Relaxing during sex

Im 18 and 1st couple of times with the girlfriend aint really worked from my side of things...

I have no problems "getting it up" if im alone and I do watch alot of porn when I get bored (once a day, with all that entails), and few problems if im with her, messing about, whatever, but when it comes to the "deed" im never really interested. Once it worked well but I was completly off my face with booze, and we kinda got disturbed by people who you dont want to be disturbed by, but hey long story not very relevant. Its really been winding me up and she hasnt helped despite meaning well, becuase her last bf (and only other partner) was at it 3 times a night and was "like a robot" in her words.... Also despite being confident in crowds and when im out, im a very confident person, but get me without my kit on and I feel terrible, so insecure its stupid. Acne dosnt help, but hopefully some Roaccutane once my GP gets round to it will sort that out.

So basically any advice; I do want to give up a bit on the porn but I can sort that out myself I think when im too busy over summer to think about it. Beside getting absolutly wasted at her place when theres bit of time I dont really know what to do? Its more annoying than owt else, cos it should be great, but isnt!!!

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calluna

start by cutting down on the porn so as you want it more, then take it slow and build up to it, the anticipation with make it eaiser and instincts will sorta take over. the more you worry about it the harder it will be. that help?

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