Um hey. So first things first. I caught my husband in bed having sex with a "friend" of mine this morning after I came from a trip of (I arrived much earlier than expected) . And clearly they didn't hear me arrive cause my coach dropped me off at the main road, hence no car noises.. Um i didn't have the guts to go and confront them then..so I just walked out with my stuff again to my cousins house...
Later I came back and she was there too. And I acted like I didn't know anything to see if they'll spill the beans but no apparently he invited her there to "welcome" me and he "just was in a meeting" till then.
I've been pretty messed up today..I don't know what to do. Or what to say.
Getting a divorce is a gonna be hard due to south asain families having this taboo of divorce. I just don't know. Any advice would be welcome.
(I'm 24 btw)
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OMG! So sorry to hear that. Don't mind the taboo. You should leave your husband and get a divorce. He cheated on you and the worst part was, you saw them doing that on actual. The nerve! If I were you, I'll confront them.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Um hey. So first things first. I caught my husband in bed having sex with a "friend" of mine this morning after I came from a trip of (I arrived much earlier than expected) . And clearly they didn't hear me arrive cause my coach dropped me off at the main road, hence no car noises.. Um i didn't have the guts to go and confront them then..so I just walked out with my stuff again to my cousins house...
Later I came back and she was there too. And I acted like I didn't know anything to see if they'll spill the beans but no apparently he invited her there to "welcome" me and he "just was in a meeting" till then.
I've been pretty messed up today..I don't know what to do. Or what to say.
Getting a divorce is a gonna be hard due to south asain families having this taboo of divorce. I just don't know. Any advice would be welcome.
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(Original post by amelia_lily)
OMG! So sorry to hear that. Don't mind the taboo. You should leave your husband and get a divorce. He cheated on you and the worst part was, you saw them doing that on actual. The nerve! If I were you, I'll confront them.
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Confront him.
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If you talk to him about how his day was, and he completely skirts over anything happening. Just simply be like "Do you want to try that again?"
Calmly address the elephant in the room.
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Um hey. So first things first. I caught my husband in bed having sex with a "friend" of mine this morning after I came from a trip of (I arrived much earlier than expected) . And clearly they didn't hear me arrive cause my coach dropped me off at the main road, hence no car noises.. Um i didn't have the guts to go and confront them then..so I just walked out with my stuff again to my cousins house...
Later I came back and she was there too. And I acted like I didn't know anything to see if they'll spill the beans but no apparently he invited her there to "welcome" me and he "just was in a meeting" till then.
I've been pretty messed up today..I don't know what to do. Or what to say.
Getting a divorce is a gonna be hard due to south asain families having this taboo of divorce. I just don't know. Any advice would be welcome.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Um hey. So first things first. I caught my husband in bed having sex with a "friend" of mine this morning after I came from a trip of (I arrived much earlier than expected) . And clearly they didn't hear me arrive cause my coach dropped me off at the main road, hence no car noises.. Um i didn't have the guts to go and confront them then..so I just walked out with my stuff again to my cousins house...
Later I came back and she was there too. And I acted like I didn't know anything to see if they'll spill the beans but no apparently he invited her there to "welcome" me and he "just was in a meeting" till then.
I've been pretty messed up today..I don't know what to do. Or what to say.
Getting a divorce is a gonna be hard due to south asain families having this taboo of divorce. I just don't know. Any advice would be welcome.
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confront him because he'll just think he hasn't been found out, address the situation and get out of this stupid relationship. what gets me livid is the fact that he lied to your face, what a useless ********. If you do confront him be confident and assertive and don't let him talk over you and tell your "friend" she's a home wrecker.
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That's FUXKING disgusting of him what a hoe.
Here's a plan/what I would do.
(Preparation: pack ALL your at stuff beforehand and keep it at your friends/sisters house)
Walk up to him all sexy like aww baby I'm so proud of you for being so loyal to me while I was away I wanna treat u xoxoxo
Start kissing him etc
And start sucking his **** real good
When he's about to *** just bite the top of his **** off
I swear just bite it right off or at least as hard you can
Then get up spit the top of his **** out back at him and leave.
And be wearing a thong or something and proper jiggle ur butt as you leave so he knows he's not about to get any of that south Asian ass ever again. -
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How long have you been married?
