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    I met this girl about 4 months ago and we went on our first date. Before we'd even gone on our first date we were texting for a month everyday until the early hours of the morning. We got on really well on our date saw each other again etc but she lives far away so we don't see each other too often.

    Now before our first date we talked about what we were looking for. I was looking for a relationship but she was looking for a casual relationship (i.e. non-monogamous). We both really liked each other so we overlooked this and still decided to 'date' and see where it went.

    The confusing part is this. We get on so well and there have been some hints from her end that we want to make this official and some hints that we don't want to make it official. But the thing stopping us (her especially I think) is the fact that she will be starting a 1 year course in another country in Europe in september. I am confused as to what she really wants. If she wants to keep this casual why does she text me so often. We know things about each other that nobody else knows.

    Why would you open yourself up to a person so much if you only plan on keeping it very short term/casual? I recently told her i miss her and she told me not to become too attached because she'll be leaving the country soon. So my second question is should I just break this off now before I become even more attached or should I carry on in a detached manner? Uggh so confused
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    I think she wants to make it official and wants more but shes avoiding it like you said, because of her moving away. Maybe shes not sure of your stance on it, and needs encouragement from your side - it depends how you feel. In most situations like this you really need to talk it out. Tell her how you feel, just be honest and hopefully discuss where to go from here. It depends if you can deal with long distance - and if its even worth it for a girl you recently met. Only you can answer the question, but if you decide this is a short term thing I'd say you call it off before you get more attached... good luck
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    I think she wants to make it official and wants more but shes avoiding it like you said, because of her moving away. Maybe shes not sure of your stance on it, and needs encouragement from your side - it depends how you feel. In most situations like this you really need to talk it out. Tell her how you feel, just be honest and hopefully discuss where to go from here. It depends if you can deal with long distance - and if its even worth it for a girl you recently met. Only you can answer the question, but if you decide this is a short term thing I'd say you call it off before you get more attached... good luck
    Thanks for the advice
 
 
 
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