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    So. Im 5 weeks pregnant. I am a single mom with a 4yr old son whose father isnt in the picture and never wanted to be. I didnt date or sleep with anyone for 3 years. I started liking this guy and we started seeing eachother. 5 months later i want a relationship and he doesnt. Its all good i respect him and leave him alone i havent talked to him in a month. Now ive missed my period and taken a test to find out im 5 weeks pregnant. I could never have an abortion or give away my own child but i dont know if i should tell him. But i kinda feel like he has a right to know bc im keeping it. Should i tell him?
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    LOL
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    Tbh if you told me i'd be on the first plane to Milan right now
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    Yes, you do not want to have a conversation years from now where you attempt to justify the logic in not telling him to avoid conflict as it would certainly be much greater by then.
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    (Original post by XOR_)
    Yes, you do not want to have a conversation years from now where you attempt to justify the logic in not telling him to avoid conflict as it would certainly be much greater by then.
    Ok. But the thing is that he is a good guy so this will alter the course of his life completely. Financially he has nothing to offer. But he would try anyway and i dont want to condemn him to that because he didnt ask for it. I also know he will find out eventually if i dont tell him now because his kid will seek him out. Is it better to let him be blissfully unaware?
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    (Original post by caligirlcat)
    Ok. But the thing is that he is a good guy so this will alter the course of his life completely. Financially he has nothing to offer. But he would try anyway and i dont want to condemn him to that because he didnt ask for it. I also know he will find out eventually if i dont tell him now because his kid will seek him out. Is it better to let him be blissfully unaware?
    Make that Bulgaria
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    (Original post by DanteTheDoorKnob)
    Make that Bulgaria
    Ok mr unhelpful we get that you like planes and foreign countries. Stow it
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    (Original post by caligirlcat)
    Ok. But the thing is that he is a good guy so this will alter the course of his life completely. Financially he has nothing to offer. But he would try anyway and i dont want to condemn him to that because he didnt ask for it. I also know he will find out eventually if i dont tell him now because his kid will seek him out. Is it better to let him be blissfully unaware?
    Aren't you obliged to tell him as his name would go on the birth certificate? I think you should tell him, he does have a right to know that he will have a child.
 
 
 
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