The love lie..

I dont know if any of you has heard of this!It was something I read which was more or less saying that so many people fall for the love lie which is that so to many people have to greater expectations of love,It was saying that people believe that if your in love then everythings perfect and if your in love then this wouldnt happen and things wouldnt go wrong etc,It was trying to say that it isnt true..

I guess what im trying to ask is,Do you all think when you are in love then everythings perfect and you dont get upset with each other and have arguments!Im in a long term relationship and I've been with my partner for almost 3 years I can't say that things are always perfect and we've had quite a few up's and downs and still do. I get myself thinking should it be like this?Are we meant to be together and would it be like this with someone else. After reading the love lie story it got me thinking am I falling for the love lie?

I know this post doesnt really make much sense but I hope some of you get what I mean!Thanks for reading any replies would be much appreciated.Sorry it's so long...

Reply 1

Seoid

Of course things aren't always perfect! Even if you're in love you're still a normal person with different moods, wants and needs and there are always going to be times when you disagree with your partner - it's normal! Have you ever heard of a couple who agree on everything all the time? That would be really weird and probably extremely boring. Love can be difficult and sometimes make you cry but it's all about getting through the hard times and enjoying the good times.

Reply 2

Bathwiggle

I dont think that if your inlove everything has to be perfect. You can love someone but yet your still entitled to your own opinions, which is how arguements come about. I think love is the ability to get past the arguements and be able to forgive each other and understand each through most things.,
i say most things as i dont think i could forgive cheating.

Reply 3

Hygeia

i think a big part of life is being able to stick together through good and bad times, enjoy the good but knowing that things won't always be perfect and being willing to put in some effort if there are problems

Reply 4

need_money

Of course you have arguments! I've been with my bf just over a year and I love him with all my heart. I would do anything for him yet he drives me crazy sometimes. We argue, we have little fall outs, we have big fall outs but in the end we do still love each other and tbh I think the arguing keeps it healthy.

Reply 5

chinKay_x

where do you read about the love lie? i wana read!

Reply 6

neomayemer

Love is hard sad but true 3 years is a long time... you sound like you are well on the way to a good long relationship :smile:

Reply 7

WhiteLily

It was actually an email I got.Il have a look if I can find it and pass it on,I must admitt I do agree with it and I do think that people have to much expectations of love..

Reply 8

mangomaz

I think people do expect that once they find love all their problems will be solved. Its fed to us from pretty much every media channel in society; magazines, books, films, tv etc...

Look at this forum for example - the number of people worried that they havent had a boyfriend/had sex whatever else yet. Really letting themselves be defined by it. "I'm your average teenager but omg I havent had sex yet is there something wrong with me?".

I do think however that its really easy to fall for the 'love lie' simply because love is what envokes the strongest emotions in us. It can tear you apart if its going wrong or leave you in ecstatic bliss if its going well (mwahaha guilty). So hmmm maybe its not a lie... meh just don't lose your head and don't let yourself be defined by the status of your love life.

Reply 9

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WhiteLily

IIt was saying that people believe that if your in love then everythings perfect and if your in love then this wouldnt happen and things wouldnt go wrong etc

Do you all think when you are in love then everythings perfect and you dont get upset with each other and have arguments!

Love is not PERFECT. You can feel sad when you are in love. You emotions are so mixed up sometimes you feel everything at once. The fact is life ISN'T perfect, nothing is including love! Love has it's ups and downs. You know what they say ..'you have to have downs to appreciate the ups' which is so true. Imagine if everything was perfect all the time..thing is it would get boring. I always like a bit of drama in my life/relationships..it makes it interesting :wink:

I have a feeling this book was full of **** :p:

Reply 10

Nothings perfect in life itself. We all know this from problems at home or problems our friends are having or just problems in general, like why people want to drive a bomb into a airport. It's all stupid really. Everyone deserves the perfect life (cept bad guys), but no-one gets it not because we don't deserve it, it's just how the world works. Relationships are exactly the same, we all know that the making up is the best bit because you become closer to your partner because you've overcome another obsticle and you've become stronger as a couple because you've gotten over the arguement.
It could be over something so silly and so stupid but you'll look back on it and laugh. Life = Have fun & to love. Well i doubt you in the love lie thing because i can tell you truely love him and your bound to have a little set back after three years. So ignore the love lie and just love him with all your heart because i know you'll overcome every arguement. Your a strong couple for lasting this long, so prove us all and show us that you can last longer.
xxx