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    I have been living with my boyfriend for around 8 months. I love him a lot and don't really want to break up with him, but recently things haven't been so great. I feel like the 'spark' is gone, we spend a lot of time together but we rarely go out and do things like we used to. We don't make time for each other, we just spend time together when we get home at night after work/school/sports. Its not really exciting and we both feel somewhat bored, and were not really intimate anymore. I've also noticed my boyfriend looking at other women more (not cheating, just porn ect). I feel like he ignores me and isn't caring and attentive like he used to be.

    We've talked about this but we haven't changed it, its like we're stuck. He suggested staying at his Dads for a few nights to give us space but he said he didn't really want to and would rather stay with me. Do you think I should ask him to move out (the house is my family home) or should we just keep trying while were living together?The whole thing makes me so miserable
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    Feels like time for a change to me..
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    Say goodbye to the honeymoon stage..its all about getting fat and wearing sudocream before bed!
    On a serious note though, maybe you two just need to actually make time for each other like you used to..plan dates..life gets boring if you just sit at home
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    Ask him to leave its not like he's got nowhere to live if he's staying at his dad's.
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    If you make him move out, that'll effectively be a break up. (It means it's unlikely you'll ever live together again, so why bother with the relationship?)

    I can't tell if there is a problem (apart from boredom), but if you really feel "miserable", then of course you should do something about it. Maybe you should just talk more and do more stuff together. Of course that requires effort on both parts.
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    I think you need to part ways..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel like the 'spark' is gone
    Stopped reading at this point (the answer is end it/move out/move on ~ in the nicest possible way)
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    If it has got to this stage already then there is real issues in this relationship, you can both try talking to each other about it i.e. see if you can actually spend time like going out to places etc. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but maybe you moved in together too soon?
 
 
 
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