Let My Mouth Get Away With Me. Pretty Sure I Screwed Up

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    So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months (not exclusively) and he's been pretty consistent. Well was. He took me out for Valentines Day and ever since then he's asked to see me every week and even multiple times during the week so I think it's safe to say he's interested. Any who while hanging out he was asking about my ex and why we broke up and if we had ever lived together. I was a little too honest and said "no I like my space. I don't like be bothered" *smacks forehead*. Then I just kept going when he asked about previous guys I told this guy that I have issues with getting close (people getting too close and I push them away). I guess you can label it intimacy issues? My dumba** even gave him examples when he asked what do you mean instead of just leaving it alone.

    I'm not sure if I spooked the poor guy or not. When he got close to me later on he made a joke and ask if that was too intimate for me. Even when he walked me to my car he kissed me then went in for a hug and said, "oh another intimate moment".

    I'm not sure if he was joking because he was okay with what I said or if he was bothered by it.

    Just before seeing him and oversharing he had asked to see me 3 days in a row but I hadn't heard from him all week. My friends said it sounded like I was hinting for him to back off (which isn't the case).

    I wasn't sure what to do so I finally reached out. I'm a nurse and had crazy hours this past week and wanted to call but I had to shoot him a text. I mentioned an inside joke then mentioned the oversharing moment. Pretty much said to forget what I said because that's not how it is now. He laughed at the joke and commented on it but didn't even acknowledge what I said to clear the air. Not sure why he did that. I'm still confused.

    I do want him to close though I just didn't know when to shut up :/


    So was he bothered by what I said and that's why he made the jokes? Thoughts?
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    If I were him I would think that you weren't into me like that to say those things. I would take it as a sign that you need to back way off. I know you sent the text but try and talk to him in person and explain that way. I know you said you couldn't call but most time things don't go over well via text.
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    (Original post by jennabrooks)
    So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months (not exclusively) and he's been pretty consistent. Well was. He took me out for Valentines Day and ever since then he's asked to see me every week and even multiple times during the week so I think it's safe to say he's interested. Any who while hanging out he was asking about my ex and why we broke up and if we had ever lived together. I was a little too honest and said "no I like my space. I don't like be bothered" *smacks forehead*. Then I just kept going when he asked about previous guys I told this guy that I have issues with getting close (people getting too close and I push them away). I guess you can label it intimacy issues? My dumba** even gave him examples when he asked what do you mean instead of just leaving it alone.

    I'm not sure if I spooked the poor guy or not. When he got close to me later on he made a joke and ask if that was too intimate for me. Even when he walked me to my car he kissed me then went in for a hug and said, "oh another intimate moment".

    I'm not sure if he was joking because he was okay with what I said or if he was bothered by it.

    Just before seeing him and oversharing he had asked to see me 3 days in a row but I hadn't heard from him all week. My friends said it sounded like I was hinting for him to back off (which isn't the case).

    I wasn't sure what to do so I finally reached out. I'm a nurse and had crazy hours this past week and wanted to call but I had to shoot him a text. I mentioned an inside joke then mentioned the oversharing moment. Pretty much said to forget what I said because that's not how it is now. He laughed at the joke and commented on it but didn't even acknowledge what I said to clear the air. Not sure why he did that. I'm still confused.

    I do want him to close though I just didn't know when to shut up :/


    So was he bothered by what I said and that's why he made the jokes? Thoughts?
    Maybe he put a front on with you and pretended he was ok with it but personally as the above poster said I would be put off and think you were not interested at all when clearly he seems interested in you.
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    I think youve confused and unnerved him a bit. I dont think you said anything too wrong and it depends on his personality about whether he took it in his stride or he's a bit sensitive. Why dont you ask him out and show him youd like to then at the right moment clear the air a bit then leave it at that. Dont dwell on it.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    I think youve confused and unnerved him a bit. I dont think you said anything too wrong and it depends on his personality about whether he took it in his stride or he's a bit sensitive. Why dont you ask him out and show him youd like to then at the right moment clear the air a bit then leave it at that. Dont dwell on it.
    Thanks. Yea you are right. I reached out this afternoon because I knew he was starting a new job that he's super excited about so I said good luck. He responded "thank you sweetheart" with a kissing emoji so I guess that's a decent sign?

    I think I'll ask him out now .
 
 
 
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