Talk to him but dont be surprised if he denies it, ge doesnt know what you did or didnt see. he may even blame it on you.
Figure out if you want to stay somewhere else or cna bear to sat where you are.
Decide if you really want a divorce or will go to counseling? If you discuss with him decide on the changes you want.
You can also try mediation.
If you want a divorce figure out if you will need a solicitor or you cna do it yourself. Its pretty straightforward as long as there are no kids involved.
Get financial documents and make sure you shut down bank accounts so he cnat empty them. You alos want to make sure he cnat take out loans that make you liable as well. Im assuming at 24 you dont have a house yet or kids.
Just put everything on a checklist an work through them, sorry its happened, but its better imo to talk it though , make a decision and then stick to it. -
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(Original post by alkaline.)
That's FUXKING disgusting of him what a hoe.
Here's a plan/what I would do.
(Preparation: pack ALL your at stuff beforehand and keep it at your friends/sisters house)
Walk up to him all sexy like aww baby I'm so proud of you for being so loyal to me while I was away I wanna treat u xoxoxo
Start kissing him etc
And start sucking his **** real good
When he's about to *** just bite the top of his **** off
I swear just bite it right off or at least as hard you can
Then get up spit the top of his **** out back at him and leave.
And be wearing a thong or something and proper jiggle ur butt as you leave so he knows he's not about to get any of that south Asian ass ever again. -
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Does he buy condoms?
I remember reading up about a woman who was in a similar situation to you and she got condoms her husband used, pierced a tiny hole in all the wrappers and soaked them in chilli water for a few hours. Then the husband used them on the woman he was sleeping with and yeah, you could guess what happened
Do what the woman did. He'll regret cheating on you.
And leave him. He doesn't deserve you.Last edited by MrsSheldonCooper; 25-04-2016 at 20:40. -
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(Original post by Anonymous)
If you talk to him about how his day was, and he completely skirts over anything happening. Just simply be like "Do you want to try that again?"
Calmly address the elephant in the room.
Don't let this ho stomp all over you.
(Original post by thefatone)
I see so he's not your husband anymore and she's not your friend right?
Oh hell no. I just never thought he's go this far. Ever.
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If I were you, I would get a divorce. It will just get worse over time. Don't invest your time and energy with someone who isn't of your worth and someone you can't trust if they don't repay the same back. Besides, it is your life so your family will just have to understand and deal with it, so you shouldn't feel guilty about getting a divorce just because of your family. You are still young, so I'm more than certain you will find someone much better for you.
And thank you so much.
[QUOTE=chocolatesauce;64392679]confront him because he'll just think he hasn't been found out, address the situation and get out of this stupid relationship. what gets me livid is the fact that he lied to your face, what a useless ********. If you do confront him be confident and assertive and don't let him talk over you and tell your "friend" she's a home wrecker.[/QUOTE]
^^^^Tell me about it. I just ignored all the signs and still kept telling myself it's all okay. But I guess not ehh. The lying pissed me off too, someone should give them an oscar for so much acting. And I will do. -
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name and shame the hoe
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Deal with him and leave him.
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(Original post by alkaline.)
That's FUXKING disgusting of him what a hoe.
Here's a plan/what I would do.
(Preparation: pack ALL your at stuff beforehand and keep it at your friends/sisters house)
Walk up to him all sexy like aww baby I'm so proud of you for being so loyal to me while I was away I wanna treat u xoxoxo
Start kissing him etc
And start sucking his **** real good
When he's about to *** just bite the top of his **** off
I swear just bite it right off or at least as hard you can
Then get up spit the top of his **** out back at him and leave.
And be wearing a thong or something and proper jiggle ur butt as you leave so he knows he's not about to get any of that south Asian ass ever again.
(Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
Does he buy condoms?
I remember reading up about a woman who was in a similar situation to you and she got condoms her husband used, pierced a tiny hole in all the wrappers and soaked them in chilli water for a few hours. Then the husband used them on the woman he was sleeping with and yeah, you could guess what happened
But I'll need to sort this mess out before attempting all thisp
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Loool this is classic. You actually made my day. Lets just say I'm tempted to do this
Ohh gosh. This sounds brilliant. Same as the other one, I'm tempted to do this..
But I'll need to sort this mess out before attempting all thisp
Honestly, go ahead and do it. You deserve better.
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