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I love you; how soon?

I was wondering what everyones' opinions were on this topic;
how soon is too soon to say I love you ?
Do you think you should say it when you feel it, or do you think there's an acceptable period of time after which it's "allowable" to say it ? Or alternatively, do you place any value on when you say it whatsoever ?
any opinions are appreciated :smile:

Reply 1

x_princessofdiamonds_x

wen u feel the moment is right...u say it..
dont think 2 ureself 'is this the right moment?' coz it wont be.. u'll know wen its the right time...u just feel urself over the edge to say it..
it doesnt matter how long its been, if u think u love someone, it doesnt matter how long uve been together, everyones differnt. i just hope they feel tha same :smile:

Reply 2

Dr_Rock

I think it's a mixture of both timing and feelings tbh. Say I genuinely felt like I was in love with a girl, but we'd only been seeing each other for a few weeks. I'd probably keep my feelings to myself for a bit, just until I was 100% sure she was feeling the same as me. Nothing worse than saying the old 'I luurve you' and not getting a decent reply(which i had to do to a girl i was once seeing).

Reply 3

shona

Say it if/when you feel it. That's all. :smile:

Reply 4

Spoog!

It's important to say it when you feel it, however there is a time when it's unacceptable to say it, such as within a few weeks, or an hour (which happened to me once, I got really annoyed).

It's always a good idea to be sure of the other persons feelings too, nothing hurts more than telling someone you love them and then they don't say it (or anything) back.

Reply 5

BabyBee

Yeh i agree with above - i don't think there is a specific time. If you feel it then say it but be aware whether your partner feels the same or not as you don't want to make them feel akward. There will be a moment when it feels just right :smile:

don't worry

Reply 6

scribble_girl

When you feel it. It's not necessarily the first time you say it that's the most important, it's when the person you're saying it to knows that it's true, and feels it too. Even if you've meant it before, that's when it really becomes something :smile:

Reply 7

xatm092

I think I said it first after about 2 months, and she returend the compliment. But I'm not sure if it's love, or just deep affection.

Reply 8

shauny

Saying it too soon is a big turn off, so use some sense and say it when the fact that you both love each other is already obvious and assumed by both of you.

..shauny

Reply 9

andy_cole2

there are enough threads on here about people being told i love you too soon, i think it scares people so only say it if u think it and its appropriate, IMO

Reply 10

happydinosaur

Not before you are actually in a relationship. That is wrong and scary.

Reply 11

Samsara

Not too soon. I knew a few guys who did the charm of "I love you" on a second date... it makes the words completely meaningless because how can someone love someone else properly on a second date?! Then if the time does come by and the relationship works out, it makes it not so special to ever tell each other how in love they are.

Reply 12

Rei

Ull know when u can say it! ... trust me..but just dont go saying it the first time you see her lol..or him

Reply 13

Lolly-88

Definitely wait a while to say it. My boyfriend said it before we even met...i was not impressed. :s-smilie:

Reply 14

lilgemmalea

Before i got with my boyfriend. There was about six months build up. And i did know he felt strongly about me. And i had deep feelings for him aswell. The day we started going out was his 18th birthday and he said to me "I love you, you've made my birthday so special for me" but this is with six months before hand. I said i loved him back, which i did, just not love love, it was still friend love.

Six weeks later, something happened to me that made my world turn upside down, and i went to bits, i became a recluse and hit rock bottom after my loss, and i just thought it wasn't fair on my boyfriend at all. So we split up.

I got better and six months on we got back together. I missed him so much during our split. And it was nothing to do with us that provoked the split.. and as they say:

- You never know what you've got until it's gone.

And now when i say i love you.. i mean it.. really really mean it. He helped me through a rough time. As my friend.

There are circumstances. But don't say it if you don't love the other person at all. It's just not fair on them. But for some people it takes a longer amount of time for them to realise than it does for others. So if you're planning to say it to someone.. wait until you do. And then tell her.. at the randomest of times.. it'll mean a lot. :smile:

Reply 15

Agony Aunt

Whenever it feels right. It could be years or a few months. But not really acceptable within a very short time limit. A guy once told me he loved me after only kissing me ONCE and that was the only time that we'd met ever.

My boyfriend told me he loved me about a month later we started going out, and I told him about a month later than that. So if anyone says it to you, don't feel pressured to say it back immediately.

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