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    My mother has been an alcoholic since i was around 12 years old. I am now 20 and at university but have had a difficult year as I live at home and have had to deal with the problems that come with alcoholism. My mother has been in a rehab facility, will lie around drunk throughout the day and cause the family very high amounts of stress and worry. She has been arrested for drink driving to give you and idea of the scale of the problem and will drink for MONTHS without sobering up. She disappears and won't contact anyone for days which has our family in an incredible state of stress and worry. I have spoken to my lecturer about this as i was finding it difficult to get my work completed and he was very accommodating. I have exams this week and have been offered to sit them in August to allow me more time to revise due to the home situation. My mother has been sober around 3 weeks now and for some reason I am feeling guilty about the possibility of sitting the exams in August, almost as if I would be taking advantage unfairly. I think I may feel like this as this is a situation a have dealt with for years but I am aware of the serious effect it has on me as people comment to me that I look unwell with the stress as much as I don't want to admit it to myself. Anyones opinion on the situation of taking the exams in August would be appreciated. Would it be unfair for me to do this?
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    I don't think it's unfair. They wouldn't offer it if it was.
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    I don't think it's unfair. They wouldn't offer it if it was.
    Thanks, that was helpful
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    There is (and I can't remember the name, sorry) a charity who helps relatives of people with alcohol problems. Have you ever got into contact with them?
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    no, i dont think that thats unfair. as said before, they wouldnt offer it if it was ʕ´•ᴥ•`ʔ
    while three weeks is a lot for someone like your mum, and im very glad shes been sober for that long, its still not a long time to have gotten the revision in to get the grades you could if you hadnt been in this situation.

    since you do seem as though you do want to take the exams in august, i really personally recommend you do. i think itll be better for you in the long run. in the meantime, please dont worry about whether youre taking advantage of this, because youre not.

    i hope that youre alright op, and that for whenever you take your exams, that they go well.☆
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    Hey, I dont think its unfair that you will take the exams in August. Personally, I have been coping with my alcoholic father since the start of my university, which lead me to failing 5 of my exams and re-sitting them in August. It is better that you take more time with the exams as it will take a lot of that stress down.
 
 
 
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