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Social Life is failing :/

For the span of the past 6-7 months my social life has all but dried up, i havent gone out, my bunch of friends have all moved on (they went/are going work/college and im the only one going to 6th form), i rarely leave the house for anything other then biking or football, i seemingly never get asked to go out to any clubs/pubs etc, i have no gf, her and i split last year as she was moving further south..

Is it about time i just started going out by myself to meet new peeps or should i just try harder to fit in with my old m8s?

cos life indoors sucks ;/ :s-smilie:

Reply 1

DaChronik

Just start going out, anywhere... Instead of staying at home and having lunch, go to a cafe... Youll meet new people... And it jus sorta starts there!

But you gotta actually do something, these people cant find you in your house lol

Reply 2

UnspokenTruth

:dito: I made all my friends in cafes

Reply 3

DaChronik

UnspokenTruth

:dito: I made all my friends in cafes

Lol go you... I mean seriously though... Socialising is EAASSSSYYY!! Just talk to someone, then their friend, then their friend... etc etc... Its easy once you know how, your confidence builds and voila, ur a social butterfly... Like me! *flutter flutter* lol

Reply 4

Kate.

15

You said you go biking & play football - maybe start going to the gym, maybe with people you only sometimes talk to? Might make some friends then.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I do, i do, thats a good idea tbh, maybe should join one of the groups that go round extreme biking, always seems like a laugh.. heh i do need to go the gym also got weight to burn, ty for advice.. kate where in west mids you from?

Reply 6

Tag

8

UnspokenTruth

:dito: I made all my friends in cafes

i met my soulmate in McDonalds.
i am not taking the piss.

Reply 7

saturn

Ok you walk in a cafe on your own, buy something, sit at a table..then what? From my past experience everyone has minded there own business.

Reply 8

TomX

14

Go on IRC.

Reply 9

Phonicsdude

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DaChronik

Lol go you... I mean seriously though... Socialising is EAASSSSYYY!! Just talk to someone, then their friend, then their friend... etc etc... Its easy once you know how, your confidence builds and voila, ur a social butterfly... Like me! *flutter flutter* lol

Socialising for most guys is anything but easy. But you are completely right in saying that your confidence builds the more you do it.

Go talk to random people anywhere. Join a social club. What about people at your 6th form? There are dozens of people you could speak to there...

Reply 10

ILoveComplexNumbers

Anonymous

For the span of the past 6-7 months my social life has all but dried up, i havent gone out, my bunch of friends have all moved on (they went/are going work/college and im the only one going to 6th form), i rarely leave the house for anything other then biking or football, i seemingly never get asked to go out to any clubs/pubs etc, i have no gf, her and i split last year as she was moving further south..

Is it about time i just started going out by myself to meet new peeps or should i just try harder to fit in with my old m8s?

cos life indoors sucks ;/ :s-smilie:

You've surerly got to hang around with people at 6th form? Ask them to come to the pub/bars/clubs one night. IMO if your friendship hasn't naturally continued with your old friends now then I would pretty much write it off, you never know they might contact in the future.

Reply 11

DaChronik

Tag

i met my soulmate in McDonalds.
i am not taking the piss.

Awww good for you mate! You even have a soulmate! Double good for you! (Doesnt make sense does it? lol oops!)

Phonicsdude

Socialising for most guys is anything but easy.

Oh... Ermm well it is for me, and I mean... I used to be the most shyest person EVER! Had no friends in school etc etc, and then Im not sure what happened, jus sorta flipped! All the time people are like "omg I cant believe your the same person!". I dunno, I think its one of those things, once you start you just cant stop...

Reply 12

Phonicsdude

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DaChronik

Oh... Ermm well it is for me, and I mean... I used to be the most shyest person EVER! Had no friends in school etc etc, and then Im not sure what happened, jus sorta flipped! All the time people are like "omg I cant believe your the same person!". I dunno, I think its one of those things, once you start you just cant stop...

Congratulations mate. Seriously mature!
The quality of your life is a lot better now, is it not!? So even if this is hard it is definitely worth persisting with because you cant imagine how much better your social life will be...having really good social skills opens an infinte amount of doors...and those who have to learn these skills or werent born with them appreciate and use them far more (efficiently!)..

Reply 13

Ducki

10

Tag

i met my soulmate in McDonalds.

So did I... Everyone else calls it a Big Mac though :frown:

Reply 14

Paperfolders57

so thats why they call it fast food! :p:

Reply 15

Strictly Business

14

Tag

i met my soulmate in McDonalds.
i am not taking the piss.

Ditto. The Big Mac and I have had an incredible relationship over the years.

Reply 16

Strictly Business

14

The broswer doesn't allow me to edit, for some reason:

Didn't realise someone had used the Big Mac joke. :laugh:

Reply 17

DaChronik

duckiciao

So did I... Everyone else calls it a Big Mac though :frown:

LOL!!! So true! Its my soulmate too! Did she/he/it not tell you? Oh ohh...

Phonicsdude

Congratulations mate. Seriously mature!
The quality of your life is a lot better now, is it not!? So even if this is hard it is definitely worth persisting with because you cant imagine how much better your social life will be...having really good social skills opens an infinte amount of doors...and those who have to learn these skills or werent born with them appreciate and use them far more (efficiently!)..

You are sooo right! I mean even when I was going to the Uni interviews, the interviewers would notice it, and would say that its is a trait that they would like to see people at their uni have. It helps with everything! Making complaints, getting your way... I mean EVERYTHING! Girls, (running out of things here) erm well you get the drift... But you gotta start somewhere...! It wont happen over night! Unless you go out clubbing all night or something lol

Reply 18

Airel

14

Anonymous

For the span of the past 6-7 months my social life has all but dried up, i havent gone out, my bunch of friends have all moved on (they went/are going work/college and im the only one going to 6th form), i rarely leave the house for anything other then biking or football, i seemingly never get asked to go out to any clubs/pubs etc, i have no gf, her and i split last year as she was moving further south..

Is it about time i just started going out by myself to meet new peeps or should i just try harder to fit in with my old m8s?

cos life indoors sucks ;/ :s-smilie:

Welcome to my Life.

Reply 19

DaChronik

Airel

Welcome to my Life.

Well your a bear, I dont think they have the most amazing social live... Well then again its the 21st Century! Get out theeerrrreee!!!

Social Life is failing :/

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