(Original post by Anonymous)
so am still a virgin at 19 and i really love my boyfriend. he understands that i want to save it till marriage but when im around him i feel like i cant control myself. i want to have sex with him but i wont as im saving it. Im worried we'll end up doing it esp as hes booked a hotel for us.
somebody help. he says hell make sure we wont but im worried we still will.
It's completely fine that you want to wait until marriage, after all it's a completely personal choice, so at the end of the day it's up to you, as it's your body. Also, it's great that you have a boyfriend who is willing to respect that!
I think the best thing for you to do is to sit down and talk to him about it. Make sure you have clear boundaries of where you feel comfortable getting to, and at which point you want to stop. I understand that you're afraid, but the best thing to do is just talk about it, set some clear rules that BOTH of you need to keep in your mind whilst you're there.
However, saying that, it's not the end of the world if you do end up having sex. Of course, you have a clearly set out plan where you want to save yourself until marriage, which is completely fine, and just try your hardest to keep that up, however if you do end up having a slip up, it's also fine. It may not be ideal for you, or go against your beliefs, which is why you should try to do that, but at the end of the day, if it does happen, then at least it would have happened with the guy that, i presume, you'd want to marry?