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    Okay, while I wont say I was entirely confident, I was confident in social situations and had no problem meeting people, that was the one thing that really held me together. I was always anxious walking by myself, always felt people judgingme, and extremely anxious at presentations. I was always worried what people thought of me but still i was confident in socialising.However, just the other day, when I was hungover, I went into panic mode speaking to some friends and went completely red. This has affected me BIG time. I am now extremely anxious around my friends, I cant spend more then 5 minutes with them until I go into full panic mode. Guys please help how do I get back to the way I was, please
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    Well that stems from your previous worries of anxiety -- you might've been confident socialising but clearly those other things were worrying you to a point where you couldn't ignore them. No surprise that many negative things have manifested themselves in the positive aspect and you don't know how to deal with it. The best way to deal with this is taking a compassion-based approach; telling yourself that, for example, you're sort of feeling 'off' -- but that's okay. You're not speaking as much today, but that's okay. You obviously are good enough otherwise you would have no friends. There's nothing bad about you or your character

    Your friends saw you red, but that's okay -- laugh about it instead of thinking there's actually something bad. Because really, when you think about it, it's not really bad is it? Your friends won't abandon you or anything.

    Only by positive reinforcement and keeping your mind in a kind state will you become less anxious and feel better around people again

    And if this has been for a while then you might want to look into a therapist who should help you with a very effective CBT-based treatment
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    Well that stems from your previous worries of anxiety -- you might've been confident socialising but clearly those other things were worrying you to a point where you couldn't ignore them. No surprise that many negative things have manifested themselves in the positive aspect and you don't know how to deal with it. The best way to deal with this is taking a compassion-based approach; telling yourself that, for example, you're sort of feeling 'off' -- but that's okay. You're not speaking as much today, but that's okay. You obviously are good enough otherwise you would have no friends. There's nothing bad about you or your character

    Your friends saw you red, but that's okay -- laugh about it instead of thinking there's actually something bad. Because really, when you think about it, it's not really bad is it? Your friends won't abandon you or anything.

    Only by positive reinforcement and keeping your mind in a kind state will you become less anxious and feel better around people again

    And if this has been for a while then you might want to look into a therapist who should help you with a very effective CBT-based treatment
    You sound very wise and your post has helped me some. None of my friends would have ever thought that I was an anxious person. I've always been able to come across as very confident and yes a lot of those times with just my friends and new friends I am very confident. Something, happened with me and I have always been dealing with anxiety, it happened when I was on a real low from hangover anxiety.
    Now when I see my friends my heart jumps and my face starts to go red, I now even dread to knock on the door of the friends I was so confident with, i really mean my good friends!! I guess my main problem is I dont want to look weak, I focus so much on not going red, that I go red. I literally imitate the blushing feeling and my mind is on it 24/7. I can't be seen as someone really confident to someone a complete wreck that cant look them in the eye, its horrible.
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    I'd say from experience that these sorts of events can trigger a negative spiral, so the best course of action is to think positively and then you will act positively, reinforce your comfort.
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    I'd say from experience that these sorts of events can trigger a negative spiral, so the best course of action is to think positively and then you will act positively, reinforce your comfort.
    You are completely right, I am trying my hardest! I'm trying so hard to hang out with them and be confident but each time I get more and more anxious thus falling into a deep spiral, it' s horrible. My mind overthinks everything
 
 
 
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