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    For like six or so months my boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex. We're very close to each other and we both feel ready for it, but I'm too tight for him to fit.

    Every time we try, no matter what position, he can't really fit in, and if he does it's really painful for me- almost unbearable so we have to stop.
    I feel really bad about it, because I can see that he wants to have sex with me, and I want to with him.

    Has anyone got any advice?
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    For like six or so months my boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex. We're very close to each other and we both feel ready for it, but I'm too tight for him to fit.

    Every time we try, no matter what position, he can't really fit in, and if he does it's really painful for me- almost unbearable so we have to stop.
    I feel really bad about it, because I can see that he wants to have sex with me, and I want to with him.

    Has anyone got any advice?
    I'm having the same problem apart from sex with my ex boyfriend was fine and always pain free, but with my new boyfriend it's almost impossible! I am yet to find any reason as to why this is happening to me, it's so frustrating!
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    There are a few possibilities, including having a hymen that's resisting all attempts to get past it and vaginismus. No-one here can know which - you need to see a doctor / sexual health clinic for that.

    If it is the latter or something similar, the basic idea is that you need to be in control of what goes inside you, and you need to start with something smaller than a penis. Once you're used to something slim, and can have it inside you without pain, you move onto something larger and repeat until you're happy. Via a doctor, you may get offered what are known as dilators - smooth plastic rods of various sizes - otherwise it's doing things like seeing if you can get a finger inside without pain, then two...

    In the meantime, there's more than one way to have sexual pleasure together.
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    not a problem love
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    Lots and lots of foreplay and lube.
 
 
 
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