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    Adversity is tough. I have been through it several times. When I got 8A* in my GCSE mocks and my Dad threatened to kick me from the house, when my first real love refused to leave her boyfriend for me, or when my cow, Joban2, was critically ill from a blocked udder.

    So how do you deal with it?

    Well the thing not to do is to blame things. People blame:

    Parents
    Friends
    Politics
    Racism
    Social circumstances
    The weather
    Advisors

    PEOPLE BLAME EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING apart from themselves....

    They lash out at other people and try and discredit their legitimate achievements.

    This is not productive. It is not going to help the situation.

    The first step to a recovery is blame yourself and realise that YOU are in control. It is up to you.

    You are going to do it. Life is going throw obstacles at you and you're just going say, "life, get out of my way". And it's going to work.

    This is what I did, and I got through many significant challenges. Whereas others just blame it on other people.
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    First in !
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    (Original post by banta.claus.)
    The problem with blaming someone or something else is that it removes the situation from under your control.
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    (Original post by Awesome Genius)
    The problem with blaming someone or something else is that it removes the situation from under your control.
    I agree
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    Sir yes sir.
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    Terrible advice, especially with a site with many self harmers and people suffereing from depression. If you mean people should take responsibility that helps, but if you mean that people shoild blame themselves, then no. In many situation other people are to blame, such as sexual abuse. Taking the blame for that is stupid and harmful.
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    So you have uncover the truth for the first time............ So you think people don't know it ???????
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    Ok Churchill
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Terrible advice, especially with a site with many self harmers and people suffereing from depression. If you mean people should take responsibility that helps, but if you mean that people shoild blame themselves, then no. In many situation other people are to blame, such as sexual abuse. Taking the blame for that is stupid and harmful.
    I think may be blame is a harsh word

    Taking responsibility then

    Too often you see people who take no responsibility. They are fixated on "the system" and subconsciously they are accepting that they are powerless.
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    Not feeling it here. Had hoped for more insight. Silly me, that's my fault.
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    To answer your question, I use whatever skills I have and my past experiences to think of the best way out of the problem and then do my best

 
 
 
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