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Meeting his parents... Advice, please.
I've run a search, but come up with nothing relevant.
Basically, I'm going to meet my boyfriend's parents this week. I'm mildly terrified.
Given where his parents live, going to meet them involves a planned journey, so it's not as if I'm casually popping round for tea. Apparently we're going to go round in the afternoon and leave the next day, so I guess that means having dinner with them, staying over and leaving around lunchtime. That's a lot of time to spend with people you don't know...
My boyfriend and I are quite serious about each other, which I guess is why I'm so terrified. I know we're going to be together for the long run, so it would make my life a lot more pleasant if I got on with his parents. I've never done the "Meet The Parents" thing before with my exes - it's just sort of happened casually, in passing. This is a first for me.
Trouble is, I'm rubbish with people. I have lots of friends, but I hate forced small talk and I hate speaking to strangers with a passion. I have a fairly cutting sense of humour. My boyfriend does too, and allegedly he gets it from his parents, but I just don't know how appropriate it would be to just be myself, and talk like I normally would, when you have to really understand me and my humour to realise that I'm joking and not actually being horrible.
Yes, yes, I'm being pathetic.
But, any advice? Don't want to mess this up...
Basically, I'm going to meet my boyfriend's parents this week. I'm mildly terrified.
Given where his parents live, going to meet them involves a planned journey, so it's not as if I'm casually popping round for tea. Apparently we're going to go round in the afternoon and leave the next day, so I guess that means having dinner with them, staying over and leaving around lunchtime. That's a lot of time to spend with people you don't know...
My boyfriend and I are quite serious about each other, which I guess is why I'm so terrified. I know we're going to be together for the long run, so it would make my life a lot more pleasant if I got on with his parents. I've never done the "Meet The Parents" thing before with my exes - it's just sort of happened casually, in passing. This is a first for me.
Trouble is, I'm rubbish with people. I have lots of friends, but I hate forced small talk and I hate speaking to strangers with a passion. I have a fairly cutting sense of humour. My boyfriend does too, and allegedly he gets it from his parents, but I just don't know how appropriate it would be to just be myself, and talk like I normally would, when you have to really understand me and my humour to realise that I'm joking and not actually being horrible.
Yes, yes, I'm being pathetic.
But, any advice? Don't want to mess this up...
Thankfully guy's parents dont judge their son's partners nearly as aggressivly as some of the fathers i've had to meet of my previous girlfriends!
Just be yourself, be friendly and polite, but DONT shy away! Let them know that you can be funny and passionate about stuff.
Also dont be afraid to do stuff with your boyfriend when they are around, i dont mean go full on snoggng, but a peck on the cheek or lips is fine and show them that you are serious.
Just be yourself, be friendly and polite, but DONT shy away! Let them know that you can be funny and passionate about stuff.
Also dont be afraid to do stuff with your boyfriend when they are around, i dont mean go full on snoggng, but a peck on the cheek or lips is fine and show them that you are serious.
Ooh... it's very scary, isn't it. All I can say is just to be on your best behaviour-mind your P's and Q's, don't make crude, lewd or suggestive jokes/comments, and don't start making out with your boyfriend in front of them. Don't try to plan out everything you're going to say to them, just try and relax and go with the flow, so to speak.
Reply 3
You're likely to find they'll do the hard work for you in terms of small talk. As long as you're polite you'll give them nothing to object to.
Reply 4
Just be extremely Polite, jackwhatton has got it exactly right, give them nothing to object to.
Reply 5
I met my boyfriend's mother for the first time in passing and I was a touch tipsy and ended up talking to her about gardening for a while. He assures me she found me polite and couldn't tell. 
needless to say, don't do this 
hehe
The second time I met them was a proper sit-down meal with the best silver and a home-cooked meal. Scary to walk straight into without any previous knowledge. The best thing, is to just be polite and smile. Listen to what they say and develop conversation if you can to show you're interested in what they're saying and you'll make a good impression.
needless to say, don't do this heheThe second time I met them was a proper sit-down meal with the best silver and a home-cooked meal. Scary to walk straight into without any previous knowledge. The best thing, is to just be polite and smile. Listen to what they say and develop conversation if you can to show you're interested in what they're saying and you'll make a good impression.
I wouldn't put on an act if I were you. It's good to be polite but if you pretend to be someone you're not they'll expect you to act in the same way each time they see you and I'm sure it'll get exhausting. 
The best advice is the clichéd 'be yourself' with a bit of additional politeness. Good luck.
The best advice is the clichéd 'be yourself' with a bit of additional politeness. Good luck.
Reply 7
As everyone has said "be yourself".... but just make a particular effort to smile, be polite and reasonably chatty (but just think about what you say before you open your mouth - i know i PERSONALLY have a tendency to speak without thinking and then think oh my god i cant believe i just said that!)
Good Luck though! and try to enjoy!
Good Luck though! and try to enjoy!
Reply 8
yeah again you are a crime has got it so right, an act will not last, however i suppose it shows you are trying
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