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    Hi! I always think so little of myself and I just want to stop. I get anxiety, and for 7 weeks last year, I had to see someone about it. It really helped, but it hasn't gone completely.

    It's just however much I try in things, I always feel like I could do more or I've not done enough. At work, I get praise from managers and supervisors etc, but I just look at my work and think like "I could do better". Like 5 people could thank me for my work, but I'll go home thinking there will always be someone better, or I've not done enough.

    I've always tried to be a good friend to people, I love making people laugh, being there for them when they need me, but I just feel like I'm not a good enough friend or there will be a friend of theirs who is much better than me.

    In college, I was never happy with the work I produced. I got a Triple Distinction grade, but during feedback with my tutor, if he'd praise me up, I'd always criticise my work, or say things I could do better.

    I've always been like this, and it's getting me down lately. I get praised up about things, but I always feel like I don't do enough. How can I stop feeling like this? Thank you
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    You sound like a perfectionist. I would start focusing on becoming a bit rough around the edges. Ask yourself what you are trying to prove and go from there.
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    I consider this a good trait and way to think . Just follow through with the pain and im sure it will lead you to a nicer place.
    Truthfully there are no happy people as people who exist with sadness can bring them down. Im sure you want everybody to be happy?
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    (Original post by VeniViciVidi)
    You sound like a perfectionist. I would start focusing on becoming a bit rough around the edges. Ask yourself what you are trying to prove and go from there.
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    I consider this a good trait and way to think . Just follow through with the pain and im sure it will lead you to a nicer place.
    Truthfully there are no happy people as people who exist with sadness can bring them down. Im sure you want everybody to be happy?
    I'm not a perfectionist. Nobody is perfect...

    I just always want to do my best and make people happy.
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    IT betters for you to be sad than for others. Im sure a resolve like that will help you. Be happy that your thinking you can make more of an impact i've lost my semblance and existence.
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    I'm not a perfectionist. Nobody is perfect...

    I just always want to do my best and make people happy.
    Don't get pedantic.

    You place extremely high standards for yourself so you can get validation from people. Like I said, look at making yourself rough around the edges. Put yourself first. Craft out a mission for yourself. Stop wallowing about it.
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    (Original post by VeniViciVidi)
    Don't get pedantic.

    You place extremely high standards for yourself so you can get validation from people. Like I said, look at making yourself rough around the edges. Put yourself first. Craft out a mission for yourself. Stop wallowing about it.
    What kind of things should I start doing?

    Sorry, I don't want to annoy you. Just need some advice.
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    What kind of things should I start doing?

    Sorry, I don't want to annoy you. Just need some advice.
    Stop apologisng to me for starters.

    Follow your passions, set goals for yourself, compare yourself to yourself yesterday, get satisfaction that you are the Captain of your own vessel.

    Those are a few pillars to lean on. But I would consider reading this book as a core reading for this module.

    https://www.amazon.co.uk/No-More-MR-.../dp/0762415339
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    (Original post by VeniViciVidi)
    Stop apologisng to me for starters.

    Follow your passions, set goals for yourself, compare yourself to yourself yesterday, get satisfaction that you are the Captain of your own vessel.

    Those are a few pillars to lean on. But I would consider reading this book as a core reading for this module.

    https://www.amazon.co.uk/No-More-MR-.../dp/0762415339
    Why stop apologising? I like to apologise!

    Thank you for this though
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    Why stop apologising? I like to apologise!

    Thank you for this though
    Because then when you actually need to apologise, it will sound cheap.
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    (Original post by VeniViciVidi)
    Because then when you actually need to apologise, it will sound cheap.
    Good advice.

    Thank you
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    Hi! I always think so little of myself and I just want to stop. I get anxiety, and for 7 weeks last year, I had to see someone about it. It really helped, but it hasn't gone completely.

    It's just however much I try in things, I always feel like I could do more or I've not done enough. At work, I get praise from managers and supervisors etc, but I just look at my work and think like "I could do better". Like 5 people could thank me for my work, but I'll go home thinking there will always be someone better, or I've not done enough.

    I've always tried to be a good friend to people, I love making people laugh, being there for them when they need me, but I just feel like I'm not a good enough friend or there will be a friend of theirs who is much better than me.

    In college, I was never happy with the work I produced. I got a Triple Distinction grade, but during feedback with my tutor, if he'd praise me up, I'd always criticise my work, or say things I could do better.

    I've always been like this, and it's getting me down lately. I get praised up about things, but I always feel like I don't do enough. How can I stop feeling like this? Thank you
    You have very high standards
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    (Original post by ODES_PDES)
    You have very high standards
    I need to stop being like that.
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    Hi! I always think so little of myself and I just want to stop. I get anxiety, and for 7 weeks last year, I had to see someone about it. It really helped, but it hasn't gone completely.
    Since it helped before maybe seeing a counsellor/close friends/family might help to begin with to release your emotions and just let it out?

    (Original post by 2scotty)
    It's just however much I try in things, I always feel like I could do more or I've not done enough. At work, I get praise from managers and supervisors etc, but I just look at my work and think like "I could do better". Like 5 people could thank me for my work, but I'll go home thinking there will always be someone better, or I've not done enough.
    Thats good, youre trying to improve but just realise you gave it your best, an no one can demand more, youre only human, not a robot

    (Original post by 2scotty)
    I've always tried to be a good friend to people, I love making people laugh, being there for them when they need me, but I just feel like I'm not a good enough friend or there will be a friend of theirs who is much better than me.
    Yeah sometimes its actually the chemistry that gives off a weird vibe, are you trying to make friends with ppl with similar intrests/hobbies/morals/topics??

    (Original post by 2scotty)
    In college, I was never happy with the work I produced. I got a Triple Distinction grade, but during feedback with my tutor, if he'd praise me up, I'd always criticise my work, or say things I could do better.
    Huh how do you react to criticism then? Do you criticise yourself further? Maybe youre a person who like balance, every compliment must be balanced for you?
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    I'm not a perfectionist. Nobody is perfect...

    I just always want to do my best and make people happy.
    I'm the same. A dear friend of mine told me to stop that for a while and try to make myself happy. I burst into tears, because I didn't know how, or more like where to start.
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    just lift and get absolutely shredded
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    (Original post by ForestShadow)
    Since it helped before maybe seeing a counsellor/close friends/family might help to begin with to release your emotions and just let it out?



    Thats good, youre trying to improve but just realise you gave it your best, an no one can demand more, youre only human, not a robot



    Yeah sometimes its actually the chemistry that gives off a weird vibe, are you trying to make friends with ppl with similar intrests/hobbies/morals/topics??



    Huh how do you react to criticism then? Do you criticise yourself further? Maybe youre a person who like balance, every compliment must be balanced for you?
    I've seen a councillor about my anxiety. It stopped that, but now I just worry I don't do enough for others or don't do enough in my job

    As for receiving criticism, I do criticise myself further.
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    (Original post by LaMandarine)
    I'm the same. A dear friend of mine told me to stop that for a while and try to make myself happy. I burst into tears, because I didn't know how, or more like where to start.
    People tell me to be more happy and to stop worrying but to me, it's like telling an alcoholic to stop drinking or someone who smokes to just stop. It's not easy to just simply stop

    What did you do next?
 
 
 
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