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is there something wrong with me
hey is there possibly something wrong with me?
-in public places such as town centres, when im walking alone i feel like everyone is looking at me thinking negative thoughts about me like 'hes a loner' etc. When i'm with people these thoughts dont occur.
-in social groups with new people i feel completely inhibited and will often not say a word. When im with people i know i will speak.
-i think i'm extremely sensitive and care alot about what people think about me. If someone insults me, even if its banter , i tend to agonise over it. Also i'm also quick to think that people dont like me, and often think that my friends dont really like me. I dont think they really understand me and that it would be difficult for me to talk about this stuff with them
-i will analyse things over and over again, even something as mundane as an unimportant conversation. I will read into a persons expressions and the stuff they say, drawing connotations and conclusions in my mind.
-i feel very uneasy making eye contact with people
-i often mumble, never raising my voice or drawing attention to myself. I feel extremely inhibited, i struggle to show emotions and am generally unexpressive. I always seem unenthusiastic.
-i feel uncomfortable talking about myself, thinking ive got nothing interesting to say. i keep alot of stuff hidden.
-around girls i'm shyer and feel more insecure although this has subsided a little.
-i'm generally cynical and instinctively focus on the negative rather than the positive. For example when my girlfriend and i first started going out i would continually question what she was doing with me.
bit of background info:
-genetics may play a part. My dad is quite shy, quite similar to me. My brother is ridiculously shy and socially incompetent.
-i was bullied quite alot and racially abused throughout secondary school
-i was pretty happy and innocent up until about the age of 17. i would say have been fairly unhappy ever since.
-im 20/m and go to uni
cheers
-in public places such as town centres, when im walking alone i feel like everyone is looking at me thinking negative thoughts about me like 'hes a loner' etc. When i'm with people these thoughts dont occur.
-in social groups with new people i feel completely inhibited and will often not say a word. When im with people i know i will speak.
-i think i'm extremely sensitive and care alot about what people think about me. If someone insults me, even if its banter , i tend to agonise over it. Also i'm also quick to think that people dont like me, and often think that my friends dont really like me. I dont think they really understand me and that it would be difficult for me to talk about this stuff with them
-i will analyse things over and over again, even something as mundane as an unimportant conversation. I will read into a persons expressions and the stuff they say, drawing connotations and conclusions in my mind.
-i feel very uneasy making eye contact with people
-i often mumble, never raising my voice or drawing attention to myself. I feel extremely inhibited, i struggle to show emotions and am generally unexpressive. I always seem unenthusiastic.
-i feel uncomfortable talking about myself, thinking ive got nothing interesting to say. i keep alot of stuff hidden.
-around girls i'm shyer and feel more insecure although this has subsided a little.
-i'm generally cynical and instinctively focus on the negative rather than the positive. For example when my girlfriend and i first started going out i would continually question what she was doing with me.
bit of background info:
-genetics may play a part. My dad is quite shy, quite similar to me. My brother is ridiculously shy and socially incompetent.
-i was bullied quite alot and racially abused throughout secondary school
-i was pretty happy and innocent up until about the age of 17. i would say have been fairly unhappy ever since.
-im 20/m and go to uni
cheers
Reply 1
You have some similarities to me, as in I was bullied. Genetically I cant help you...although blood tests can. Alot of what you said the-hes aloner business and the agonising and over analytic side I can understand. Yep I went to see someone and yes theres something wrong. I got told I never learnt like other people do how to deel with things properly or way of deeling with people. I suggest a councillor, but im guessing like me you wont want to trust them and you'l think they're thinking the worse. Would you consider seeing your doctor?
If you ever want to talk message me- about anything
If you ever want to talk message me- about anything
Reply 2
There is NOTHING wrong with you - you are obviously just a senstive guy - which is a big bonus when getting girls 
You also seem to have various insecurities but that is nothing to be ashamed of - everyone has them, just some people have more intrusive ones than others. Have you ever considered joiinng clubs or something to help improve your confidence? Or is there anyone you can talk to about how you've been feeling to try and work through?
If ever you want to message me - even just for a rant, go for it
Chin up hun xx
You also seem to have various insecurities but that is nothing to be ashamed of - everyone has them, just some people have more intrusive ones than others. Have you ever considered joiinng clubs or something to help improve your confidence? Or is there anyone you can talk to about how you've been feeling to try and work through?
If ever you want to message me - even just for a rant, go for it
Chin up hun xx
Reply 3
I would see a GP and explain everything you have said here.
herecomestrouble
There is NOTHING wrong with you - you are obviously just a senstive guy - which is a big bonus when getting girls
You also seem to have various insecurities but that is nothing to be ashamed of - everyone has them, just some people have more intrusive ones than others. Have you ever considered joiinng clubs or something to help improve your confidence? Or is there anyone you can talk to about how you've been feeling to try and work through?
If ever you want to message me - even just for a rant, go for it
Chin up hun xx
You also seem to have various insecurities but that is nothing to be ashamed of - everyone has them, just some people have more intrusive ones than others. Have you ever considered joiinng clubs or something to help improve your confidence? Or is there anyone you can talk to about how you've been feeling to try and work through?
If ever you want to message me - even just for a rant, go for it
Chin up hun xx
Agreed...feel free to message me too
Reply 5
No course theres nothing wrong with you! You obviously care what other people think but try not to let it affect you as much.
When you are walking in the street no one pays attention to anyone else they just want to get on with whatever they are doing.
You say the shyness around girls is subsiding well that great just keep doing what you are doing, it's clearly working!
Join a club or take up a class it'll help your shyness, improve your self esteem when you achieve something and hopefully improve your enthusiasm levels.
PM me if you need anything..for an in-depth intellectual chat or just a moan.
Stay strong..x
When you are walking in the street no one pays attention to anyone else they just want to get on with whatever they are doing.
You say the shyness around girls is subsiding well that great just keep doing what you are doing, it's clearly working!
Join a club or take up a class it'll help your shyness, improve your self esteem when you achieve something and hopefully improve your enthusiasm levels.
PM me if you need anything..for an in-depth intellectual chat or just a moan.
Stay strong..x
Reply 6
It sounds exactly like I was about two years ago.I went for help and saw a therapist and it helped immensely so I agree with those who say get help.
You'll probably get cognitive behavioural therapy which challenges irrational beliefs and soon you'll start to see that you were wrong.
You'll probably get cognitive behavioural therapy which challenges irrational beliefs and soon you'll start to see that you were wrong.
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