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Told a kid she deserved to be bum raped
My Mum is a childminder and earlier today one of the girls she looks after (who is about 11, not sure exactly how old) was harassing me. She was calling me fat (which I'm not for the record), insulting my brother and being generally offensive. Then for some reason she came over and started pulling on my hair and slapped me. At this point my mum walked in and I shouted at her to 'control those kids' and then told the girl that she deserved to go to prison and be bum raped for the rest of her life. After I said this my Mum looked very shocked. I accidentally let the phrase fall out of my mouth since it's the sort of casual joking insult I would use with my friends but in hindsight is a bit inappropriate to say to an 11 year old. My mum has been acting weird with me since.
Do you think what I said was particularly shocking or disgusting? I mean, I said it accidentally and it was just light hearted and stuff but my mum has reacted badly, though she is normally uptight about stuff. I need other opinions.
Anyway this leads me to my other problem: Mental obsessive compulsion. In spite of me not seeing myself in the wrong here, I will probably mentally obsess over this for the next few days now. I won't be able to stop analysing and replaying the situation in my head. This happens to me very regularly over very small things and is starting to drive me insane. I used to be compulsive over other things like washing my hands but I can cope with that, it's these mental obsessions that are getting to me.
Does anyone else suffer from similar problems or have advice for either situation?
Do you think what I said was particularly shocking or disgusting? I mean, I said it accidentally and it was just light hearted and stuff but my mum has reacted badly, though she is normally uptight about stuff. I need other opinions.
Anyway this leads me to my other problem: Mental obsessive compulsion. In spite of me not seeing myself in the wrong here, I will probably mentally obsess over this for the next few days now. I won't be able to stop analysing and replaying the situation in my head. This happens to me very regularly over very small things and is starting to drive me insane. I used to be compulsive over other things like washing my hands but I can cope with that, it's these mental obsessions that are getting to me.
Does anyone else suffer from similar problems or have advice for either situation?
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LOL thats the funniest thing I've read all day.
I'd rep you if you weren't anon!!
How does a girl get bum raped in a prison anyway??
I'd rep you if you weren't anon!!How does a girl get bum raped in a prison anyway??
It doesn't strike me as a REALLY offensive thing to say, especially in the context, but I can see how your mum might have reacted the way she did, seeing as she's your mum and EVERY parent wants/believes that their (and only their) offspring are the cutest little adorable angels that would never hurt a fly
I wouldn't say what you said was shocking or anything like that. But I joke like that all the time. In front of your mother though, not good at all. I say you just apologise to her about your use of language.
I do that quite a lot anyway, with a lot of things, especially exams now that they're going on. I think about what happened, what I should have or could have done instead and all this other malarkey. I'm pretty sure it's quite natural.
Anonymous
Anyway this leads me to my other problem: Mental obsessive compulsion. In spite of me not seeing myself in the wrong here, I will probably mentally obsess over this for the next few days now. I won't be able to stop analysing and replaying the situation in my head. This happens to me very regularly over very small things and is starting to drive me insane. I used to be compulsive over other things like washing my hands but I can cope with that, it's these mental obsessions that are getting to me.
Does anyone else suffer from similar problems or have advice for either situation?
Does anyone else suffer from similar problems or have advice for either situation?
I do that quite a lot anyway, with a lot of things, especially exams now that they're going on. I think about what happened, what I should have or could have done instead and all this other malarkey. I'm pretty sure it's quite natural.
That's horrible. What's wrong with you? 
This thread has made me laugh. 
I get this a lot. I hate it when I am doing something and I suddenly get reminded of something small that happened years ago, and I just keep thinking about it. It is usually something that got me into trouble, or something that I did that was out-of-the-ordinary. It is really annoying and gets me really frustrated.
Anonymous
Anyway this leads me to my other problem: Mental obsessive compulsion. In spite of me not seeing myself in the wrong here, I will probably mentally obsess over this for the next few days now. I won't be able to stop analysing and replaying the situation in my head. This happens to me very regularly over very small things and is starting to drive me insane. I used to be compulsive over other things like washing my hands but I can cope with that, it's these mental obsessions that are getting to me.
Does anyone else suffer from similar problems or have advice for either situation?
Does anyone else suffer from similar problems or have advice for either situation?
I get this a lot. I hate it when I am doing something and I suddenly get reminded of something small that happened years ago, and I just keep thinking about it. It is usually something that got me into trouble, or something that I did that was out-of-the-ordinary. It is really annoying and gets me really frustrated.
I think the fact that I preceeded the rape part with the prison part works in my defence...I mean, I didn't just outright tell her that she should be raped for slapping me. My train of thought was she was misbehaving so she needed to go to jail and we all associate jail with bum rape (or at least I do). I think that's how I let it slip out without thinking properly. I feel really awkward around my mum now...ugh.
