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    I'm a bit stumped here.

    I have a super close friend. He happens to be a convention organiser. We talk a lot, all day every day, we tell each other pretty much everything. He gives me free tables at his events. We turn to each other for a lot of support. When we had a major falling out a couple of months ago he was the one to ring me and try and make it up with me.
    But he just will NOT socialise with me outside of a convention setting.
    I'm really baffled. I've suggested bowling, or just meeting up for a drink and a chat, and every time he just says that he doesn't go out much so it's not the sort of thing he'd do, which is a load of nonsense because I know he hangs out with other friends who live closer to him (I live about 90 minutes away from him).

    I'm wondering if I'm feeling the friendship more deeply than he does to be honest. Just really baffled.
    I've tried leaving him alone a bit but then he just starts messaging me asking if I'm okay and what I'm doing.

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    That sounds a bit strange, does he have a girlfriend? Perhaps he's worried about how it might look if he went on outings with another girl.

    Perhaps he's just one of these people who prefers spending time in groups when they go out and doesn't really see the point in going out with just one person.
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    (Original post by cosmic angel)
    That sounds a bit strange, does he have a girlfriend? Perhaps he's worried about how it might look if he went on outings with another girl.

    Perhaps he's just one of these people who prefers spending time in groups when they go out and doesn't really see the point in going out with just one person.
    He's married. (He's nearly 45).

    But he has plenty of other friends, and so does she. He does meet up with his other friends who live closer one-on-one for a drink and a chat, or to go trampolining, or to the cinema. Both male and female friends.

    So I'm just stumped I really am :-/
 
 
 
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