Long story short, I have plans to move into an apartment with a school friend next year. BUT, I just got an offer to move in with some other friends next year, and I am also good friends with the person who asked me if I wanted to move in with them, and just saying no seemed too... idk. Cold. I told him about my plans to move in with my school friend, and I basically said that I'll have to think about it.
I did ask her if she wanted to come and live with my uni friends, but she doesn't really know them at all, and that would be extremely inconvenient for her because her university is more or less right at the other side of the city, so that would mean waking up really early just to get to her lectures on time. And she just asked what I want to do with this situation, but I don't want to make any solid decisions until I know that she has a backup plan, and I don't want to just suddenly bail on her, but it also looks like my other friend from my university doesn't have many options at this point either, so either way I'll be letting someone down, and I don't want anyone to take this personally, and I also don't want to create any tension...
Also, if I was to move in with my school friend, we would have to live more or less in the centre of town, because we both go to different universities, and our universities are on different sides of the city, which is going to make travelling to uni for lectures in the morning nightmareish, because we'll have to get the bus every morning to get to our lectures on time. And the buses in my city... well. They're not great. They hardly ever show up on time. And the fares aren't exactly cheap either, and that's going to add up.
If I live with my other friends, then I would literally be right next to my university (if we manage to get the house that they're considering at the moment, that is). So I wouldn't have to pay a fortune in bus fares. And if my school friend ends up living with her other friends from her university, that might actually be more convenient for her, because they'll probably look for a house/flat that is closer to their university.
So, living with my friends from university would be more convenient financially and travel-wise, basically. And it might end up being more convenient in that way for my school friend too. But I don't know if she can find another flatmate at this point...
But if I say yes to my uni friends, then my school friend will have to find a new flatmate at short notice, and I have no idea if any of her uni friends already have flatmates for next year or not. And I would still like to live with her, but I would also like to live with my friend from my university, and I don't want to favour one over the other or just give a harsh "no" to anyone...
I really don't know what to do here. Help?
Accommodation dilemma, advice would be much appreciated!!!!!! Watch
- Thread Starter
- 14-04-2016 12:26
- Thread Starter
- 14-04-2016 12:28
It's also worth mentioning that my school friend and I don't actually have any accommodation sorted out yet for next year, but we have been talking about living together for the past few months, so at the moment I think it's probably best to stick to the original plan and live with her... but I don't want to create any tension with my other friend == What do you guys think?
- 20-04-2016 10:26
You've already mentioned all the good reasons why to not live with her. If your friends don't know each other then I don't know how tension would be caused.
You should ask her if her friends have found accommodation yet and if she can move in. If not then its all good. If you really don't want to let them both down - find accommodation all three of you can share.