3 weeks between..

Im currently goin out with a girl 6 months younger than me, but there is a school year between us, im doing A2's and she AS's. I really really like her and she knows this, but i am worried we do not see each other enough. As she lives 2 hours away, its difficult to say the least, and although we have only been together for 1.5 months we still see each other once every 3 weeks, but it doesnt seem liek enough. It does make it all the more special when i see her, but i still really miss her wen she isnt around..
does 3 weeks sound like a long time to any of you guys? and if anyone is in the same situation how gard do you find it and how do you cope
Thanks!

Reply 1

Phillip

2

My girlfriend lives a fair distance away, not up to 2 hours, but still we do not see each other as much as we would like.
However, we've been together for over a year, and hopefully she will go to the same uni as me. I'm a year above her. That's if I get the grades, of course.
Anyway, we talk every night for well over an hour, so we are always "together" in that sense. We are very much in love.

Do you talk a lot?

Reply 2

herecomestrouble

14

Relationships where you dont see each other as often are definetely more difficult; however if you've got something special its worth sticking with it. Not many of us are lucky enough to fall for that weirdo that you see far too much of every day :rofl:

But try and talk as much as possible- i always think its quite nice to have a quick chat every day even if its pretty much just saying "how are you? how was your day?" but i think it definetely helps each other feel involved in the others life and helps you feel closer.
Good Luck with it :smile:

Hope thats some sort of help!?

xxx

Reply 3

Jossyboy45

Hi,

I am in a very similar situation. I don't go out with the girl, but used to, and now want to again. I'm guessing I like this girl as much as you like you girlfriend, and there's probably about 3 weeks, perhaps longer, between each time we see each other. This is due to:

1. She is at a different school to me.
2. She lives out beyond the suburbs.
3. She has many acquaintances.
4. We're both doing exams and are both (if I may say so myself) very studious (I'm having a revision break... honestly :biggrin:

).

It seems like a lifetime between each time I see her, although we do text every other night on average. So yes, 3 weeks is a long time. I would suggest that your A2 examinations are more important at this stage, and that maybe you could look forward to the summer by arranging to see her a little more often once you've finished. I understand that she's two hours away, so maybe you could have an arrangement whereby she sees you in your place and vice-versa.
Also, are you planning on going to university? If you are, are you going to be moving further away? I'm asking this because I'm holding out a little hope for a long-distance relationship perhaps.

Although easier said than done, nail your exams, tell your sweetheart to nail hers, arrange to meet up, and if you could post a reply, I'll look forward to it.

Ta,
Joss.

Reply 4

Meep!

9

Five hours apart during term time... :s:

It's difficult, but if you really are keen enough on each other, it can work. I see my bf around about every other weekend during uni term, and that's very difficult as it is. Every three weeks is quite a while, but it's workable-I tend to get through by daily phone calls/msn, makes me feel that bit closer to him :smile:

Reply 5

tomster_11

OP

try to talk a lot, text loads every day and talk every other day..
we get on so well though, and i cant see it ever ending, but i think we will be going to same unis too..
its just difficult
Thanks for your replies tho guys.. it all helps :-)!!!!

Reply 6

tomster_11

OP

yeah but when i do see her, its like u have to be strong when they leave, but inside it hurts so much when you know that its the end for another few weeks and it really hurts inside..
but we are both very sure it will continue to work an i genuinely hope it does cos we really do like each other, to the point i would actually do anything to make her happy..
thanks guys..!!!

Reply 7

Phillip

2

tomster_11

yeah but when i do see her, its like u have to be strong when they leave, but inside it hurts so much when you know that its the end for another few weeks and it really hurts inside..

I know exactly what you mean, but I think of how happy we are together etc. , that we will see each other again and it will be even better than last time.

Reply 8

Chewwy

17

tomster_11

we have only been together for 1.5 months we still see each other once every 3 weeks

wait.... surely this means you've only seen her twice?

