Help with a friend

First of all, I'm a guy.

I have this friend, who is a girl, who I've known my entire life. Recently we've been getting very close, so, I asked her out, because she knows that I think the world of her, and that I am attracted to her. When I asked her, she then turned around and said that she would never even consider going out with me. What should I do?

Thanks in advance!

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

A;so, since I have asked her, she is now ignoring me.

Reply 2

Angrybanana

She didn't exactly break it to you gently did she? Ouch :frown:

I wouldn't push it any further, all you can do is live and learn I'm afraid. And pick friends who give a crap about your feelings aswell, what she said was unecessarily cruel.

Reply 3

Lidka

I would say, based on that information, that she is not much of a friend, and that you're probably better off without her.

If you do wish to continue your friendship, however, then I would say get her on her own, and ask her to explain her behaviour. Girls can be funny. She may just be feeling embarassed, and is too ashamed to talk to you, in which case your confrontation would probably be welcome and would most likely clear things up. Or she may have just decided that she doesn't want to be friends with you any more, in which case, that may be a good thing... do you really want to be with someone who treats you like that?

Reply 4

herecomestrouble

She is probably just a little shocked/overwhelemed and her immediate reaction was shock rather than repulsion or however it may seem!
She probably needs a little space to let the fact that you have feelings for her settle in, but hopefully you will still remain friends?
Maybe you could write her a letter or something explaining your feelings and say that no matter what, you want to remain friends as she is very special to you?

Good Luck, hope it works out for you :hugs:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the comments so far!

herecomestrouble

She is probably just a little shocked/overwhelemed and her immediate reaction was shock rather than repulsion or however it may seem!

Thee thing is, she has known for years that I have feelings for her, so surely it cant be that? :s-smilie:

Reply 6

*Katie*

Anonymous

Thee thing is, she has known for years that I have feelings for her, so surely it cant be that? :s-smilie:

Well maybe she's getting sick of it, and can't be bothered to try to be friends with someone that has ulterior motives. There's only so many times you can kindly say "It's just not going to happen".
There's persistence, and then sheer annoyance.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

*Katie*

There's persistence, and then sheer annoyance.

It is only the first time that I have asked her out, and I have never mentioned it beforehand. The only reason she knows about my feelings for her is because she overheard a converstaion.

Reply 8

*Katie*

Anonymous

It is only the first time that I have asked her out, and I have never mentioned it beforehand. The only reason she knows about my feelings for her is because she overheard a converstaion.

So she knew about it, and didn't seem to indicate any feelings in the other direction? Well, I personally would have taken the hint - now I do think she overreacted; maybe she just thought that you'd gotten over it, and doesn't think she can be friends with someone who has romantic feelings for her because she'll feel guilty. I'd give her some serious space.