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    I graduated from uni in 2015. since then I had a job working in manufacturing up until last week when me and several other workers were told that we were being laid off and had to leave (some got given a black bag to empty their locker stuff into!) and we all got escorted off site one by one without being able to say goodbye to people that we have worked with for the past year. some people had even been there for 4 years and were not allowed to say goodbye!

    so now i feel awful. I've applied for about 8-9 jobs in the space of a week but I don't know if that is enough... everytime i find a job advert it wants 2-3 years of experience in something even if it is an entry level job such as a receptionist or basic administrator. i want to be a teacher and i've contacted my old science teacher to get some experience for a week or two in may but i'm feeling so far in the dumps at this point that i feel like i won't do a good job. i usually knit or make clothes but i don't even feel like i want to do that anymore. all the things i did whilst i was at college to cheer me up aren't working anymore.


    i've tried contacting my 'friends' from uni but none of them ever seem to want to talk or they give me a short answer that you can't really reply to like they aren't interested. i just feel totally on my own.

    does anyone else have experience in a similar position or any tips on how to get back in the game and stay positive even in bad times? i think just talking to anyone would do me the world of good now but i'm just scared that they will ignore me like the rest.

    im doing a run for charity in may so i at least have that to look forward to.
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    try and keep busy, even if you don't feel like doing anything and just focus on moving forwards, find anything to keep you busy and then try and find the positives in that situation (work experience is a great idea, as is volunteering with kids or something)

    and know that A LOT of graduates will go through times like this where it feels like nothing is happening and nothing will go right, you just don't hear about those people cos it's not the sort of thing you post on facebook!
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    I'm still at uni...

    Were you close to your 'friends' at uni?
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    I understand how you feel. You've just gotta keep trying and keep yourself busy. You're still young and you shouldn't worry so much, there's many others in your position. Just have some patience and stay positive
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    Unfortunately this is one of the difficult things about unemployment, isolation and rejection.

    1. On leaving , then why not contact and go for a drink with some of the workmates that got laid off like you. In addition you could contact any of the ex workmates who you didnt get a chance to say goodbye to and go for a drink to finish things off properly. that wraps up any feelings about not saying goodbye. It will be a good tonic if you cnat ***** about it.

    2. On getting a new job then keep doing the basics, identify jobs, traget your applocations, improve them and practice interviewing. Do some volunteer work that will get you out, but also lift your spirits, get you mixing with people and be able to use at interview. This is a good start point, just enter your postcode.
    https://do-it.org/opportunities/search

    3. Join the graduate thread where other graduates are looking like you.
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...364266&page=65

    4. Try and use your time wisely by doing things youd like to have done but wont have the time later. Read the books, watch the films or take up hobbies.

    5. Eat properly and make sure you get enough exercise and sleep.

    6. Try and keep several applications going at the same time, but dont put too much stress on yourself. Quality and targeted applications are better than a scattergun approach, otherwise you could end up in a job you hate.

    7. Just hang in there things will change its just when and not if.
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    (Original post by BWV1007)
    I'm still at uni...


    Were you close to your 'friends' at uni?
    I thought I was! We used to go on nights out, hang out pretty much most of the time together and we really had a laugh. We even used to play video games together outside of term as we are all too far away to meet. But after uni one or two games later and it all stopped, contact and all. Everytime I try a group chat on FB i get one or two answers and not much else. :'P

    Not saying all people who graduate will be in my situation though. I don't live in the best place and I'm still learning to drive, I just hate being at home not being able to pay my folks anything when all I want to do is work.

    (Original post by doodle_333)
    try and keep busy, even if you don't feel like doing anything and just focus on moving forwards, find anything to keep you busy and then try and find the positives in that situation (work experience is a great idea, as is volunteering with kids or something)

    and know that A LOT of graduates will go through times like this where it feels like nothing is happening and nothing will go right, you just don't hear about those people cos it's not the sort of thing you post on facebook!
    I have noticed a lot of people have gone quiet on facebook where they used to post lots of happy updates and pictures and stuff but you can't really go by Facebook. I'd delete my own if I didn't use it to talk with people on the odd occasion that I do! Thanks for your advice, I feel a little better already. Just gotta keep going!


    (Original post by Lord Samosa)
    I understand how you feel. You've just gotta keep trying and keep yourself busy. You're still young and you shouldn't worry so much, there's many others in your position. Just have some patience and stay positive
    Thanks, I'm trying. Just don't want to get to 30 and be disappointed with myself, I know that's an exaggeration but I feel like my mum is a bit disappointed in me even though she won't openly say it. I'm disappointed even but I can't pay them to take me on. xD Just gotta keep at it!
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Unfortunately this is one of the difficult things about unemployment, isolation and rejection.

    1. On leaving , then why not contact and go for a drink with some of the workmates that got laid off like you. In addition you could contact any of the ex workmates who you didnt get a chance to say goodbye to and go for a drink to finish things off properly. that wraps up any feelings about not saying goodbye. It will be a good tonic if you cnat ***** about it.

    2. On getting a new job then keep doing the basics, identify jobs, traget your applocations, improve them and practice interviewing. Do some volunteer work that will get you out, but also lift your spirits, get you mixing with people and be able to use at interview. This is a good start point, just enter your postcode.
    https://do-it.org/opportunities/search

    3. Join the graduate thread where other graduates are looking like you.
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...364266&page=65

    4. Try and use your time wisely by doing things youd like to have done but wont have the time later. Read the books, watch the films or take up hobbies.

    5. Eat properly and make sure you get enough exercise and sleep.

    6. Try and keep several applications going at the same time, but dont put too much stress on yourself. Quality and targeted applications are better than a scattergun approach, otherwise you could end up in a job you hate.

    7. Just hang in there things will change its just when and not if.
    Thank you! I haven't read a novel in a long time, I might get one and just sit with that to chill out with for now. I'll try and take your advice, thank you.
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    (Original post by melinae)
    Thank you! I haven't read a novel in a long time, I might get one and just sit with that to chill out with for now. I'll try and take your advice, thank you.
    Lods of ebooks, but things like a good book, films, box sets, going for a walk and music are all good starters.
 
 
 
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