I matched with this guy on Tinder roughly two years ago - it was in the midst of exam period and I wasn't all that interested in him, but he kept pursuing me. At first I thought he was cringey - as he was so forward - and I had no intention of meeting him but I continued to reply to him as I didn't want to seem rude. He pursued me for weeks, months, and as time went on I developed more of an interest in him particularly as we had been talking pretty much every day and I admired the fact that he was still trying with me...he told me there was something about me and he just couldn't stop talking to me.
We initially matched in my university town... he was living there for work. We eventually met up and the date was going really well, we had lots in common but then he asked me if I wanted to come back to his and I accepted but didn't want to have sex on the first date. So, I went to his and obviously he tried to sleep with me but I wouldn't let it happen and things turned a bit sour after that. I stayed the night round his and the next morning was very awkward. It's a shame because the actual date was perfect and I'm also certain he wasn't just after one thing as he wouldn't have spoken to me every day for so long if he wasn't intending on anything serious. He texted me afterwards to see if I enjoyed myself, but then conversation fizzled out and we stopped talking. He continued to like my pictures on Instagram but we both just moved on.
The other day I downloaded Tinder again and he came up on it. Every time he popped up on it I just refreshed it so it would go on to other people, but he keeps popping up which suggests he has liked me. I am back home from university, and his hometown is also very close to mine. After a bit of recent stalking I noticed he has been travelling, so I guess he's maybe taking a break from work and has moved home for a bit. When I eventually get the balls to like him on there, I am hoping he'll talk to me, or otherwise I'd love to strike up a conversation with him. I'm not exactly sure what to say though and whether it'd still be awkward. Or would it be best just to leave it be? I am still interested in him and he was very keen on our date...nothing bad exactly happened, and this was two years ago so I'm not sure if enough time has passed now to laugh it off. What do you guys think?
If you liked him there's no harm in matching with him again.
He just wants to bang you like he bangs others on their, he doesnt want a relationship
Lemme get this right,
1. You found him on TINDER.
2. He wouldn't stop pursuing you until you met.
3. He tried to sleep with you.
4. When that failed he ceased contact and went back to tinder?
Is it not obvious OP?
EDIT: He is trying to sleep with you again...
As sad as this may come across guys will talk to you and message you for weeks maybe even months and some sadly years just to get laid and may not want a serious relationship. I think action counts for a lot and judging by your story his actions summed it up and this was nicely summarised by another user ripjonsow. Tinder is famously known for hook-ups and I'm not doubting some people manage to get long term relationships from tinder I'm sure it can happen.
That line there's something about you... believe me you will hear it again. I'm sure there is a lot about YOU. It's a line if it isn't followed up by the appropriate behaviour and actions. Anyhow it seems you like him or perhaps you like the image you've built up of him and that one good time you had and how he tried to pursue you. He is still present because he didn't get what he wanted and because you went to the same place hence you're finding the same type of people. I could be wrong and things could flourish into a beautiful romantic relationship and you could laugh about what happened and talk about how over time you're glad you met again and it was "destiny" or whatever.
Just my one pence worth.