Regaining parent's trust?

So, my parents absolutely hate alcohol. It comes from Mum being a GP in Nottingham with a large number of alcoholic patients. Anyway, what with living in Nottingham I went through school being introduced to alcohol and regularly went out to parties and got drunk. One time my family were away so I did the stupid thing and had a party at my house. With my usual luck, parents returned when the party was in full swing and, needless to say, were pretty *******ing pissed off.

That was two years ago now (Now I'm nearly 18) and over that time I thought I'd regained my parent's trust. I honestly am a sensible drinker these days - I'll have two pints at the most and don't even touch spirits. So last weekend they were out at a concert for the night and I was round a friend's house. I was absolutely exhausted, having pulled a couple of all-nighters for my art A-level, but I didn't want to let my friends down by not going. I went, I ate a fairly large meal and I drank two cans of Guiness. Not even close to being tipsy. Anyway, I got the bus home, mumbled something to my brother and finally got a decent night's sleep.

Next evening my parents asked me to come downstairs for a chat. They ranted at me (or at least my mum did) about the dangers of alcohol and drunkeness for about half an hour and how could I go out and get drunk like that. I told them that I hadn't and they explained to me how my brother had told them how I came in staggering and unable to talk, going straight to bed. Again I went for the simple truth, that I was tired from late nights working. "Do you expect us to believe that?" was the response from mum. She absolutely won't believe a word I say. It turns out that her 'eyes were opened' by my party two years ago and she actually believes that every time I've gone out with my friends I have got utterly pissed.

The whole thing has been getting worse since that lecture because any slight disagreement I have with my bastard obnoxious brother results in him shouting "Yeah well at least I'm not a drunk like you". My parents are threatening to cut off all my Uni funding next year if they suspect I am going out drinking at all, and seeing my friends without being under their supervision is completely out of the question.

How can I fix this? The only people who know that I don't drink excessively are my friends, who my mum treats as if they're Satan's minions or something.

EDIT: Just to be clear, this isn't an 'I hate my parents' thread, I love them and respect their choice not to drink. But I can't take this complete distrust of me.

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Yorkiebar

h-rach

Can you drive? Giving lifts to your friends when you go out should squash any suspicions that you'd be drinking and would demonstrate your responsibilty. Obviously thats unless your parents are so paranoid that they think you'd drink and drive.

On another note, your brother sounds...annoying to say the least.

Good luck

I can't drive yet, I'm hoping to pass in a couple of months. I think my dad almost certainly would trust me on that score - he knows I'm not stupid - but I don't know what my mum thinks about me at the moment.

As for my brother, I've learned to ignore him over the years but this is really pushing me... :mad:

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