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I 25yo with very limited experiance!

Is it strange for a 25yo to only have had one girlfriend that last a two paltry months back in just last December?

I feel I missed out on so much over the first 25 years of my life and wish I had done something activily sooner. Now I just assume that noone would actually like me and whould string me along to for their humour at my expense (my only girlfriend is now a complete cow to me).

Anyways, I really like this girl (at this dance venue I go to) but so do others by the looks of it. I'm pretty sure she is single but really I should know this but I don't. I'm just to shy. Idiotically shy that it's painful.

I have fear of conversation almost. Some people I'm fine with and could talk endlessly with but others it can be so akward. So I always back away from girls I like in fear of fluffing like an idiot.

How can I be seen as more confident and how should I win this fair maidens heart? I have the courage to dance with her yet my voice just fears being used.

(edit - it's late so soz for the spelling cock-up in the title. My rubbish typing doesn't help either!)

HELP!

Reply 1

Tufts

17

Have you actively asked out girls?

Reply 2

Steven666

OP

Tufts

Have you actively asked out girls?

Once sort off but that was my only success. General feedback from other people/girls just ooze the fact that I'm a loser and wasn't blessed by the beauty fairy.

Reply 3

goodmen

13

It is a little weird I guess

Reply 4

Cowz

Steven666

Once sort off but that was my only success. General feedback from other people/girls just ooze the fact that I'm a loser and wasn't blessed by the beauty fairy.

This may be not what you want, but have you tried speaking to people through the internet? You know, errr speak to people through myspace or something. That way you can look for a girl who you find attractive but isn't unreachable, and all those nerves you get in normal convo won't exist. If things go ok, then you can meet up with them and take it from there. And if you're nervous when you meet them then it won't be too bad because they'll already know a little bit about you.

It's not ideal, but given your signature it seems like you really need someone.

Reply 5

Tufts

17

Steven666

Once sort off but that was my only success. General feedback from other people/girls just ooze the fact that I'm a loser and wasn't blessed by the beauty fairy.

So you've asked out a girl once and she said yes?

That sounds like a 100% success rate to me :wink:

Ask out more lol

Reply 6

Steven666

OP

Cowz

This may be not what you want, but have you tried speaking to people through the internet? You know, errr speak to people through myspace or something. That way you can look for a girl who you find attractive but isn't unreachable, and all those nerves you get in normal convo won't exist. If things go ok, then you can meet up with them and take it from there. And if you're nervous when you meet them then it won't be too bad because they'll already know a little bit about you.

It's not ideal, but given your signature it seems like you really need someone.

I do. I have been feeling so lonely lately. I have talked to a number of people online in the past but I'm just scepicle about whether long distance (well not close) could work and whether the other person is actually like what they say they are like. There's just too many dodgy people and weirdos around nowadays.

Tufts

So you've asked out a girl once and she said yes?

That sounds like a 100% success rate to me :wink:

Ask out more lol

LOL. But we already knew we liked each other. Otherwise I wouldn't have asked. It's far too scary not knowing the girl perception of you beforehand.

Reply 7

Tufts

17

How about chatting to people online from your local area?

Reply 8

Cowz

^^^^Second that

And besides, its not like your going to be meeting an axe swinging maniac. Just meet a few people until you find someone you like.

Reply 9

visacardsz07

Confidence. Confidence wins girls and honesty I think from experience. The fact that your honest, trusting and funny and confident yeah. Eh, talking to her, looking at her eyes, relax, its you and her, remember when looking at her, you dont find her attractive. Its very hard that.

I think the best way. Approach a ten. If you can approach a ten, in a busy city centre, then your more of a man than any person here on TSR. And thats that mate. Happy plugging. And love you, for you, there are people older than you and in worse and more depressed and insecure places than you. Cheer up. rep+ for being honest on here

Reply 10

absolutejc

ok im going to be brutally honest, you need to get over ur shyness, and it sounds scary but, once u go out there and literally FORCE yourself to go and talk to girls, youl get more confidence.

i can tell already, your probobly scared of rejection? yes, i thought so. you need to remember though, if you go and talk to a girl about anything (nothign sexual or shel think your trying to pick her up) she'll be flattered if anything, so if you adopt this attitude, it'll make the whole process alot more easier.

why not just go up to this girl and say something subtle like " hey i think ive seen you before, if i remmeber rightly your a great dancer, wats your name?"

somehting as simple like that will kick start you, and if u try and have a conversation with as many girls as u can, ur confidence will grow.

i see alot of people say you need to get more confident, and that doesnt really help because you need to know HOW to get more confident. i can help, and if you want any tips just pm me

joe

I 25yo with very limited experiance!

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