2 years ago I went through a very hurtful breakup. Since then I've been playing around, both because I may not be able to commit yet, and also because I don't want to.
What with Tinder and all, I've been with a lot of girls. I've made it somewhat clear from the start not to expect anything serious. This premise to say: I'm both "experienced" (I hate this application of the word but you get what I mean) and I definitely don't give off clingy vibes.
It has happened on a few occasions - at least two - that girls would be flirty and obviously attracted only to then have them cleanly disappear right after the date. With one of them we downright KISSED.
The other texted me literally 30 seconds after saying bye on the first date just to share something silly that had just happened to her on the tube's escalators, signalling a certain desire to be in touch with me immediately after we'd said bye. Moreover, upon huggin bye (no kiss) she said we should meet again soon.
This was followed by complete silent treatment upon a few hours. Why? I don't think it's a basic attraction thing, so I hypothesized that people do this because: (a) they met someone else right after and they're more interested, (b) they felt my "sex only" vibe and they thought me a player and they don't want it or (c) cold feet given to some attachment issues or whatever.
Am I far off the mark? Help a confused millenial please <3
Ermmm what do you expect when when you've made it clear that they shouldn't expect anything serious from you? To take you seriously?!
Tinder is the worst for this sort of thing. I wouldn't worry about it too much. There's always someone more attractive either on their matches or waiting to be swiped. Sad thing is, a lot of the time they'll get messed around and then wonder why they can't find anyone. Same applies to guys too though.
They probably met someone else.
I've met numerous girls who have been snogging me within ten minutes (three of them), who have relentlessly complimented me, who I've slept with, who have texted me the next day 'I can't wait to **** you' and then asked for another date, and still they've vanished or made BS excuses. You will never get and satisfactory answer . Just move on.