****-stirring or lying or what?

This has happened twice now, my boyfriend has told me something about my parents and my mum has completely denied.
The first one was over easter i started meeting up with an old school friend (my boyfriend has never met her so has no reason to dislike her) and he told me that my mum had taken him to one side and told him that she didn't like my friend and thought she was bad influence.
This is unusual cos my mum and i are close and if she has problem about something i do or someone i see she would talk to me about it. When i tried to confront my mum about this she denied ever saying anything to him about my friend.
The second time was when my parents came to pick me up from uni and my boyfriend told me he was polite and said hello and everything and they completely ignored him whereas my mum said it was completely the other way round.
My parents and boyfriend used to get on fine until recently, when we had a few problems which we are still trying to work through and i know my mum wasn't happy about us getting back together after we broke up twice in one week.
I don't expect my boyfriend to lie to me, but obviously i wouldn't expect that from my mum either, there is the possibility that one of them could be ****-stirring but which one and why? Any ideas, advice?

Reply 1

sparkler

i would imagine, and hope, that it's your boyfriend...

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

My dad has very little opinion on anything, he is one of those guys who unless he feels very strongly about something or it directly involves him he says 'go ask your mother'. He would probably take my mums side anyway. My mum seems to be trying so hard as well to prove that she doesn't disapprove of my friend as well as she keeps saying she is happy to give me a lift over to hers anytime.

Reply 3

biwwy_wove

If your mom didn't say anything to you and it was your boyfriend moaning to me that would suggest its your boyfriend as, if he hadn't said anything nothing would have come out and he wouldn' have looked bad, therefore it probably wasn't your mom trying to make him look bad. Anyway your mom probably would not say that about your friend to your boyfriend if she didn't want you to know as he was bound to tell you.
Does any of that make sense?
I don't envy your situation I have to say! :s-smilie:

Reply 4

decoy

I'd believe your mum.
Sounds like he's jealous to me.

Plus if you're close to yer Mam like you said you are then why would she lie?

Sounds like your bf is a **** stirring, get him in the bin.

Reply 5

Vampyrcorn

Don't you think you know, deep inside yourself, who is more likely to lie to you?

I mean, you must know them both pretty well.. use your judgement. I would be inclined to trust your mum more, but my opinion doesn't mean much since I don't know them.

Reply 6

Paperfolders57

load of **** hes lying mum knows!

Reply 7

tinkerbellejess

But why would he lie? Especially about something like that?

Reply 8

À la mode

Hmm it sounds like it's your boyfriend. Perhaps as other people have said, he is jealous. He probably wants you to spend time with him instead of your old school friend, and pretended your mum said it because he knows you're close to her and trust her judgement. Then he'd get his way...
However, it is just one word against the other. It could be your mum, it just seems unlikely. Why not give them both the benefit of the doubt and if something happens again, then weigh up who is more likely to blame. I would also say to you that if you don't trust your boyfriends it's probably not worth going out with him anyway...
Good luck and hope everything gets sorted. :smile:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

He has no reason to be jealous, he lives in the city where i'm at uni and i am at home for the holidays, so when i'm out with my friend i couldn't see him anyway. So it couldn't really be that he thinks i should be with him rather than my friend could it?

Reply 10

biwwy_wove

Could it be that he doesn' care about your friend but in envious of the close relationship with your mom? Maybe he wants you to depend on him for everything? Just some guesses as obviously I don't know him, you or your mom!

Reply 11

Pixie_256

Are you close with your mum? She's the one he has the problem with not your dad, he sounds like the jealous type and obviously wants you to himself-trying to get rid of your friend and now your mum. If you care about him that much reassure him you want to be with him ( he may be insecure) but if you dont- chuck him, too much hassle!!!

Reply 12

mudblood

I can't imagine why this would be happening but I'd suggest that your boyfriend's the one twisting things - you've said yourself that you're close to your mother.

Perhaps he's desperate for all of your attention? I really don't know.

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