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I still have another year left as I decided to take completely new subjects.

Anyone else had this situation? How do you deal with new found loneliness at Sixth form ?
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I found this too, every time I went to hang out with them, they would just act as if I didn't exist! I just tried to keep myself occupied with college work and my hobbies. It sucked at first, but having no friends is better than having bad friends, right? You will likely make better friends at uni anyway!
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I still have another year left as I decided to take completely new subjects.

Anyone else had this situation? How do you deal with new found loneliness at Sixth form ?
Yeah, I felt that with my squad in yr 11. There were moments where I didn't exist at all- take into consideration I go around different social groups and my 'main' social group have some drama so I'm going to my other set of friends(which I realised we have more banters than my other friends).
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I found this too, every time I went to hang out with them, they would just act as if I didn't exist! I just tried to keep myself occupied with college work and my hobbies. It sucked at first, but having no friends is better than having bad friends, right? You will likely make better friends at uni anyway!
Thank you. I keep trying to have positive thoughts like that
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Yeah, I felt that with my squad in yr 11. There were moments where I didn't exist at all- take into consideration I go around different social groups and my 'main' social group have some drama so I'm going to my other set of friends(which I realised we have more banters than my other friends).
Yeah I've actually started to do that. Its pretty great when you hang out with people you don't have to worry about what you say in case they don't agree etc.

Just the fact they wont be here next year and I will that is making me sad tbh :/
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I still have another year left as I decided to take completely new subjects.

Anyone else had this situation? How do you deal with new found loneliness at Sixth form ?
Guess what? It doesn't just happen at sixth form it can happen at any time and it does. You just learn to look at things differently and outgrow some people and you become thankful later on.

The loneliness you fill with your studies and your passions through which you would most likely meet new people. Just a little change in perspective goes a long way.
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Guess what? It doesn't just happen at sixth form it can happen at any time and it does. You just learn to look at things differently and outgrow some people and you become thankful later on.

The loneliness you fill with your studies and your passions through which you would most likely meet new people. Just a little change in perspective goes a long way.
Thank you. That means a lot.

I'm not used to people actually replying to my questions. haha
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I've found this, a friend of mine turned out to be absolute poison. There were a couple of kids in my class I vaguely knew, have now gotten a lot closer to them and I feel a lot better for it!
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I've found this, a friend of mine turned out to be absolute poison. There were a couple of kids in my class I vaguely knew, have now gotten a lot closer to them and I feel a lot better for it!
Good for you ! Wish I could do the same so easily
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Good for you ! Wish I could do the same so easily
Is there anyone you'd feel comfortable going to to try and befriend?
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I'm going to a sixth form college away from my town. So, I know I'm going to be alone for a while as everyone from my year is going to the sixth for in my town. I distanced my self away from a lot of people and just focusing in my own happiness.

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Is there anyone you'd feel comfortable going to to try and befriend?
There are a few. But I am so bad at socializing I get incredibly shy and I feel awkward and think I bet they think im so boring. etc
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There are a few. But I am so bad at socializing I get incredibly shy and I feel awkward and think I bet they think im so boring. etc
Try it - explain the situation to them - old friends have left, don't really know anyone, not too good at socialising that sorta stuff - it might work out for you, if not then there's always somewhere to find for study and time for your out of college friends
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Yeah I've actually started to do that. Its pretty great when you hang out with people you don't have to worry about what you say in case they don't agree etc.

Just the fact they wont be here next year and I will that is making me sad tbh :/

That's the thing with picking the right people to be with- I know in fact who I'm going to keep in contact in the future(throughout 5 years I move around different social groups but I still have a bestie who I've known for 7 years so that's chill)
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Make new friends.
New subjects = new people to talk to.
Put yourself out there.
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Make new friends and get your work done. You wont see many of them again when you leave.
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My second year of six form, after all my really good friends got kicked out,i was extremely lonely really, But the firends that got kick out, where a extremly bad influence, i had no idea how i even made it into my second year.
Once they were gone, i was mostly left with people i kind of talked to the first year, we were friends but we were the type of friends that mostly talked of school, didnt have much in common. I mostly hanged out with them, but talking of school and the same convo's again and again, got really boring. I did have one good friend left, but we didnt see much of each other due to timetable. there would be days where i wouldnt talk to anyone in school, and grab lunch and somewhere to eat it alone. Honestly was kind of depressing. Some days i honestly wouldnt even bother to come into school, since i disliked it. I hated everyone in my classes, they were in no way my kind of people ( this may sound odd, but i was workign class, and came from a working class secondary school and when i moved to a school where everyone had a private tutor and talked of their 1M+ home, i thought they were joking until i check, most the people, not all by any means, lived very different lives to me and my old friends ).The teacher disliked me, since i bunked so much. I did get through the lonely lunchs and not talking to firends for days,... but it was tough.
would always recommend staying youre secondary school six form , i was extremly well known in my secondary school and had many friends and due to that i didnt really learn how to ever make friends, since it just happened, no asking what subject you did ect, i easily made friends. Also moving to a new school is tough and it is hard to make friends that last 2 years long, and have a strong friendship, when some of the people in the six form have known each other since primary school/secondary.
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Make new friends.
New subjects = new people to talk to.
Put yourself out there.
I try. Im just so shy and they are all interested in things I have no idea about, makes me feel so old
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Hi, sorry you feel like this. Why don't you slowly making new friends, for example if you sit next to someone in class, try and get to know them, and that could lead you to being part of a new friendship group or at least just having one good friend. Always remember though that your there to learn so don't let it bother you too much. Uni is not far off, and you can find more people with the same interests as you there. Stay positive!
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My second year of six form, after all my really good friends got kicked out,i was extremely lonely really, But the firends that got kick out, where a extremly bad influence, i had no idea how i even made it into my second year.
Once they were gone, i was mostly left with people i kind of talked to the first year, we were friends but we were the type of friends that mostly talked of school, didnt have much in common. I mostly hanged out with them, but talking of school and the same convo's again and again, got really boring. I did have one good friend left, but we didnt see much of each other due to timetable. there would be days where i wouldnt talk to anyone in school, and grab lunch and somewhere to eat it alone. Honestly was kind of depressing. Some days i honestly wouldnt even bother to come into school, since i disliked it. I hated everyone in my classes, they were in no way my kind of people ( this may sound odd, but i was workign class, and came from a working class secondary school and when i moved to a school where everyone had a private tutor and talked of their 1M+ home, i thought they were joking until i check, most the people, not all by any means, lived very different lives to me and my old friends ).The teacher disliked me, since i bunked so much. I did get through the lonely lunchs and not talking to firends for days,... but it was tough.
would always recommend staying youre secondary school six form , i was extremly well known in my secondary school and had many friends and due to that i didnt really learn how to ever make friends, since it just happened, no asking what subject you did ect, i easily made friends. Also moving to a new school is tough and it is hard to make friends that last 2 years long, and have a strong friendship, when some of the people in the six form have known each other since primary school/secondary.
As a kid i was moved about schools alot so i had to make friends.I was great at it and really outgoing till i got bullied for my looks .

i couldnt even look at peoples faces when they talked to me out of fear they may also bully me.

Ever since trying to talk to people i have always had a fear they will make some remark about me.
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