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    So i'm not good at talking to people.......

    but here's a little 'story'.....

    I can talk to this girl 1 on 1 really well however when there is someone else involved and i'm put on the spot, my checks go red and my jaw stiffens. It's annoying because I notice it, I have a lot in my head that I want to say but for some reason I can't speak it. The thing that frustrates me the most is I know i'm doing it and in my head i'm telling my self to calm down but I just can't.

    I'm fine when I know that i'm going to be put on the spot and I can prepare for it but when it just randomly happens that's when I lose my s***...

    Any ideas how I fix this?
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    You're totally normal. I'm a blushy person, I always feel myself going hot and that usually puts me off!

    You want to know how I don't walk around like a blushing, bumbling mess? I fake my confidence! I'm as shy as anything, but I pretend to be confident (not cocky-level, mind you). And I just try not to care too much. I just tell myself, "Doing this will most likely go well, and if it doesn't, what does it matter? I'm young and this will all be insignificant soon enough!" I tell myself I look great, feel great, never put myself down but am always prepared to joke about myself. Don't take yourself too seriously. You seem cool!

    There's always going to be some shyness, but it doesn't matter, no one cares, so you shouldn't :-)
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    cos u r a beta male mate.
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    jk. hopefully you're still young so you can still change. they say after you reach 20 you cant chnage your personality. But you just got to practice your weakness. Remain calm, take a deep breathe and let your mind flow smoooothly.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So i'm not good at talking to people.......

    but here's a little 'story'.....

    I can talk to this girl 1 on 1 really well however when there is someone else involved and i'm put on the spot, my checks go red and my jaw stiffens. It's annoying because I notice it, I have a lot in my head that I want to say but for some reason I can't speak it. The thing that frustrates me the most is I know i'm doing it and in my head i'm telling my self to calm down but I just can't.

    I'm fine when I know that i'm going to be put on the spot and I can prepare for it but when it just randomly happens that's when I lose my s***...

    Any ideas how I fix this?
    Practice, practice, practice, I used to be like you but then I took an arrow to the knee.
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    fake it till you become it.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    fake it till you become it.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc
    Thats funny because I was about to quote that Ted speaker too
 
 
 
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