So...school trips and relationships.

Ok, I'm writing this is anon because the person I like comes to this site and I really don't want her to know.

I know, I know, I should just ask her out, unfortunately for me I'm not the most good looking or intelligent guy, or that experienced when it comes to women, so I've settled on just being really close friends and then going to a relationship in the future when we're older...yadayadaya...

I really don't think she fancies me, she thinks I'm funny but thats it, we're good friends and we speak all the time in school. Outside of school is a problem, the occasional convo on msn is quite common...

So I've seen LOADS of people in my school become closer after a school trip. I dont know if other people have noticed this but being out of the whole school situation and being in a different place seems to be the thing that brings people closer toghether.

I was just wondering what I should, our sixth form (80 students worth) is going to Thore Park on Tuesday and basically I want to sit next to her on the coach, hang out with her all the time in the park and sit next to her on rides...I know its sad but thats my plan on getting her...

So sorry for the long over-winded post but what would you do if you went on a school trip with someone you really fancied and wanted to get to know better? I'm thinking of just forcing her to sit next to me on the coach and the rides...dunno if that will work though.

Help! :frown:

Reply 1

Andy Peters

What if she wants to sit with her friends? Go for it, just don't crowd her like.

Reply 2

frank01277779

1

Been in a similar situation to you. Except I was pretty good friends with the girl already and obviously don't have so many problems in the looks department :wink:

Anyway, went on the school trip, she sat next to me at least one way, not sure about both, she fell asleep on my shoulder though, I think we flirted quite a bit that day. Next day I told her I loved her by text, nothing ever happened between us though...

Loads of background that I can't really be arsed going into but a summary: Friends -> flirting -> thinking I had a chance -> going on holiday with her and about 6 other friends -> she gets with my best friend on said holiday -> "depression" and me acting like an arse to her/him for a while -> things getting a bit ok and me getting a gf (a day before) this school trip and "i love you" text -> gf forgives me, we go out for about 18 months, during which I generally drift apart from most of my friends and don't talk to the school trip girl at all really. Me and gf split up before going to the same uni (fun that too).

Meh, I rambled. Just don't get in too deep is basically my advice to you I think.

Reply 3

strawberry

13

lol OP, my bf asked me out after senior trip...sucky timing but HECK! lol

Reply 4

Ron Stoppable

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Anonymous

Ok, I'm writing this is anon because the person I like comes to this site and I really don't want her to know.

I know, I know, I should just ask her out, unfortunately for me I'm not the most good looking or intelligent guy, or that experienced when it comes to women, so I've settled on just being really close friends and then going to a relationship in the future when we're older...yadayadaya...

It's not a frigging career path!

Besides, you don't get to choose when there's so many factors and people potentially involved. All you get is a certain degree of influence upon her feelings, congruent with the amount of objective action you take (instead of sitting on your butt babbling about your subjective thoughts online).

Settling, by definition, will never get you what you want. Of greater concern though, is your self-defeating depreciative streak. Nuke it - now! :biggrin:

Reply 5

Tyler Durden

17

Anonymous

Ok, I'm writing this is anon because the person I like comes to this site and I really don't want her to know.

I know, I know, I should just ask her out, unfortunately for me I'm not the most good looking or intelligent guy, or that experienced when it comes to women, so I've settled on just being really close friends and then going to a relationship in the future when we're older...yadayadaya...

I really don't think she fancies me, she thinks I'm funny but thats it, we're good friends and we speak all the time in school. Outside of school is a problem, the occasional convo on msn is quite common...

So I've seen LOADS of people in my school become closer after a school trip. I dont know if other people have noticed this but being out of the whole school situation and being in a different place seems to be the thing that brings people closer toghether.

I was just wondering what I should, our sixth form (80 students worth) is going to Thore Park on Tuesday and basically I want to sit next to her on the coach, hang out with her all the time in the park and sit next to her on rides...I know its sad but thats my plan on getting her...

