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    Hi

    So long story short my parents had a too high tax return last year and I am only going to get £3,821 for student finance. that is not enough for campus or private rent. My parents said that they will pay for all campus for the whole year no matter how much it costs. which means that money will be enough. But I have been looking with my friend and girlfriend that I've been going out for some time for private rent. which my parents said they are not paying because they don't want me making mistakes partly having a kid with that girlfriend I think they are too controlling but I need the help. I want to go campus but I don't know how to tell the friend and girlfriend. I know they will feel like I'm going behind their backs, leaving them for my parents and my girlfriend will be annoyed with me 100%. Please advise me how I should tell them me going campus will help me a lot as ill have more money left over whereas if we go private rent all that money will be used for the rent which means I will have to work a lot in a job in uni and I don't want that stress at least not in my first year of it. Please help what do you think? I don't mind moving in with them the second year because my parents will help then but what now what about my first year?

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    Just tell them the truth. It's a very understandable reason, so if they are genuinely angry at you then you probably want to rethink who your friend and girlfriend are and should be.
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    Let me get this straight, you're going to be a first year and you're going to the same university as your gf and friend? I don't know you but your parents sound too protective. That said, I wouldn't necessarily say it was a bad idea. You do want to make friends with new people at uni and living in uni accommodation will be good for that. Fact is almost all first years live on campus and I think part of the experience is learning about your new university together because you do need to get to know your university, and town if you're moving away from home. Sure, you'll have people you know to live with if you do end up living with them but living on campus won't make a lot of difference to you socialising [with them]. The main difference will you be not being around each other 24/7 which might be a good idea as it's very different when you're living with your parents rather than not living with your parents.

    However, talk to your friends first. Explain the situation. They will understand sooner or later that you simply can't afford to pay for your own accommodation and that you have to do what your parents will pay for. You can even ask your friends' advice on how to persuade your parents. Then talk to your parents about it. I'd consider that living on campus isn't such a bad idea though. You can still visit your friends and stay with your girlfriend. You could even spend most of your time at theirs if that's ok with them, you just wouldn't have your own room there. You'd probably want to go self catered on campus though.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Just tell them the truth. It's a very understandable reason, so if they are genuinely angry at you then you probably want to rethink who your friend and girlfriend are and should be.
    this ^

    also it's a terrible idea to spend your first year of uni living with your mate and girlfriend so be relieved your mum is forcing you to make a more sensible choice
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    As a first year living with your gf and friend would be a horrendous idea anyway, going to the same uni may well be if intentional.

    Tell them you can't afford it, simple. Plus living on campus first year is what you should be trying to do anyway... better for you. Agree with everyone else here. You'd make like no friends otherwise.
 
 
 
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