Western smugness over 'freedom/tolerance' in marital affairs.

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What good does it actually do them at the end of the day? One can clearly see all the angsty threads over in the H/R forum about things like who is and who isn't a creep, what a friend zone is and this that and the other. Freedom and tolerance are actually totally counterproductive; so many adult goras are crippled without their online dating or their drunken clubbing paralysed for fear of offending a would be conquest.

I say *******s to the whole ****ing thing and just do what the Indians do - leave it to your parents/the community. If its blatantly obvious to the extended family that you have two similar individuals from the same class with similar education/professional acumen. Then why not just leave it to them to see this process through in an organised way. Why stick to this failing dogma of individual freedom and pissing about at the local disco when your olds can do do a much job of matchmaking on your behalf.
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What good does it actually do them at the end of the day? One can clearly see all the angsty threads over in the H/R forum about things like who is and who isn't a creep, what a friend zone is and this that and the other. Freedom and tolerance are actually totally counterproductive; so many adult goras are crippled without their online dating or their drunken clubbing paralysed for fear of offending a would be conquest.

I say *******s to the whole ****ing thing and just do what the Indians do - leave it to your parents/the community. If its blatantly obvious to the extended family that you have two similar individuals from the same class with similar education/professional acumen. Then why not just leave it to them to see this process through in an organised way. Why stick to this failing dogma of individual freedom and pissing about at the local disco when your olds can do do a much job of matchmaking on your behalf.
Nah, I'm sweet
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Ah yes, the Socialist approach to marriage: 'I can't be bothered finding a partner so I'll just trust my parents/community to do it'. I would much rather have the freedom to choose my own partner and live with the consequences of said choice.
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(Original post by UB2 Representin)
What good does it actually do them at the end of the day? One can clearly see all the angsty threads over in the H/R forum about things like who is and who isn't a creep, what a friend zone is and this that and the other. Freedom and tolerance are actually totally counterproductive; so many adult goras are crippled without their online dating or their drunken clubbing paralysed for fear of offending a would be conquest.

I say *******s to the whole ****ing thing and just do what the Indians do - leave it to your parents/the community. If its blatantly obvious to the extended family that you have two similar individuals from the same class with similar education/professional acumen. Then why not just leave it to them to see this process through in an organised way. Why stick to this failing dogma of individual freedom and pissing about at the local disco when your olds can do do a much job of matchmaking on your behalf.
I suspect that my olds' ability to matchmake would indeed be do do.
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Because it's MY life. I will live my life how I want to, NOT how they want me to. If I make mistakes that's fine. Mistakes are part of what it means to be alive. Without them how would we learn? I want to be free to make my own mistakes so that I can continue to grow as an individual.

If you're happy to live as a puppet then good for you. But don't you dare try and force everyone else to live the same way.
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My parents dont know me very well
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Yah of course arranged marriage is better. Otherwise man is just gonna for nice t&a; its very difficult to be impartial when it comes to your own ****.
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Well, it's all good if the "community" do matchmake well. But otherwise, I'd rather make my own mistakes than be trapped by the mistakes of others...
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Ah yes, the Socialist approach to marriage: 'I can't be bothered finding a partner so I'll just trust my parents/community to do it'. I would much rather have the freedom to choose my own partner and live with the consequences of said choice.
What on earth is socialist about that?
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What on earth is socialist about that?
It was a joke more than anything. But to answer your point, the reference was to a common theme that can be found in both ideas: common decision-making. Rather than the individual having the final say, it's a communal or social decision.
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Arranged marriages are converse to natural selection. So civilisations with normal dating cultures should naturally be more advanced.
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Arranged marriages are converse to natural selection. So civilisations with normal dating cultures should naturally be more advanced.
Agreed.
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