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Arguing In Relationship

I love my gf to bits , I really do but it seems we have at least one dispute a day if not more 9we've had about 4 today alone) I cant remeber the last time we didn't. And theres always a big argument about something at least once every fortnight. I wondered if this is normal , can it work, and how much arguing other people do. I love her loads and have been with her 8 months but should we be arguing so much?

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Reply 1

username47781

No that's not right if you are arguing every day. When you are both calm you need to have a discussion on why you keep arguing and whether you can find a solution.

Reply 2

dh00001

what do you argue about :s-smilie:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

literally anything and everything. Its hard to explain. But it seems like we cant go five minutes without having a dispute lol. :frown:

Its never ever serious though if you know what i mean.

Reply 4

Paperfolders57

If you love each other to bits then you , should be able to kiss and make up with out the stress try to remain calm , when you can!

Reply 5

Mrs_F

*Touches wood*
My fiance and I have hardly ever argued in over 4 years. We certainly have never had a big arguement.

He is too laid back to argue and just lets me get on with my strops!!

I'm not sure how normal it is to argue everyday, but can you really be bothered with it? I know I couldn't

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

I wish it could be as simple as that but unfortuntely its not, things just explode and we wind each other up then we still love each other loads and get over it. It'd be so much simpler if a) we didnt argue or b) we did and it made us get so fed up of each other!

Reply 7

dh00001

well how do they start :s-smilie:

Reply 8

stepheh

out of curiosity, how old are you?
The older you get, the less you seem to argue [when in a relationship]
and also, what tone does the argument usually take?
If it turns into spiteful digs, then that's certainly not good.. and i would suggest talking your relationship through..
are you or her under any stress atm? [like.. is it a LDR, or have you got exams?] there are loads of factors that can just make you generally more irritable..

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Im 18 , and now ive come to think about it shes just finished exams and i have them. They usually start like today for example I suggested we go out in the evening then she said she had so much work and I should realise that she still has exams and shes got such a big workload. Then 2 hours later she came up to me and was like oh such and such suggested going to some bars this evening I might go. Then i said well you made me feel guilty for asking you to do stuff and make like you have so much work to do, and then the argument went from their. Its not spiteful at all really.

Reply 10

dh00001

so you were mad she had turned you down but then arranged something else? dont blame you for that one.
are they often like that or are they sillier?

Reply 11

stepheh

No, you're right that's not spiteful on your part.. But tbh, the fact that she got pissy at you for asking her out is ridiculous.
You were merely asking if she fancied doing something.
then for her to agree to go out with someone else instead..

I still think you should sit down and talk, but just from what you've said there [obviously i know a miniscule part of your relationship] how's she was being was very unfair.
Are you like that with her too?
Have you always argued like this?

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Our arguments are usually in a similar vein, and although i havent done what she did today, ive done my fair share of annoying her. I think we're too ready to tell each other the little things that annoy us about each other. But it just seems like I cant let the littlest things go sometimes think its also my fault too. Another example was yesterday when we were going to go running and I put on my shorts and turned around, and she was like "omg your legs are really scra.." then covered her mouth and giggled, in hindsight i believed her when she said it was a joke but im quite sensitive about that and she knows it, then i refused to go running and made a big argument of it for about half an hour.

Reply 13

stepheh

There's nothing wrong with telling each other every little thing..
But maybe you should both try and not get so worked up about it OR try saying things in a different way?
Just.. next time you feel an argument coming on.. just relax and calm down for a second. Because, if you dont sort things out now, they won't get better!

Reply 14

dh00001

so really its the two of you not fully considering one anothers feelings?
perhaps the two of you should have a talk and agree to stop and think about things that could potentially annoy/upset the other

Reply 15

blissy

If we're discounting women getting into one-sided strops, then we have a big argument with crying and threats to sleep on the sofa probably about once every 4 months.

We probably get the hump with one another every two weeks or so, but kiss and make up within the hour.

Reply 16

louisedotcom

Every relationship is different, what may be normal for others isnt necessarily normal for you.
My parent bicker all the time, and will probably have a bit of a go at each eacother pretty much everyday- they have been together for 20+ years.

On the other hand there is me and my boyfriend, been together 3 and a half years and we have never had a proper row never shouted at one another or had an arguement that lasted more than a day. We dont even bicker....ever. The last time we had a bit of a tiff was about 2 years ago. We just arnt the argueing type and I cant remember what any of the rows (theres only ever been about 3) were about.

As long as the rowing isnt having a negative impact on the relationship then it shouldnt be too much of a problem- although maybe its a sign that you just wind each other up or prevoke eachother too much.

Reply 17

Quiet _One86

Having a arguement every so often lets off steam and allows you to tell the other what your feeling and what you have been holding back but sometimes like you do may come across like you are not meant to be or simply there is something that isn't working in your relationships. Think about what triggers these spats and try and settle them discussing or talking. It might actually work things out between you two.

Reply 18

gracie88

Me and my boyfriend rarely argue. Too much arguing is bad, but so is not arguing at all. I think you two need to calm yourselves down when you feel an argument coming on or it's never going to get any better. There's no point in arguing about issues which are honestly not worth arguing over, in the end it will kill your relationship.

Reply 19

Vincente

And theres always a big argument about something at least once every fortnight. I wondered if this is normal , can it work, and how much arguing other people do.

Arguing in a relationship is pretty normal and according to my parents healthy???? But haveing a big arguement everyday is something else though.

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