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    I sent a photo of myself topless to someone last year. The person in question isn't making any threats to leak it, but we don't talk anymore and it worries me that he might still have it. I just sent him a message asking him to delete it if he hadn't already, I lied and said I was underage when I took it because I thought it might help. I have a picture of him in an email somewhere too. Any advice?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I sent a photo of myself topless to someone last year.
    Well, that's your life over.
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    I lied and said I was underage
    Don't bloody say that!

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    That kyed ain't gonna delete nothing, even if he says he will: he's lying.
    But, seeing as you have a nudey of him, at least you can threaten him back if he threatens you.
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    Well, that's your life over.

    Don't bloody say that!

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    That kyed ain't gonna delete nothing, even if he says he will: he's lying.
    But, seeing as you have a nudey of him, at least you can threaten him back if he threatens you.
    I had already said that before i posted :/ I thought it would make him less inclined to keep it.
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    If the previous poster isn't being silly, ignore them - your life isn't over and saying that you were underage (this probably translates as 'under 18') isn't going to cause the person you sent it too any problems.

    It's a topless photo: unless you're so famous you've got the paparazzi hanging outside your door or are part of something that thinks women shouldn't have breasts, no-one else is going to care.

    Treat it as a 'don't send private photos to someone else' lesson.
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    Actually, telling him you were underage could have very serious consequences. It was a very unwise thing to say. You put someone unnecessarily at risk of arrest and being on sex offenders register. You also put yourself at risk of charges for lying about sexual exploitation/abuse. It's a serious offence to hold child porn; which you actually state he would have by you being "underage". Thereby you would be a victim in this case.

    You shouldn't manipulate an outcome by lying about age where the consequences are so serious.
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    Notwithstanding the fact that you've also added fuel to the idea that girls and women lie about abuse to get their own way or because they've done something they're ashamed of.

    Really you should be more ashamed at the level you stooped to. Rather than the sending of your boobs to a bloke.
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    Notwithstanding the fact that you've also added fuel to the idea that girls and women lie about abuse to get their own way or because they've done something they're ashamed of.

    Really you should be more ashamed at the level you stooped to. Rather than the sending of your boobs to a bloke.
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    I think there's a certain amount of exaggeration going on here. The OP has not gone to the police or anyone else saying 'underage photo'. (Even if she had, one topless photo sent by her is not going to result in a dawn raid. Particularly when they do the maths around her age now and the way the photo was taken by her last year.)

    People do silly things when they're worried, and this was in that category, not worse.
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    People do silly things, yes. They still have consequences. What if that person didn't see the text before someone else did? That person might ring the police.

    Deleted messages are not necessarily lost forever.

    Yes it's worse case scenario but it doesn't mean it shouldn't be mentioned. It's no more exaggerated a response than Internet safety lessons for children suddenly becoming a lesson in how not to be accidental sex register names.

    It doesn't matter if an investigation eventually clears someone. By then people will have heard that they've been arrested/brought in for questioning in relation to child porn. Even being cleared, there will still be some people around the accused who will believe they were guilty.

    To be honest, I'm not sure why I have to justify explaining how serious this could be. It's not okay just because it hasn't (as far as we are aware) resulted in further action. Unless the OP followed up with the truth or would happen to know if that person had been questioned. The victim wouldn't necessarily be contacted yet. Especially if the accused admits..because how can he deny without knowing it's not real.

    I'm hoping showing the seriousness encourages the OP and anyone reading that they should be honest. And the silly part was sending the photo to someone in the first place if they had no control over whether it was deleted or not.
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    Communication is probably the best thing. I'd mention it to him. But in the grand scheme of things, one picture isn't that big of a deal.
 
 
 
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