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cheating at uni

hi everyone

we've heard it all before... it's uni time and you and your other half are going to different uni's. it's all very tragic and upsetting, the tears flow, then there's the final messy kiss and the departing wave on the platform as your loved one heads for uni leaving snotty marks on the train window. the world is going to end, you're not going to cope, you're depressed and lonely and then... you cheat!!! or do ya? i've never understood how if you are missing the person who you love, why you would go out and sleep with someone else. have you?

Reply 1

randomgirl

14

People cope with things differently. I've never experienced a LDR (fortunately!) but I wouldn't cheat. Firstly, I could never disrespect my boyfriend so much and secondly I couldn't cope with the guilt of it. Plus doubt I'd have the desire to cheat either!

But yeah, people react differently to the stress of distance on a relationship..meaning that some cheat on their partners.

Reply 2

Joric

Pau1212

hi everyone

we've heard it all before... it's uni time and you and your other half are going to different uni's. it's all very tragic and upsetting, the tears flow, then there's the final messy kiss and the departing wave on the platform as your loved one heads for uni leaving snotty marks on the train window. the world is going to end, you're not going to cope, you're depressed and lonely and then... you cheat!!! or do ya? i've never understood how if you are missing the person who you love, why you would go out and sleep with someone else. have you?

i hate cheating and never done that.

Reply 3

Strictly Business

14

Firstly... you're making the assumption that they "love" each other, which, even though they may believe so, is hardly ever the case.

Everything goes...........

Reply 4

username47781

20

Doesn't matter if you are at uni or not, people cheat. Although not everyone who goes away to Uni cheats.

Reply 5

randomgirl

14

Rock Fan

Doesn't matter if you are at uni or not, people cheat. Although not everyone who goes away to Uni cheats.

^ I agree with that, people from all walks of life and in many different situations cheat. Although many do not!

Reply 6

ßlαcksωαn

17

Cheating can make the loneliness/pain go away for some...

Reply 7

mooseface

I've just recently (last 2/3 weeks) got into a relationship and will off to uni in sept. Don't know whats going to happen atm but really want to stay together. I wouldn't dream of cheating and would probably die from guilt if anything happened!

Reply 8

Truman

3

lessthanthree

If I'm with someone, and would rather sleep/kiss someone else...I am with the wrong person.

I totally agree. Im gonna be apart from my gf when i go to uni but theres no way id cheat on her. I know shes the only girl for me and the idea of being with anyone else just doesnt appeal to me at all.

Reply 9

Tabris

16

Not happened to me, but with my sister. She had a long distance relationship with her boyfriend at the time when she went to Birmingham for Uni, they stayed together find through that time. Then they broke up about a year after she graduated.

But, I wouldn't cheat on a girlfriend at Uni. And if I did, I'd know that the girlfriend I'd left wasn't right for me, otherwise I wouldn't be with someone else.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

i was in a year long relli when i came to uni, and originally when we got together i said it would be nice to go to uni single.. well ive now nearly completed my first year at uni we're still together and neither of us have cheated dispite the pain of it being a LDR.

I can understand why people would cheat in a LDR, as you miss the comfort of having somone there, just to hug and talk to, and there are times you get desperate for sex, but if you love your bf/gf you should be able to talk to them, and if you are missing them that much arrange a visit, not to cheat.

Another reason for the cheating is high amounts of alcohol and it seeming a good idea at the time.

Reply 11

Meep!

9

I've never even considered cheating. LDR's are hard work, I can understand that for some people, they may be too much work, but those people should just abandon the relationship. End it. It clearly, if they feel the temptation to cheat, their relationship is not working. Merely wanting sex/being drunk/whatever other rubbish people come out with, are not adequate excuses for cheating.

Reply 12

Bathwiggle

11

Meep!

Merely wanting sex/being drunk/whatever other rubbish people come out with, are not adequate excuses for cheating.

I agree with you there, and i feel sorry for a guy a 'friend' of mine is going out with as she uses that as an excuse and i just dont understand how she can do it when she says she loves him.

Reply 13

stepheh

12

I took what the poster said to mean that people in relationships that cheat aren't in love.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 14

DaChronik

Ive always thought that it would have been the person at uni cheating...? Wouldnt they be more likely to... I mean they are with people in exactly the same situation as them... Making new friends... I mean wouldnt it just be "easy" to find someone new?

Btw... I dont know if this is true, obviously lol

cheating at uni

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