So sorry for the long over-winded post but what would you do if you went on a school trip with someone you really fancied and wanted to get to know better? I'm thinking of just forcing her to sit next to me on the coach and the rides...dunno if that will work though.

Help! :frown:

Terrible, terrible, terrible, TERRIBLE (really really really ****ing BAD) attitude you've cultivated there. Not good at all!

Two things:

1. If you don't pluck up the courage to talk to her and show her you like her now, it will never happen.

2. You cannot force her to sit with you. You can make her WANT to sit next to you though. Anyway, you are quite dishonest in your post - you don't just want to sit with her, talk to her, enjoy the theme park with her - you want to kiss her, hold her and have a relationship with her. So why not try to achieve what you really want?

You're not that good looking or intelligent? If you believe that about yourself then everyone else will believe it about you too. If you act like you are good looking and intelligent then others will start to believe it.

Basically it might be too late already, but I think you need to talk to her, engage her in conversation (it's good if she finds you funny.... although bad if she finds you funny like I find you funny!) and make your feelings known.

Don't think that you can trick her into liking you - that's creepy, won't work and will piss her off. :smile:

Reply 6

Bitter..Sweet

Lol ive been in this situation before! well u should sit on the coach first and leave a seat next to u and just boldly tell her u saved it for her. Then start talking to her and the conversation should flow! On the way back from our trip he txted me asking if I would sit next to him, I did, and needless to say stuff happened. Message me if you've got any problems. But be confident hun! x

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for the tips and advice guys, yes I was planning on forcing her to sit with me, but I guess that won't work, so I'll just make her WANT to sit with me (and say "I saved you a seat etc.."). Just the fact of getting her away from her friends...

She keeps telling me that I'm avoiding her all the time and I dont seem like I want to chat to her, BUT shes not exactly like *come over and talk to me* in sixth form. So I told her that she seemed as if she was avoiding me and we made a deal NOT to avoid each other (well she made a deal, I just agreed with it). She really does seem like she likes my personality (not being big-headed, just talking outside of the box).

I guess I'm just playing it cool, but as you guys have mentioned...maybe a little too cool. When we talk we can talk for agesssssss and I just make her laugh throughout with my sarcastic comments etc. I've also shown her my serious side as well with some serious talk about our lives.

So yeah, it just seems like this trip is a really good chance to get to know her better and I guess I could get her...its just a little harder then other girls in the past.

Ooh look at me I'm rambling...*grumbles*

Reply 8

kimble

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Ron Stoppable

It's not a frigging career path!

;laugh;

I don't know why I'm laughing ... I have taken the route tht at present even though me and a guy like each other alot it would be best to wait untill were older ... oh dear

Reply 9

Tyler Durden

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Anonymous

Thanks for the tips and advice guys, yes I was planning on forcing her to sit with me, but I guess that won't work, so I'll just make her WANT to sit with me (and say "I saved you a seat etc.."). Just the fact of getting her away from her friends...

She keeps telling me that I'm avoiding her all the time and I dont seem like I want to chat to her, BUT shes not exactly like *come over and talk to me* in sixth form. So I told her that she seemed as if she was avoiding me and we made a deal NOT to avoid each other (well she made a deal, I just agreed with it). She really does seem like she likes my personality (not being big-headed, just talking outside of the box).

I guess I'm just playing it cool, but as you guys have mentioned...maybe a little too cool. When we talk we can talk for agesssssss and I just make her laugh throughout with my sarcastic comments etc. I've also shown her my serious side as well with some serious talk about our lives.

So yeah, it just seems like this trip is a really good chance to get to know her better and I guess I could get her...its just a little harder then other girls in the past.

Ooh look at me I'm rambling...*grumbles*

Sounds like you're not doing too badly. You just need to up the ante a bit; start flirting with her and laughing at the stupid stuff she does (she's a girl - there will be plenty to laugh at!) And enjoy yourself! :wink:

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