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"The strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and mean it" Watch

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    This is a quote from Coach Corey Wayne, a professional who specialises in all things relationship and life building.

    The first time I heard this I had a lightbulb moment. For years I had been chasing women, friends and business.

    "Scarcity creates value" is yet another quote which has helped me too.

    For example:

    You're trying to purchase a house and the landlord is asking for £250 000. You offer £200 000 because you believe that's what's worth. It has spacious rooms, close proximity to shops and schools for your kids, but it doesn't reflect the price tag the seller is proposing.

    Instead of "begging" for them to lower the price and calling them numerous times to bargain, what you should be doing is letting him know that "I love the house, I love the location, but to me it's worth £200 000. You have my contact details, so if you change your mind it'd be great if you got in touch", and you leave it at that.

    Chances are you won hear from him again, but, if they're desperate to get rid of it and needs the money, they might get in contact further down the line.

    Another example is when you've been dumped. I have been a handful of times and it isn't pleasant for the dumpee.

    The dumper suggests you "stay friends" so you accept because hey, maybe down the line they'll see what they're missing.

    What you should be doing is explaining that you don't accept the relationship change (i.e the break up and the request to be friends), but they can get in contact if they change their mind.


    What are your thoughts on the two quotes? How valid are they in different aspects of life?
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    The first bit seems to make sense. The bit about being dumped doesnt. If you broke up then theres no point staying friends or whatever. Leads to complications, mixed fealings etc later on, so just move on.
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    (Original post by Laomedeia)
    The first bit seems to make sense. The bit about being dumped doesnt. If you broke up then theres no point staying friends or whatever. Leads to complications, mixed fealings etc later on, so just move on.
    I didn't say to stay friends with them. You leave the door open by telling them that they can contact you if they change their minds, and you walk away.

    It's more than likely you won't hear from them again if their interest has dropped below 51%. If it's higher, you could get a call/text/etc in a month, 8 months or even a whole year.
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    (Original post by Dodgypirate)
    I didn't say to stay friends with them. You leave the door open by telling them that they can contact you if they change their minds, and you walk away.

    It's more than likely you won't hear from them again if their interest has dropped below 51%. If it's higher, you could get a call/text/etc in a month, 8 months or even a whole year.
    Wouldnt even leave the door open. It didnt work the first time and Im not the kind of pushover that gives anyone a chance to dump me again.
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    I personally like to leave doors open
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    You know that this is all very well and good, but in the reality of our economy it just doesn't fly. If I am given a poor contract from my employer I really have very little ability to walk away because if I do I lose my home and my well being.
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    Walking away isn't easy, you know. :grumble:
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    I think it's great advice. If you're emotionally attached to an object beyond its actual value then your ability to judge how much to pay for it is not going to be great.


    Put simply, emotion isn't often a good judge of the worth of something. Particularly when there are other things like it on the market. It's always good to have the option to walk away.
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    This post was probably plant considering a duplicate of it was on another forum: http://www.girlsaskguys.com/relation...walk-away-mean
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    No.

    The strongest negotiation position is not whether you accept or walk away, it is knowing that:

    1- the choice is yours to make
    2- there are more options than what is given to you in the negotiation.

    Scarcity creates value? Not always.Value is in the eye of the beholder.

    If I don't think something is valuable, then it is worthless no matter how rare it is.

    Looks like you're trying to use pop-psychology tools to manipulate other people.

    If I have a house to sell and you give me a crap price, I can wait for the next offer until I get my asking price. If I'm desperate to sell, I'll pay a broker a % of the price he can get for it so he'd try to get the best possible price.

    If someone dumps me, I'll move on. If I dump someone, I hope they do the same. No one should be manipulated into anything in a relationship.
 
 
 
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