To Tabris, yeah I also get a bit obsessive over exams although that usually passes quite quickly. I've recently started to think back over just normal social encounters and wondered if my behaviour has been misinterpreted. For example the other day I was sat with a group of friends and one of them made an over the top gesture. I made fun of the gesture and really upset my friend who stormed out. Now I actually don't think I was in the wrong in that situation and think they were overreacting but I still obsessed over it for a while. I also have a habit of commenting on fatness in front of fat people, which is a bit insensitive although I only do that because I am not conscious of their own fatness when I'm with them so I don't think. Ugh I can't stand the way I am sometimes, I might just stop talking forever.
To Tabris, yeah I also get a bit obsessive over exams although that usually passes quite quickly. I've recently started to think back over just normal social encounters and wondered if my behaviour has been misinterpreted. For example the other day I was sat with a group of friends and one of them made an over the top gesture. I made fun of the gesture and really upset my friend who stormed out. Now I actually don't think I was in the wrong in that situation and think they were overreacting but I still obsessed over it for a while. I also have a habit of commenting on fatness in front of fat people, which is a bit insensitive although I only do that because I am not conscious of their own fatness when I'm with them so I don't think. Ugh I can't stand the way I am sometimes, I might just stop talking forever.
I hate kids around that age, they are generally all morons.
Who knows, it might sort her out- the thought of being bum raped in prison.
Who knows, it might sort her out- the thought of being bum raped in prison.
Anonymous
I get this a lot. I hate it when I am doing something and I suddenly get reminded of something small that happened years ago, and I just keep thinking about it. It is usually something that got me into trouble, or something that I did that was out-of-the-ordinary. It is really annoying and gets me really frustrated.
I get this a lot. I hate it when I am doing something and I suddenly get reminded of something small that happened years ago, and I just keep thinking about it. It is usually something that got me into trouble, or something that I did that was out-of-the-ordinary. It is really annoying and gets me really frustrated.
Yes! That's exactly it. It's so annoying.
I think telling somebody to be bum raped is incredibly offensive.
Ah, she's 11 matey, gotta be a bit more reserved. Tbh, when i'm genuinely annoyed it's not the sort of thing i'd say anyway, it's always only jokey.
Are you male or female? That might determine what kind of an impact it would have had? If a bloke told me I deserved to get raped, i'd find him much more intimidating than a girl.
Are you male or female? That might determine what kind of an impact it would have had? If a bloke told me I deserved to get raped, i'd find him much more intimidating than a girl.
I'm not sure why being a man or woman should make any difference. It's not like OP really meant it and the kid sounds like a complete turd. Just one of those things.
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Ah, she's 11 matey, gotta be a bit more reserved. Tbh, when i'm genuinely annoyed it's not the sort of thing i'd say anyway, it's always only jokey.
Are you male or female? That might determine what kind of an impact it would have had? If a bloke told me I deserved to get raped, i'd find him much more intimidating than a girl.
Are you male or female? That might determine what kind of an impact it would have had? If a bloke told me I deserved to get raped, i'd find him much more intimidating than a girl.
I'm a guy. I'm hoping that she doesn't know what rape is.
Admittedly when you think about it it does sound incredibly offensive to tell someone they deserve to be raped. But I didn't mean it literally, I wasn't envisioning actual violent rape when I said it. It's more of a comic image for me. Maybe I've just been desensitized to such insults though. My housemates are always going around wishing Aids on eachother and I had a momentary lapse of self-awareness of the fact that I was in front of my mum and an 11 year old.
I over-analyse a lot as well. For example over the summer I shall be replaying the exams in my head till I get my results. Sometimes I think of something I did or someone said (sometimes even years ago) and get worked up about. I don't think I'm the only one though and hearing others express their opinions about it is quite conforting actually. I think I need to stop thinking so much, sometimes I let my thought run away from me and I eventually think of something I did wrong years ago that I hadn't even thought about for ages and then I'll get really worked up about it.
I think you need to hold your tongue a bit mate but fair play sounds like she was asking for it.
Steve
I think you need to hold your tongue a bit mate but fair play sounds like she was asking for it.
Steve
Anonymous
I'm a guy. I'm hoping that she doesn't know what rape is.
Admittedly when you think about it it does sound incredibly offensive to tell someone they deserve to be raped. But I didn't mean it literally, I wasn't envisioning actual violent rape when I said it. It's more of a comic image for me. Maybe I've just been desensitized to such insults though. My housemates are always going around wishing Aids on eachother and I had a momentary lapse of self-awareness of the fact that I was in front of my mum and an 11 year old.
Admittedly when you think about it it does sound incredibly offensive to tell someone they deserve to be raped. But I didn't mean it literally, I wasn't envisioning actual violent rape when I said it. It's more of a comic image for me. Maybe I've just been desensitized to such insults though. My housemates are always going around wishing Aids on eachother and I had a momentary lapse of self-awareness of the fact that I was in front of my mum and an 11 year old.
Your lot sound like my friends.
11 yr olds can never have too many bum rape threats. You did her a favour.
It's also the fact that that her parents pay your mum to look after their daughter and they might decide to look for another childminder, and thus lose you mum income and reputation as a good childminder.
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