jealous by hitting on other girls right in front of me, so at least you don't have THAT to deal with :wink:

How I dealt with it? Walked straight the other way and pretended not to notice it, didn't hesitate and told a lecturer what was happening so I got to enter the hall first. Got a HD (really good mark!!) and ended up pissing my ex off more than anything :biggrin:

Reply 5

shona

The housemate who has been trying to make my life hell all year, turned up before one of my exams purposefully to slam a door in my face. :rolleyes:

Seeing people you don't want to see before an exam does unnerve you, but it only takes a few minutes to recover. You've worked hard for this, you know your stuff, take 5 minutes to refocus, think about the topic and start writing.

Don't let anyone spoil your exam for you.

As for worrying about what the ex does or doesn't think? That can wait. You and your exams are far more important right now. Good luck. :hugs:

Just ignore him.

Misogynist

Grow up and take it as it comes.

you're advice is right, but not in this circumstance... i don't think it's the time to be growing up and taking it as it comes just before an important exam. the OP doesn't want to screw up just because they got upset :s-smilie:

i'd say do your best to avoid your ex during the exam/until the end of your exams. it will be really hard seeing him for the first time and you seem to be doing really well so far, but it might knock you a bit and i think you'd be better avoiding him until after the exam stress.