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    So i have some massive family issues and my boyfriend is graduating in july which means he has a grad ball coming up which he had promised to buy me a dress for etc. However yesterday i saw a text on his phone which had the seating plan on arranged by his flatmate on and guess what? Im not on it i got really upset ovbiously i was going and he hadnt even said there was no room. We had a massive argumen because iv been the one there helping him get his degree and im gutted to have been repaid like that. He announced that i would end up sitting on my own worst case scenario on a table with people i dont know yet i thought worst case scenario it would just be us 2 on a random table atleast then i wouldnt be alone. Hes also going on a holiday woth these people as he turned down a holiday with me for them which would of been our 10 yr anniversary on top of this he also didnt bother with birthday or valentines day gifts this year and i guess i give up im starting to think hes not the same person that he was last year
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    People change and ten years is a long time. Assuming you werent there uni is a big experience for him and you only shared partially.

    Before you go off in a panic, then think about what you want.

    Perhaps the bf can have a word with his friend about changing the seating plan so you cna be seated together.
    If not then perhaps he might show some loyalty and insist you be seated together somewhere else.
    If he is not bothered that you might be sat on your own then thats pretty disloyal and says a lot about him, specially as you are menat to be his guest and ofc in a loving relationship. Its very poor behaviour by him and its up to him to get it sorted.

    Tbh it sounds like he has changed and your relationship along with it. Dont be surprised that he now sees leaving as a new start and he isnt that into you anymore. I dont know. It may be saveable, but you have to tlak to each other and be honest. he may not be. Try and be calm. You shouldn't want to be with someone who doesnt consider you before themselves or at least on a par with their own interests.
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    He's moved on bra, sorry.
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    He wouldnt do anuthing he told me to text them off his phone which i did and one said ask to put someone else on the table its only 1 more plate and the next asked what hes going to do so i handed the phone to him and said they want to know what your doing so he said to me nothing so i said fine tell them that
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    Not being funny but surely if he loved you that much he would have made sure you were both sat together, the fact he couldn't even tell you what had happened kinda speaks volumes for who he is these days.
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    Have a sit with him and have a proper talk, whether or not he still has feelings for you - if he doesn't, save yourself the heartbreak and leave.
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    (Original post by Vickiilynne)
    He wouldnt do anuthing he told me to text them off his phone which i did and one said ask to put someone else on the table its only 1 more plate and the next asked what hes going to do so i handed the phone to him and said they want to know what your doing so he said to me nothing so i said fine tell them that
    Think you might have to wake up and its a break up by default. he's he one who should be sorting it out, he cnat be bothered, hes an arse.

    If it was someone you loved, then youd

    1. Arrange for them to sit with you.
    2. Go and sit with them elsehwere, becayse your the guest and uni m8s are less impornat than someone you love.
    3. If not possible then dont go.

    Dont know how long you want to play it out, but he doesnt seem to care about the situation and by default about you.
 
 
 
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