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    Hi all! My first post on TSR, I probably should have introduced myself first but I'll get round to it eventually.
    I'm 17 doing AS levels in a mixed 6th form, the issue is my secondary school was segregated to boys only so for the vast majority of my teenage years I've essentially had no exposure to the opposite sex. Up until before year 12 I was always very sociable and approachable and could easily converse with others but since starting year 12 I've been a nervous wreck since September and only recently have I actually started engaging with people albeit on occasion :/ I can't converse with anyone I don't already know unless they start the conversation and I seem to go out of my way to avoid eye contact with people. I'm very short and skinny for my age too which may be a contributing factor to this. What's also embarrassing is I've started to sweat a lot more recently too :/ I can't contribute in lessons anymore like I could in secondary school and I'm actually getting worried my teachers will think less of me because of this. I need help putting myself out there and actually being able to talk to people again and most notably girls since this is my first year since primary school with them! :/
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    Hi all! My first post on TSR, I probably should have introduced myself first but I'll get round to it eventually.
    I'm 17 doing AS levels in a mixed 6th form, the issue is my secondary school was segregated to boys only so for the vast majority of my teenage years I've essentially had no exposure to the opposite sex. Up until before year 12 I was always very sociable and approachable and could easily converse with others but since starting year 12 I've been a nervous wreck since September and only recently have I actually started engaging with people albeit on occasion :/ I can't converse with anyone I don't already know unless they start the conversation and I seem to go out of my way to avoid eye contact with people. I'm very short and skinny for my age too which may be a contributing factor to this. What's also embarrassing is I've started to sweat a lot more recently too :/ I can't contribute in lessons anymore like I could in secondary school and I'm actually getting worried my teachers will think less of me because of this. I need help putting myself out there and actually being able to talk to people again and most notably girls since this is my first year since primary school with them! :/
    Hi, noticed you haven't had any responese. Sometimes posts get a bit hidden amoung everything else. I'm not great with self esteem myself, but try looking at mind.org or other sites for advice. You could also talk to your teachers and/ or doctor if you feel it's starting to get in the way of things.
    Teenage years is the time of a lot of physical and emotional change and there is nothing to be ashamed about if you feel you need tome support. Oh and the sweatting thing is something that could be stress related. Pharmacies have strong anti-perspirants that may help. Talk to a doc or pharmacist about it.

    Where it's a change for you especially I would suggest seeing a doctor. Things like this have a nasty habbit of gettig worse so it's good to get support as soon as you can to stop it getting too much. Most schools will also have some sort of counselling service for students that you could ask about.

    Remember that you do matter and that you can and will feel better. It may take a while but just hold onto that.
 
 
 
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