Reply 9

*Katie*

1

choochie

wait.... surely this means you've only seen her twice?

I was thinking the same thing!

Reply 10

shauny

tomster - this sounds cynical as usual, and I know you like the girl, but why do you bother? Being young I reckon you should get out there and have fun meeting girls closer to home rather than worry and chew for 3 weeks at a time..Doesn't sound like fun at all to be honest mate :smile:

You'd probably be happier seeing a few girls who you live fairly close to.

..shauny

Reply 11

mally06

my boyfriend lives 7,000 miles away and i see him for about 2 months a year in total. i've been with him since 1999 and we talk every day. sure, i miss him a lot most of the time, but i know its only a couple more years till we can be together in the same place at the same time - can't wait :biggrin:

Reply 12

kftjkp

mally06

my boyfriend lives 7,000 miles away and i see him for about 2 months a year in total. i've been with him since 1999 and we talk every day. sure, i miss him a lot most of the time, but i know its only a couple more years till we can be together in the same place at the same time - can't wait :biggrin:

This is going to sound mean but do you not think that the only reason you like being with him is that you don't have to spend all that time with him - perhaps the thing that is keeping you together is that you would get sick of him if you spent more time with him and end up arguing? Sorry to be a cynic.

Reply 13

Insanespana

1

Its been nearly 2 weeks since I've seen my bf, and we only live 20 mins away from each other. But unlike everyone else, he doesn't text or call or have msn.... Its like an impossible relationship, but hopefully when my A2s are over I'll see him more.......

But its killing me..... :frown:

Reply 14

simple_things

Insanespana

Its been nearly 2 weeks since I've seen my bf, and we only live 20 mins away from each other. But unlike everyone else, he doesn't text or call or have msn.... Its like an impossible relationship, but hopefully when my A2s are over I'll see him more.......

But its killing me..... :frown:

if i were you i'd be worried about how commited he is to being with you

OP - you've only got a few more weeks of exams left, then you can see each other more often. i don't see my girlfriend as much as i'd like, but exams are important too.

Reply 15

lilgemmalea

I met my bofriend through college, but we both do different subjects, and are in different lessons. So we never saw each other at college. But now we've finished college. And i still harldy ever see him. Even though he only lives 15 minutes drive away from me. And has his own car.

We have different commitments. And our weeks are set out differntly. At the minute we're both concentrating on revision. He's a basketball coach most nights. And we work different hours.

We don't see each other much. And we have our own things to concentrate on. But when we do see each other. Or ring each other randomly. Send each other a text with something in it that makes sense to us and no-one else. That's what matters. And it's special.

Savour what you have. If you think it'll go somewhere. Keep hold. I know that's what i'm doing :smile:

Reply 16

randomgirl

14

mally06

my boyfriend lives 7,000 miles away and i see him for about 2 months a year in total. i've been with him since 1999 and we talk every day. sure, i miss him a lot most of the time, but i know its only a couple more years till we can be together in the same place at the same time - can't wait :biggrin:

7 or 8 years of LDR? Blimey. I don't think I could ever do that.

Reply 17

Chewwy

17

mally06

my boyfriend lives 7,000 miles away and i see him for about 2 months a year in total. i've been with him since 1999 and we talk every day. sure, i miss him a lot most of the time, but i know its only a couple more years till we can be together in the same place at the same time - can't wait :biggrin:

so... you've been with him since you were 11?

ever think you've thrown the best years of your childhood away?

Reply 18

Phillip

2

And I thought i was cynical. To the cynics here, if the others and I did not think it was worth trying to make the relationship work, then we wouldn't be there in the first place, would we?

Reply 19

decoy

MC Lars said that Internet Relationships are not real :eek:

But to be fair, LDR can and do work.
3 weeks doesn't seem that long to me, well if you talk everyday and that. If she's a year younger than you and you're off to uni in September then you're gonna have to do the LDR thing another year longer, if you can afford it try and see her more often if it's bothering you so much.

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