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Guys-what would make you approach a girl on the dancefloor?

futurist

Is it her moves, what she's wearing, how many friends she's dancing with? Discuss!

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

17

her looks and way shes presented

Reply 2

Ducki

10

Shortness of skirt :wink:

No, joking aside, if she is looking after herself and not being a tart, looks good, and seems mildly interested, I'll give it a go. Oh, and a girl dancing with a lot of friends can be considered to be out of bounds, as you have to fight through them to get to her. It just aint worth the hassle.

Reply 3

TheEntertainer

1

If I'm single or lack of sex, and have no other place to look for...

Well, futurist, it depends on the guys. I think that no matter where you are dancing, there will always be some guy who will approach you on the dancefloor. In most clubs, there are more horny males than females.

If you seem to have no success, try approaching the guys yourself... without overdoing obviously, or they'll get a heart attack.

:smile:

Good luck

Reply 4

Strictly Business

14

She has to be physically attractive. I don't know her or what she's like, so she has to tick all (majority, at least) the all the right boxes.

Also, as long as she doesn't seem like a stuck up bitch, then I'll go for it. You know who these are the way they turn other guys down with a look of disgust that he approached her. Not woah..

Reply 5

Yoda

12

futurist

Is it her moves, what she's wearing, how many friends she's dancing with? Discuss!

Attractive. Good dancing might help a little. Along with a short skirt and low top. But mostly attractiveness. Friends bother yoda not at all.

Reply 6

moves-my-world

8

Yoda

Attractive. Good dancing might help a little. Along with a short skirt and low top. But mostly attractiveness. Friends bother yoda not at all.

Are you the Sherminator in disguise?

Reply 7

shauny

Attraction for the girl, how well she's dancing doesn't matter, and friends don't matter too much either as there's ways to get rid of the friends while you get in.

..shauny

Reply 8

halfoflessthan50p

12

If she makes eye contact and smiles back at you

shauny

how well she's dancing doesn't matter

dont agree at all. Youre not gonna go up to a girl who looks like shes really bored and having a miserable time

Reply 9

Ducki

10

halfoflessthan50p

Youre not gonna go up to a girl who looks like shes really bored and having a miserable time

Possibly perhaps, because then you can use some really cheesy chat up line, like: 'Hey, you look bored. I'll show a good time' or similar :rolleyes:

Reply 10

Phonicsdude

19

Number one factor for NOT approaching in guys (in my experience) is attractiveness and how closed off the group of girls look. If the girls look like they are having a good time and dont need anybody else then they are more intimidating. You have 5 "problems" instead of one.

If you are a girl wanting guys to approach you then make yourself look good (different from being good looking), have a smile on your face, and be open (i.e. not too involved in your group-facing outwards...or be by yourself...).
This will attract more attention and you'll get approached more.

Reply 11

Phonicsdude

19

duckiciao

Possibly perhaps, because then you can use some really cheesy chat up line, like: 'Hey, you look bored. I'll show a good time' or similar :rolleyes:

It isnt cheesy if you genuinely are trying to spread the party.

But it is generally futile. If you are having a good time then dont lower your energy or waste your time hunting down chicks not having a good time.

Reply 12

Mutant

6

In regards to the friends, depends on how many of them there are and how many mates im with, but usually the straight up physical attraction will be enough along with the booze will be enough to give me the brass to go to her.

Reply 13

PatchTheCatch

6

If she beckons me over xD
I'm very timid so I would basically stand my grround unless invited. Even then I probably wouldn't becuase I'm a loser ^^
Still I have time to get some big balls

Reply 14

Caribou

1

her face. Couldn't care less abotu what she was wearing, but you can tell a lot from someones face.

Reply 15

TopSortedMadForIt

7

Well, assuming she's fit enough, probably what she's wearing....the shorter and more revealing, the better chance you tend to have....doesn't always work like that of course, but its a good guide.

Reply 16

Yoda

12

Often it is easier with the friends there.

Reply 17

bluenoxid

15

Loud Music, smoky atmosphere, so I have to shout

LOVE! YOU HAVE SOME TOILET ROLL STUCK TO YOUR HEEL

*slap* :biggrin:

Reply 18

PhilMc

16

If I made eye contact for longer that a second?

I dunno, it just happens IMO.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

futurist

Is it her moves, what she's wearing, how many friends she's dancing with? Discuss!

Hmmm, having been single for most of secondary school and first years here at uni, I've kind of got used to approaching girls, getting numbers, meeting up a few times and then, once they know me, it usually ends there :frown:

LOL apart from a few luckier stories :smile:

I've got a thing about meeting girls in bars. I've always found it more appealing than meeting people through friends. I know friends of mine who just hang out with a girl for a few months, someone they're not really into, not their type, and then one day, probably out of boredom, they try it on. Maybe I'm a superficial ******* but I find it so much more exciting to be proactive about the girl I go for. In a bar or a club at least you decide who you approach and if there's a mutual attraction and you realise you have something on common, I think it's a great base to work on. It doesn't always work but when it does...

I'm not even a confident guy, far from it but one day, I remember being in a bar and just thinking "**** this, I'm going" and since then, it's been easier.

Usually, it's not so much about the girls in the club rather than the people I'm with. If I'm with a group of guys and girls, I won't bother approaching anyone, in case the girls think I'm some kind of predator. It's when I'm with a good group of mates, had a few but not so many that I can't even tell which girl's attractive, that I'll approach a girl.

It helps if the girl isn't surrounded by a group of guys. That's pretty off-putting (quite often that's the main reason why the girl has her male friends there).

If the girl dances pretty well, it makes it more interesting but it's not really a priority: I've pulled girls who were absolutely crap at dancing. I'm not the best dancer so if a girl is doing some crazy dance moves, it's more intimidating than anything else: nice to watch but worth approaching?

So basically, usually a girl who is with a group of female friends, rather hot but not to the point that she's too intimidating. It doesn't really matter how she's dressed, because a cute girl stands no matter how much layers of make up she's got on or how slutty her dress is. Usually if it's a bit sexy, it's nice but no need to go over the top.

Guys-what would make you approach a girl on the dancefloor?

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