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    Basically I'm sexually attracted to both guys and girls. But I'm also a Muslim, so I don't do anything sexual with guys. And I am saving my virginity until marriage. I try to be a good Muslim in general, even if I do struggle to pray regularly.

    But how would you feel if your husband/bf told you he was also attracted to guys? Would this be a major problem? I want to be open to my wife/gf but I'm not sure if I should keep this hidden
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically I'm sexually attracted to both guys and girls. But I'm also a Muslim, so I don't do anything sexual with guys. And I am saving my virginity until marriage. I try to be a good Muslim in general, even if I do struggle to pray regularly.

    But how would you feel if your husband/bf told you he was also attracted to guys? Would this be a major problem? I want to be open to my wife/gf but I'm not sure if I should keep this hidden
    Meh idk I don't think it would be that much of a problem for me. I think it would be the same for others girls aswell as long as you told them before marriage and you haven't been romantically involved with a guy before
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically I'm sexually attracted to both guys and girls. But I'm also a Muslim, so I don't do anything sexual with guys. And I am saving my virginity until marriage. I try to be a good Muslim in general, even if I do struggle to pray regularly.

    But how would you feel if your husband/bf told you he was also attracted to guys? Would this be a major problem? I want to be open to my wife/gf but I'm not sure if I should keep this hidden
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    if you won't do anything sexual with guys then thats basically straight so what's the problem
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    (Original post by ihatePE)
    if you won't do anything sexually with guys then thats basically straight so what's the problem
    :facepalm:.

    There is a big difference between sexual orientation and sexual activity.
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    (Original post by ihatePE)
    if you won't do anything sexually with guys then thats basically straight so what's the problem
    Many gay people, even in a relationship are actually celibate.... But yeah, if OP doesn't do anything sexual with other men then it's not really breaking any rules.
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    (Original post by ivybridge)
    :facepalm:.

    There is a big difference between sexual orientation and sexual activity.
    but if he tells her that he likes boys but won't have sex with them, then i dont think she cares much
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    Idk what to think
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    Unless you had a previous relationship with a guy I wouldn't be too worried. But ngl I would be worried every time you hang out with your friends
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    I'm not Muslim but I'll say what I think may happen.

    If you find a girl who loves you to pieces and you love her back, I'm sure she'd be fine as long as she can see that you love her.
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    If you're saving your virginity til marriage I don't see why you'd need to tell her as you'd only ever be with her - a female...idk :/
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    Threesome?)))

    On serious note, I wouldnt care, even if you did something. Its Normal today's day and age.
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    (Original post by samina_ay)
    Idk what to think
    mind boggling
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    Some will care, some won't. A lot of Muslim girls are from conservative backgrounds so may not by keen by the idea, which is very stupid considering you can't help how you feel. Sexual attraction is NOT a choice, regardless, if they love you, they won't care and I hope you find someone who will accept you one day.
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    (Original post by Proxenus)
    mind boggling
    Truly is
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    If I love my husband, him being bisexual wouldn't change how I feel about him. As long as he's still the same as before (in terms of how we interact etc.).
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    I'd be put off. Idk why exactly but it'd be weird
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    im a muslim girl so i think i could help you here. is our wife/gf muslim? if so she will be very confused and i believe she might question whether you are the right person for her. take time to think and figure out if you definitely are Bi and whether you believe in islamic values, because you should know it is severely haram to be bi/trans/gay. i personally dont have a problem with people from the LGBTQ community btw. you can always talk to me if you need support/advice
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    (Original post by Tsrsarah)
    as long as you told them before marriage
    This.

    Some will run away screaming, but that's much better than them doing so after marriage.

    Presumably you know about imaan.org.uk ?
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    (Original post by ihatePE)
    if you won't do anything sexual with guys then thats basically straight so what's the problem
    The fact is I'm attracted to guys too. Just that I don't act upon it due to religious reasons.

    (Original post by samina_ay)
    Idk what to think
    That what I thought many would think. I've tried to put myself in that position and don't know how I would feel :lol:

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Unless you had a previous relationship with a guy I wouldn't be too worried. But ngl I would be worried every time you hang out with your friends
    Lmao, I wouldn't be acting on it. I've made it so far not sleeping with any girl or guy, I trust myself for the future too.

    (Original post by Biryani007)
    If you're saving your virginity til marriage I don't see why you'd need to tell her as you'd only ever be with her - a female...idk :/
    Idk, I just feel like I'd want to be honest. Like I don't want to hide things from my future wife, I just feel like I'd want a wife who knows me inside out and loves me for who I am.

    (Original post by lNurl)
    Threesome?)))

    On serious note, I wouldnt care, even if you did something. Its Normal today's day and age.
    I imagine many would be put off. I'm not camp or anything irl, I just have this attraction in my head :lol: some Muslim girls come from conservative backgrounds
 
 
 
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