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    How long have they been married? They may have an 'agreement'
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    Check his history to substantiate this claim, it could be some pop up from a dodgy website/porno he visited.
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    Over 25 years, and i don't think they do because my mum always talks about how horrible it is when husbands cheat etc.
    25 years is a long ass time, especially if they hadn't had many partners before each other
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    probably 25 years is a long time to be with only one person..

    heck i can't even last 3 months
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    We're asian too
    If It's going to effect your grades then get it off your chest, otherwise, keep it a secret.
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    I don't think u should worry at all.He might have just accidently pressed on one of those annoying ads that just pop up at the side or it could have just been a mis-click.
    If u are really worried u should check his histroy over the last few days.Its better u find out the truth,then just be suspicious on him.I hope everything turns out to be well and focus on ur revision.
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    youre scared to check his phone but the only way of being sure is to check is phone, theres nowhere else you can finf the answers, and the website couldve been for a friend of advert
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    We're asian too
    Get the facts right before you do anything. As it has been written, it may just be a dodgy website. If it was not the case, then you would be worrying for no just cause.

    If indeed that he was cheating, then you have to make a real decision.

    1. Are you willing to tell your mother and potentially destroy their 25 years of marriage? How will you live with yourself then?
    2. Are you strong enough not to say anything and take the secret to your grave?
    3. Are you willing to turn a blind eye and watch your mother live in a false marriage with your (possibly) cheating father?
    4. Finally, if it was you (in both situations), what would you do for your father or mother?

    This can be a devastating news and once it is let out of the bag, it cannot be retrieved, even if it happened to be false. You cannot say, "Ah, sorry dad, I thought you were cheating on mom."

    Please do some more covert research and gather the facts. Then make the decision. I really hope (for you and your family's sake) that it would be false.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    I was with my dad in town, and he asked me to google something on his phone, so i did, but when i went on the google app it showed the last website as one where married couple can look for affairs. This shocked me and i clicked closeand just told my dad it didn't work. I literally feel sick, knowing that my Dad who i look up to so much cold be cheating on my mum. What makes it worse is that we works in London 4 days a week.

    I feel so sick and i can't look at my dad in the eye, him and my mum seem to get on well , so i don't understand where it could have come from. I thought about telling my mum, but it could potentially ruin the marriage and the happy life we 'seemed' to have. I can't focus on revision, and it's always on my mind. What do I do?
    Never keep something like this a secret. It might be scary, but the best thing to do would be to confront your dad. Ask him about what you saw. If he really is cheating, it wouldn't be fair to your mom. Speak to your dad first before speaking to her. Maybe after you say something he'll realize how stupid what he's doing is and stop. Maybe your parents need some kind of marriage counselling - none of us know except them.

    Whatever happens will be for the best. Dont let it eat you up inside. Ask him about it as soon as you see him (make sure your mom's not around first). Good luck
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    I was with my dad in town, and he asked me to google something on his phone, so i did, but when i went on the google app it showed the last website as one where married couple can look for affairs. This shocked me and i clicked closeand just told my dad it didn't work. I literally feel sick, knowing that my Dad who i look up to so much cold be cheating on my mum. What makes it worse is that we works in London 4 days a week.

    I feel so sick and i can't look at my dad in the eye, him and my mum seem to get on well , so i don't understand where it could have come from. I thought about telling my mum, but it could potentially ruin the marriage and the happy life we 'seemed' to have. I can't focus on revision, and it's always on my mind. What do I do?
    My dad does that too.
    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    We're asian too
    Our family is asian too xD
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    How can i keep it a secret though, i feel sick looking at my poor mum knowing what he could be doing to her
    Try to sit down with her and try talking to her calmly and see what she says. Ive never been in this situation so i honestly dont know what to say
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    Asian people of that generation never get divorced anyway. there is little point in trying to shake the boat by telling your mother you think he's cheating imo, unless you've got some solid proof. for all you know he could have just been curious and browsing, you don't know papy has had his hand in the cookie jar yet so why rock the boat?
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    (Original post by Pheoa101)
    I don;t want to snoop and then find out something really bad,
    You ought to do that or confront your dad, right now you know next to nothing
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    My dad does that too.


    Our family is asian too xD
    Your dad is cheating on your mom? How do/did you cope with that?
 
 
 
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