Boyfriend staying at house

Sorry this is a silly problem but it's stress I don't need right now, being in the middle of finals at uni. I'm going away with my bf for the summer and my parents want to meet him so he's coming to stay at my house for a night or two. He's supposed to stay in my brother's room but I've just been in there and the smell is unbearable! It has this really musty smell and I'd never sleep in there, and dont want to make my bf! We have a big house with a guest room but my dad sleeps in there since my parents are so dysfunctional. Unlike most people who keep the guest room empty, we have to clean it out when someone comes to stay. My dad doesnt want to move all his stuff and my mum says she's too busy to clean it. I'm doing finals at uni and really don't have the time. Am I being unreasonable thinking my dad should move out and either sleep in my brothers room or my mums for just a couple of nights? Its embarrassing enough having to explain to my bf why they sleep in separate rooms and why my brothers room stinks. He lives in a really nice million pound 6 bedroom house, he isn't a snob but he definitely wont want to sleep in my brothers room.

Reply 1

Scottish_Expatriate

If you are so worried about it, and it's only a temporary arrangement, why don't you sleep in your brothers room and offer your room to your boyfriend?

Reply 2

randomgirl

14

Scottish_Expatriate

If you are so worried about it, and it's only a temporary arrangement, why don't you sleep in your brothers room and offer your room to your boyfriend?

Yep do that.

Reply 3

Dionysus

15

You could make that offer, which he will invariably refuse if he's worth his salt. If it was me I would just air the room and spray a bit of air-freshener. Don't mean to probe, but why can't he just sleep in your room? Small bed or something?

Reply 4

randomgirl

14

Cage

You could make that offer, which he will invariably refuse if he's worth his salt. If it was me I would just air the room and spray a bit of air-freshener. Don't mean to probe, but why can't he just sleep in your room? Small bed or something?

Strict parents maybe? :s-smilie:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

My room is tiny and full of all my uni stuff (pots, pans, piles of books). There's barely any space for me, I only have a little single bed! So that isn't an option, not that I'd be comfortable with that in my parents' house anyway.

Reply 6

Logan

4

id let him sleep downstairs in the couch :biggrin:

naaah, i think just let him sleep on the floor of your room and put a mattress on the floor if you have one :biggrin:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I don't have space in my room!! It's literally tiny, I can't fit a mattress!! My room is not an option. It's the guest room, my brothers room or nothing. My sisters room is really big (used to be mine) but its a total mess and I'm not allowed to sleep there! The guest room makes the most sense since its a decent size, doesnt stink and its next to my room.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

It just seems ridiculous to have a guest room which can't be used for guests. My mum cleans it for my brothers and sisters friends. Its just embarrassing to invite someone and have nowhere to put them, especially since our house looks so big. If it were a 3 bed semi then it wouldn't seem so strange. My brothers room is absolutely useless, it's a nice room but its had this weird smell ever since we moved in 10 years ago. I could see if opening the windows and air freshener would help but it would just be easier for my mum to clean the guest room for half an hour. which has a nice double bed and no weird smell. Hes only coming because my parents want to meet him! It's an awkward arrangement for both of us.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Well my boyfriend doesn't have to come, and they don't have to meet him, do they? It's already enough trouble without worrying when I'm supposed to be studying for finals about where he's going to sleep! It's easier for both of us if he doesn't come at all, bit like I said, my parents are the ones who want to meet him. So why aren't they responsible for making sure their house is liveable?

Reply 10

Va Va Voom

1

if they want to meet him then surely they'll be prepared to have him sleep in the guest room? if your dad agrees to it, & it'll only take your mum 30mins to clean, you should spend 30mins cleaning it when you go back home.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

I don't mind vacuuming and changing the bed linen. I don't see why I should pick up my dads dirty clothes from the floor and move all his stuff. That's what he should be doing, whether anyone was coming to stay or not! My mum usually picks the stuff up and washes it every now and then anyway so it might not be too much trouble, and the other jobs only take 10 min anyway.

They said for him to sleep in my brothers room but like I said, it stinks to high heaven.

Reply 12

Paranoid Kid

13

Just put the ultimatum to them: If they want to meet him, they're going to have to be hospitable. If they're not prepared to be, they don't get to meet him. It's no skin off your nose.b

Reply 13

WokSz

17

Why not give him your room?

Reply 14

Niaya

13

if they only take 10mins then you can do it yourself cant you - it could have been done in the time you've been on here

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

As I've already said

1) My room is the box type room, tiny and full of all my stuff
2) I'm at uni so I can't tidy anything, and my dad is still living in that room! I am coming back from uni with my boyfriend so my mum or dad will have to clean up that room before I get back. Thats the whole point.

Reply 16

korektphool

omfg, just give him your room, and you sleep in your brother's bedroom. It's not really that hard to come up with a good solution, tbh!

Reply 17

Talya

16

Your room may be tiny, OP, but it doesn't smell of socks and man sweat, I bet!

Reply 18

randomgirl

14

iTalya

Your room may be tiny, OP, but it doesn't smell of socks and man sweat, I bet!

Exactly!

So what if your bedroom is a box room? Surely there is bed space? If you can fit on the bed, I'm sure he can! Unless you are a dwarf and he is a behemoth!

Just give him your bedroom and you can kip in your brothers. Problem solved. I'm sure he won't give a damn about the random piles of crap (books, clothes, cooking stuff, whatever) that are in your room.

Reply 19

Dionysus

15

korektphool

omfg, just give him your room, and you sleep in your brother's bedroom. It's not really that hard to come up with a good solution, tbh!

Yeah but he's never going to agree to her doing that, is he?

"Oh I'll have the room that stinks, and you can have my room" He'd be a great boyfriend if he agreed to that...

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