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    Broke up with my ex about a month ago and I intended to go NC but had moments of weakness along the way and would text him - usually get ignored.

    He text me saying he wanted to be friends and stuff but I still had questions
    about stuff - he ignored me when I was asking him stuff.

    Then I messaged him and he replied for a bit saying he didn't want to cut contact and that I "meant a lot to him" then he stopped reply and started ignoring me again.

    He then messaged me last night, and by this point I was wondering whether or
    not to reply but curiosity got the better of me so I replied hours later asking him what he wanted, he said just to say hi and asked how I was. I told him I was fine and that I had handed my dissertation in and about my new job, asked him about how he was etc and lo and behold he ignored me again.

    I don't understand why he is texting me and then ignoring me again? It makes me just think he's being nosy and doesn't particularly care, but it's messing with my feelings as I didn't particularly want to break up with him but he was turning into someone disrespectful and I chose not to go on with that. It's like I slowly begin to feel better and then he messages..
    I guess I just need some insight/advice here
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    Not everyone replies straight away. I'm one of those people that leave their phone lying around and won't check on it for hours so I don't think you should think it's personal. He could be one of those people too.

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    (Original post by AmazingArry)
    Not everyone replies straight away. I'm one of those people that leave their phone lying around and won't check on it for hours so I don't think you should think it's personal. He could be one of those people too.

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    We were in a relationship for nearly 2 years, and he is literally always on his phone
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Broke up with my ex about a month ago and I intended to go NC but had moments of weakness along the way and would text him - usually get ignored.

    He text me saying he wanted to be friends and stuff but I still had questions
    about stuff - he ignored me when I was asking him stuff.

    Then I messaged him and he replied for a bit saying he didn't want to cut contact and that I "meant a lot to him" then he stopped reply and started ignoring me again.

    He then messaged me last night, and by this point I was wondering whether or
    not to reply but curiosity got the better of me so I replied hours later asking him what he wanted, he said just to say hi and asked how I was. I told him I was fine and that I had handed my dissertation in and about my new job, asked him about how he was etc and lo and behold he ignored me again.

    I don't understand why he is texting me and then ignoring me again? It makes me just think he's being nosy and doesn't particularly care, but it's messing with my feelings as I didn't particularly want to break up with him but he was turning into someone disrespectful and I chose not to go on with that. It's like I slowly begin to feel better and then he messages..
    I guess I just need some insight/advice here

    You need to chill and stop over thinking, I usually take a while to reply to texts or messages, it also depends on my mood on that day and my circumstances.

    This girl once asked me why I take so long to reply, then I thought why you so desperate and it turned me off, which made me ignore her even further.

    Keep yourself occupied, I know it's easier said than done, but don't give one person all your attention that's not attractive especially if it's your ex.
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    He's an ex for a reason. Just don't bother with him and leave him in the past.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    We were in a relationship for nearly 2 years, and he is literally always on his phone
    Then I have no idea. But all I can say is, when I've broken up with people recently, I find it hard to even text them. Because, frankly, even though I would like for things to end on good terms and have no hostility towards them, I'd still rather not see them again. So maybe he just finds it hard to stay in contact. You can't break up with someone and expect them to be friends with you on a whim and be OK with everything at a moment's notice. You have to give them time.

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