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Best Friends who enjoy sleeping with eachother...and being 'touchy-feely'

Im really confused here...I have this male friend (im female) and we get along amazing, love eachothers company, and seem to be spending almost every waking hour with the other. However, a few days ago I spent the night at his place because I was so tired and did'nt feel like I could drive home, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping next to eachother on his couch. [he has flatmates, and had just moved so his bed wasnt set up yet...] Anyway, we both felt really comfortable sleeping with eachother and holding the other...and it seems that this has now become a sort of habit between us. Since that night we have spent the night together like three more times!

We agreed that we are both only friends!!! and nothing sexual goes on between us, so......ughh Im just so confused and what we've gotton ourselves into. Our other friends dont understand and many just think that were secretly dating or that we have decided to be 'friends with benefits' . Also, I feel that I should mention neither of us are in a romantic relationship with another person at the time.

We just cant seem to get enough time with eachother. Any thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

FYI - he's 21, and Im 19
Thanks

Reply 1

ISH

9

maybe try dating?

Reply 2

Ross_j

9

only a matter of time before something happens

Reply 3

scaredashell

1

Ross_j

only a matter of time before something happens

So so true....this exact thing happened to me from. We were best friends, stuff happened, now we dont speak.....its horrible!

Stop yourself before something happens

Reply 4

AngelOfAges

Do you feel anything for him in a more than friendship way? I've had male friends that I've been the same with and it was just nice to be soo close to somebody without all the complications of a relationship.
Or of course there is a chance that you two want to be with each other without really realising yet. I guess you'll have to think about it properly and see what you feel :smile:

Reply 5

Enchanté

14

It kind of sounds you like each other but want things to go further, such as in becoming a couple maybe talk to him about his feelings and you tell him yours as well. :smile:

Reply 6

Dionysus

15

Sounds like you definitely want more, so go for it!

Reply 7

Eubacterium

13

Anonymous

Im really confused here...I have this male friend (im female) and we get along amazing, love eachothers company, and seem to be spending almost every waking hour with the other. However, a few days ago I spent the night at his place because I was so tired and did'nt feel like I could drive home, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping next to eachother on his couch. [he has flatmates, and had just moved so his bed wasnt set up yet...] Anyway, we both felt really comfortable sleeping with eachother and holding the other...and it seems that this has now become a sort of habit between us. Since that night we have spent the night together like three more times!

We agreed that we are both only friends!!! and nothing sexual goes on between us, so......ughh Im just so confused and what we've gotton ourselves into. Our other friends dont understand and many just think that were secretly dating or that we have decided to be 'friends with benefits' . Also, I feel that I should mention neither of us are in a romantic relationship with another person at the time.

We just cant seem to get enough time with eachother. Any thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

FYI - he's 21, and Im 19
Thanks

Sounds like you both have feelings for each other.

Reply 8

eilatan

I wa slike this with my best mate...eventually we did end up together but we were mates sfor over 2 years first. it just kinda grew... i would just let it happen for now, and then soon itll either fizzle out or work itself into something more. sometimes love just grows on you and you don't expect it...if its gonna happen, it will :smile:

good luck xxx

Reply 9

dh00001

16

sounds like a friends episode.
if you want a relationship with him go for and carry on .
if you want to just be friends you should probably cut back on the way you behave so that youre not giving the wrong signs.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

this is bizarre - sounds like i could have written your whole post myself! got myself into the same situation but i just look at it as we are really close friends and i enjoy the closeness we have, nothing more than that. nice to have a bit of physical affection sometimes but i just enjoy it as really great mates spending time with each other, don't ruin it by 'dating'. you're obviously really close and comfortable that u can feel like that with each other, which is awesome.

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

i had this type of relationship with someone and now i've lost it, because he's going out with someone else. i'm gutted; we both are, but the kind of friendship we had (exactly like how you described yours) just doesn't seem appropriate now he's with another girl.

i think you need to think about whether you want to take your relationship that one stage further, maybe think about what it would be like if one of you started seeing someone. would you be able to maintain what you have, and could you handle it if you were forced to be less close because of someone else coming into the picture?

Reply 12

Spoog!

These people are right, it sounds like there's some underlying feelings involved here. Excuse my girliness lol but I think it's really cute. Just be careful with dating as it's possible that may change things.

Maybe try talking about it?

Reply 13

frankie_sez_relax

Be friends with added priveleges!!

Reply 14

stim90

It all seems Cool to me, i don't see any problems with it. And even if things did progress whats wrong with casual sex between two freinds? He may want a full relationship with you but is shy of asking ( i don't know his character obviosley).

Reply 15

Phantom Phoenix

13

This happened to me too; turned out the guy had a massive crush on me. Unfortunately he also had a girlfriend...anyway, we lost touch while I was away during the summer and nothing untoward ever happened. It made me feel guilty though, but as long as your guy's unattached there's nothing to worry about!

Do be wary though - he probably has feelings for you. Definitely worth trying to find out, I think!

Reply 16

Zoecb

11

Get it on already.

Best Friends who enjoy sleeping with eachother...and being 'touchy-feely'

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